Ayini ama-idealists?
Uma indoda ingu-idealist, akudingeki ukuba alinde ukukhashelwa nokukhwabanisa. Abafana abanjalo abafaki into enjengokuthi "uthando". Umfana omuhle kakhulu futhi ukhetha ngokucophelela intombazane. Ushintshaniswa ngobuhlobo obungathí sina nobulili ngobusuku obulodwa. Umuntu onjalo akanandaba nalokhu. Bonke abangane bakhe bangasho ukuthi akudingeki baphile, bathathe konke okuvela ekuphileni, kodwa akasoze abalalele. Ama-idealists anombono wabo kanye nezimiso zabo, ezihlala ziqondiswa, ngisho noma ziphikisana nombono womphakathi. Ngakho-ke, uma i-idealist ikukhetha, khona-ke imtholile ngempela lowo efuna ukuphila kuyo yonke impilo yakhe. Ngombono, imiqondo enjengokuthi "umndeni", "izingane", "uthando", "ukwethembeka" kubaluleke kakhulu. Umuntu onomqondo omelela ubuhlobo obunjengamantombazane amaningi abuke emabhalweni kanye nasezinkundleni zothando. Umfana onjalo uyozikhulula ngempela. Uma ethanda, kungenxa yokuphila. Umuntu onjalo ufuna ukuthi umndeni wakhe ungadingi lutho, ngoba kufanele ube ophelele. Uzozama, usebenze, udale uzwela. Uma emibonweni yakhe kukhona futhi ukuthanda, khona-ke umfana ongeke akhathele ukucula i-serenade ukuze abhale amavesi. Ufuna konke kube okuphelele. Ngokwemvelo, emqondweni omuhle womndeni nobuhlobo, akalokothi aphikisiwe. Yingakho umuntu onjalo engasoze aye esinyathelweni esinjalo. Uqinisekile ngempela ukuthi umkakhe uyona engcono, ngakho-ke funa umuntu ohlangothini. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukukhwabaniswa kwalowo muntu ukuhlazeka, ngoba kuqinisekisa ukuthi akakwazi ukukhetha intombazane enhle.
Ama-idealists akholelwa ekuhle nasebusweni. Bazama ngempela ukusiza wonke umuntu ngaso sonke isikhathi. Umuntu onjalo akasoze acindezelwa ukucasuka nezihlobo zakhe. I-idealist ingafaniswa ne-knight ngezikhali, ezingeke zidlule ngendodakazi yenkosi eye yawela enkingeni. Ngeke sisisindise ingxenye yesigungu, kodwa ngoba nje wonke umuntu ojwayelekile kufanele akwenze. Zonke izinkolelo azizinzi lutho kakhulu. Azikaze zikhathazeke ngokwazo njengoba zikhathazeka ngabanye. Noma kunjalo, ama-idealists akholelwa kubantu. Bazama ngempela ukubona into enhle kumuntu. Futhi uma bebona lokhu, bangakwazi ukufakazela izenzo eziningi ezingalungile ngesikhathi, kodwa benethemba lokuthi okuhle kuzonqoba ububi. Ukuze i-idealist, imigomo eminingi yempilo yanamuhla nemithetho ayitholakali. Uyoba umuntu "ozophosa" ukuze afeze umgomo wakhe. Abalingiswa baqotho kakhulu, ngoba bayaqiniseka ukuthi umuntu omuhle, umuntu omuhle kufanele athembeke futhi alungile. Ngezinye izikhathi abaqapheli ngisho nalokhu, kodwa ngokungaqondakali banemibono abazama ukuyifanisa, ngisho noma bona bayayiphika.
Kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi akuwona wonke ama-idealists alungele ukuvuma ukuthi anjalo. Abaningi babo bakholelwa ukuthi empeleni bangabantu abavamile kakhulu abangakholwa yizindinganiso futhi abafuni ukuhambisana. Kodwa izenzo zalabafana zikhombisa okuphambene nalokho. Ngendlela, yilokho abaqondisayo abaqotho kakhulu futhi abaqotho. Iqiniso liwukuthi benza ngokufanele futhi bazame ukwenza konke okusemandleni, hhayi ngenxa yokuthi bayayidinga, kodwa ngoba balalela inhliziyo yabo, ebatshela ukuthi benze kanjalo.
I-idealist ayinaso nabangani abaningi. Ngokuqondile, empilweni yabo bafinyelela kubantu abaningi, kodwa iningi labo badumazekile, ngoba alihambisani nemigomo. Kodwa labo abagcina besondelene nama-idealists bangabangane beqiniso abazobasiza ngaso sonke isikhathi, bazobeka njalo amahlombe abo futhi bangashiyi enkingeni. Embuthanweni oseduze kakhulu we-idealists ngabantu abalungile kuphela. Ngokubi, la madoda asho kuze kube phakade. Ngakho-ke, uma uhlangana ne-idealist, ungaqiniseka ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi indawo yakhe inhle, iyanele futhi iyathakazelisa. Ngakho-ke, ungaqiniseka ukuthi izinkabi zakho zizohlala zinezinto zokukhuluma ngazo.
Imikhuba nokuziphatha kwe-idealist nayo iphakeme kakhulu. Yebo, akuwona wonke umuntu obeka phambili oletha isandla sakhe esitokisini futhi usiza ngesembatho, kodwa noma yikuphi okusobala akusoze avumela ukuhlambalaza owesifazane esidlangalaleni, afunge ekhelini lakhe, ahlazise, ahlambalaze, axoxe nabanye ngezinto zakhe ezimbi, futhi ahlekise. Lokhu kuziphatha kuhambisani ngokuphelele nemibono yakhe. Akakwazi nje ukuvumela isimo sengqondo esinjalo, ngoba sihlambalaza. Abalingiswa bahlonipha kakhulu abesifazane futhi bazama njalo ukuphatha kahle. Ngeke uke ubone i-idealist ohlela ukuxoshwa nomkakhe phambi kwenkampani, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu, waphakamisa isandla kuso.
Kodwa, njengoba sekuyaziwa, ezweni lethu akukho lutho olungcono, ngakho-ke, lapha futhi kukhona imishayo yabo.
Ingabe ama-idealists amabi?
Ama-idealists akholelwa ngempela othandweni futhi azwela kakhulu kuwo. Kodwa badinga isimo sengqondo esifanayo nasesigamu sabo. I-idealist inomsindo omkhulu ngisho nangomlingane omncane. Ubuqili umuntu onjalo ngeke asithethelelwe. Angakwazi ukuqhubeka nokuthanda owesifazane impilo yakhe yonke, kodwa ngeke kube khona ubudlelwane naye.
Uma i-idealist idumala kumuntu, ngakho-ke cishe akunakwenzeka ukuwuthembela futhi uhloniphe futhi. Kumuntu onjalo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abantu abakuzungezile bafanane nemigomo yakhe. I-Prichemon ingahlala isikhathi eside ikholelwa ukuthi liyiqiniso. Kodwa uma ngesinye isikhathi eqaphela ukuthi empeleni konke kuhlukile, ngakho-ke, cishe kungenzeka nje ukuyeka ukumbumbana nomuntu. Yeka ukuthi i-idealist ayikwazi yini ukuthethelela akuzona abantu abanjalo abanombono ongasoze bakhohlwa. Unesilinganiso sakhe samagugu nokuthi yini abanye abayibona njengento engalungile encane kuyingozi kuye.
Abahlonishwayo bahlonipha kakhulu abesifazane, kodwa badinga isimo sengqondo esifanayo. Uma ephula umthetho womuntu ohloniphekile, khona-ke kuyoba yinto enamandla kakhulu ukuthi akakwazi ukuthethelela umuntu iminyaka noma ayeke ukukhuluma naye kuze kube phakade. Ngisho noma ukuhlambalaza okunjalo kwakuyihlaya futhi akekho ofuna ukuwuhlukumeza, i-idealist ngeke isakwazi ukuthethelela. Uvele ehlola yena yedwa, izinto eziningi zibonakala zingamukeleki kuye.
Ngakho-ke, uma sikhuluma ukuthi kuhle noma kubi yini ukuba yi-idealist, khona-ke akunakwenzeka ukuba uthole impendulo engavamile. Ngokungangabazeki, ababukeli babenezinhlanganisela eziningi, kodwa kunezimo ezinzima. Ngakho-ke, wonke umuntu kufanele azikhethele yena ngokwakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyakhangisa lezi zinsisi noma uphendule amaminithi.