Muva nje, abamele abesilisa ababuthakathaka baye bavakashela kakhulu isazi sengqondo. Umbuzo ovame ukuwubuza ukuthi umyeni wami uyeka ukungifuna, yini engingayenza? Wayeka ukungithanda?
Kwase kudlule isikhathi esithile ukukholelwa ukuzinikela ekuzijabuliseni ngokocansi - i-whim ngempelakazi. Futhi ukuthi ubulili abukwazi ukufuna umuntu - into ejwayelekile kunazo zonke futhi akufanele ukwesabe. Siphakamisa ukuthi sicabangele izimbangela ezibangelwa ukubandwa komuntu ngokobulili kanye nesisombululo sabo.
Isisulu sokuziphatha kanye nezinkinga ezihlobene nezakhi zofuzo
Indoda eyayibanjwe umthwalo wezinkinga ezinjalo izoqala ukubhekana nobunzima ngendlela yezocansi. Amaphesenti amathathu emadodeni anesimo sezinto eziphathelene nobulili nomthethosisekelo wobuthakathaka obuthakathaka futhi abathinteki ngokocansi. Izinkinga ezinjalo zingabangela ukucindezela ubulili bendodana, ngenxa yokuqeda ngokweqile. Kubuye kwenzeke nokuthi ingane ikhula endaweni ehlukile yobulili. Konke lokhu kuyathinta nokuthuthukiswa kobulili. Amadoda anjalo angakwazi ukushada, kodwa ahlale ehlangabezana nobunzima ekusebenzelaneni nabesifazane, kokubili kwengqondo nangokomzimba.
Kukhona indlela eyodwa kuphela yokuphuma: awukwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga ezinjalo wena, ngakho-ke, landela ukudluliselwa odokotela abanobuchwepheshe, njengokwelapha ngokocansi noma kwengqondo. Umkami kumele asize kule nkinga futhi asekele umthandi wakhe.
I-degree degree neurosis
Umsebenzi wezocansi uthonywe yizici eziningi. Nge-nimotnosyatsya: okuhlangenwe nakho okuqhubekayo ezindaweni ezihlukahlukene zokuphila kwabo, ukukhathazeka ngokuthi konke kuzohamba kahle futhi ngabe kuzoba nemiphumela engalungile, kanye nesimo sengqondo esibi sabanye. Ngaphambi komthwalo onzima kunzima ukumelana.
Okukhiphayo: ukuqeda izici eziholela enkingeni.
Izinkinga ezivela ngezikhathi ezithile
Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ukungabi nesifiso kuhlotshaniswa nokunciphisa. Indoda iqondisa amandla akhe ngokobulili komunye umzila. Umehluko we-neurosis wukuthi lapha indoda ayizwa imizwelo emibi. Izibonelo zemisebenzi enjalo: ukubonakala komsebenzi omude ihora, ukuzilibazisa okusha, ithuba lokufeza umkhulelwe, isibonelo, ukwakha indlu yakho.
Okukhiphayo: ngemuva kokuqeda umsebenzi wakho, kuzoba indawo yayo.
Ubudala
Akuyona imfihlo kunoma ubani oneminyaka yobudala, indoda inzima kakhulu ukudlulisela umthwalo ovamile wocansi. Uma kulesi sikhathi, lo mlingani uzodinga okungaphezulu kumuntu kunokuba angamnika, angase abe nezinkinga, futhi lo muntu uzokwenza konke ukugwema ucansi.
Ukuphuma: owesifazane kufanele alinganise ngempela isimo. Ukuhlambalaza, izinyembezi ezihlala njalo, ngeke ukwazi ukushintsha isimo. Uma indoda yakho endala, xoza le nkinga kuye futhi uthole isisombululo sokumzungezile.
Inkinga emndenini. Izifiso zobulili ezingafuneki
Uma umuntu eyekile ukuzwa ukhululekile nomkakhe, unenkinga. Ubuyisela kabusha izindinganiso eziningi ezibalulekile, ubulili ngenxa ye-neugustrachivaet ukukhanya nokuzimela kwayo, akukho lutho olusha, ngaphandle kwezikhundla ezifanayo alishintshi, ukucabanga okuningi akuzange kubonakale futhi ubulili buya ngokungajwayelekile.
Phuma: Xoxa njalo nendoda. Ucabanga ukuthi wazi konke ngaye, futhi ungakwazi ukuqagela noma yiziphi izifiso zakhe, kodwa lokhu akusikho okwenzekayo.
Amadoda amaningi akholelwa ukuthi abakwazi ukubonisa ubuthakathaka nokukhononda ngezinkinga zabo. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukuthula ngeke kube ngokwanele, futhi lokhu kuzobangela ukubhujiswa kombuthano owodwa oqinile.
Khuluma nomuntu ngalokho angathanda ukukushintsha empilweni, lokho akuthandayo nokungakujabulisi. Yibani umngane wakhe othembekile kanye nomqondo wezengqondo, ongabanika zonke izinkinga zakhe. Khuluma ngocansi. Yazi ukuthi akasasajabuli futhi uthatha isinyathelo esisebenzayo.
Ubuqili
Izibonakaliso eziyinhloko ezikhuluma ngokungathengiswa komuntu oshade naye kungase zande ukucasuka komuntu wakho, ukugwema izingxoxo ezingenangqondo nokungafuni ukulandela izifiso zakho.
Phuma: uma wesaba ukubhekana neqiniso, zama ukuqhuba ingxoxo ye-prophylactic nendoda. Zama ukubona inkinga. Mhlawumbe ubuhlobo obusha, lokhu kuwumzamo wokubalekela izinkinga. Futhi mhlawumbe uthando olusha. Yini alwela, nokuthi ufuna ukuza kuphi? Ukuqhubeka kulokhu, udwebe iziphetho ngokuqhubeka komshado noma ukubhujiswa.