Kodwa umuntu wanamuhla uyazi kahle incazelo yegama elithi "ukucindezeleka". Cishe ube nomuzwa "onenzuzo" wakhe. Ukukhathala nokucasula sekuye kwaba yinto evamile kithi. Ukuqwashisa kwethu kunzima kakhulu, okunikezwa yizinhlelo ezithile zethelevishini namafilimu, amaphephandaba kanye nomagazini, ukukhulumisana nabantu njengesivinini nokukhathazeka njengathi. Ingqondo yethu ayikwazi ukugaya ukugeleza kolwazi oluhluke kakhulu, futhi iwela ekucindezelekeni nokudangala, ukucaca komcabango kuyanyamalala, amandla okudala nokuphefumula kuqhume.
Sibhekene nalokhu futhi sizizwa sisondelene ngokomzimba nangokomoya, silahlekelwa ukulala futhi asikwazi ukuphumula futhi sikhohlwe ngobunzima bokuphila. Siqondisa imizamo yethu yokulahla lesi simo esibi, sisebenzisa usizo lokuvuselela izindlela, sizama ngazo zonke izindlela ukujabulisa nokuphazamisa. Ngezinye izikhathi siyakwazi ukufeza umgomo, futhi singajabula ... isikhathi esincane. Sizolile, kukhona ukwaneliseka ngempilo. Kodwa maduzane konke lokhu kudlula, kuthukuthele, futhi usesho lwenjabulo, ukuthula nokunethezeka kuqala futhi. Siphinde siphishekele ukubonakala okusha, izinzwa namathuba. Siyavuma amaphutha, ukuhlaziya, ukubikezela nokuphupha. Ukucindezeleka nokuhlupheka. Ukuphila kudlula ngesivunguvungu esiqhubekayo.
Singayithola kanjani indlela yokuphinde sizethembe, umuzwa wokuzithiba futhi ubuyisele ukuvumelana kwangaphakathi? Lokhu kudinga ukufunda ukuphumula. Ake sizame ukuyeka, sibambe umoya futhi siphumule. Vala ukuqapha bese uvale amehlo akho. Ake silalele, yikuphi umsindo osizungezile, sizozizwa, ngalokho okuthunga isikhala esiseduze nathi sigcwele, sizolalela izinzwa. Ake sibone ukuthi isikhathi eside singakwazi yini ukuhlala kanje futhi sijabulele isikhundla sethu esingenakufuduka futhi singenzi lutho?
Ungaqiniseka, ngeke kuhlale isikhathi eside. Ekuqaleni, cishe, umzuzu nje kuphela, bese sizofuna ukushintsha isimo, futhi ekhanda kuzovela ingqikithi yonke yemicabango ehlukahlukene kakhulu. Uma sihlala isikhashana futhi sibuke imicabango yethu, sizosangelwa ukuthi zingaki zazo nokuthi zingaholela kude kangakanani. Uma ngabe sesizwile ngengozi eziningi "izingxoxo" zangaphakathi ezihamba ngaphakathi komunye umuntu, kungenzeka ukuthi sinqume ukuthi lo muntu uyingcosana. Futhi umfudlana wemiqondo enjalo uphuthuma ikhanda lethu ngokungaphezi, ngisho nasephusheni, ungasivumeli ukuba sikhohlwe ngobunzima bokuphila, sizibonakalisa ngendlela yamaphupho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, emicabangweni yethu, sihlale sikhona esikhathini esizayo, siphupha futhi sihlela okuthile, noma sisesesikhathini esidlule, sikhumbula futhi sihlaziya okuthile. Manje ingqondo yethu ihamba, ikhuluma njalo, ibuye isuke impilo yethu kithi, isenze sikwazi ukujabulela lokho okusinika sonke isikhathi. Ngaphandle kokuthi ubuchopho bethu abupheli, buhlala njalo, futhi lokhu akunakwenzeka kodwa kuthinte impilo yethu, ngoba konke esikubona ngaphakathi kubonakala ngaphandle (njengoba besho, zonke izifo ezivela emithanjeni).
Futhi, akekho, i-psychoanalyst iyakwazi ukuphula lo mbuthano ononya. Lokhu kuphela ngokwethu: kumelwe sifunde ukuphumula. Ngendlela, kusungulwe ukuthi abantu abakwazi ukuphumula, abaphendulela odokotela, ngokungafani nabo bonke.
Sekuyisikhathi sokuqhubekela phambili esenzweni esakhayo. Njengoba kungelula ukufinyelela esimweni sokulingana kwangaphakathi njengoba siphelile, sizohamba ngalesi siqondiso ngokushelelayo, kodwa ngokuqhubekayo, ngaphandle kwalokho ngeke sizuze impumelelo. Okokuqala, sizoba nesikhathi esincane samahhala ohlelweni lwethu lokuphila olumatasa (imizuzu engu-30 ngosuku ngokwanele), noma ngabe siqinisekile ukuthi asikho isikhathi sokukhululeka. Cabanga nje ukuthi lesi sikhathi senzelwe ukususa isimo esingenampilo nesilimazayo sengqondo kanye nokusiza ukufeza isimo sengqondo sokuzijabulisa nokujabula, bese isikhathi sokukhululeka sitholakala ngokushesha. Vumelana ukuthi uma sihlezi kukhompyutheni, embhedeni ku-TV noma efonini kuphela isigamu sehora kancane, akukho nhlekelele eyokwenzeka.
Ukuze uthole ukuzilibazisa, noma nini isikhathi sosuku kufanelekile, kubalulekile ukuthi lokhu kuvame ngokwanele, hhayi ngezikhathi ezithile. Ngakho kancane kancane umkhuba omuhle uzokhula, ngaphandle kwalokhu sizoqala ukuzwa kabi, njengokungathi asikwazanga ukuxubha amazinyo emva kokudla. Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa zokuzilibazisa sizobona ukuthi impilo iyathuthukisa kuzo zonke izinkomba. Abangane nezihlobo bazoba nesithakazelo, akusikho eholidini noma ngabe sivakashele.
Kodwa akeke sigijime phambili. Ngakho, sithole isikhathi, manje, ukuze siphumelele ezikhathini ezimnandi zokuphumula, akudingeki ukuthi usungulwe noma yimaphi amadivayisi akhethekile. Isikhala esincane esithulile, esithulile, ibhola elincane kanye nesigaba somhlaba ophezulu. Kudingekile ukuba ube nesimo esihlelekile ngemuva. Inhloko kufanele ibekwe phakathi kwentamo ukuze ububanzi bentamo bubekwe, futhi isilwane singaphansi kwebunzi. Izinduku zidinga ukukhululeka, izinyawo "ziwa" ezinhlangothini, zivula indawo ye-crotch. Amandla avumela ngokukhululekile emzimbeni ngezintende zezandla. Zibhidliza ukuze izivalo ze-axillary zivulwe kancane, futhi amahlombe aphumule. Masishiye zonke izinkathazo zethu zansuku zonke emva komngcele wegumbi, ukhohlwa mayelana nezinhlelo zethu futhi sishintshe ukuze sizizwe lapha futhi manje, sizozama ukuletha umzimba wethu, ukuphefumula nokuqonda ukuphumula. Sivala amehlo ethu futhi sizwe isikhala esisizungezile, bese sibheka ukuthi umzimba utholakala kanjani emgqeni, kuze kube yilapho lesi simo sikhululekile kithi. Zizwa lapho umzimba wethu uhlangana khona negagasi noma phansi. Kuyinto namanje ngokuphelele. Lokhu kubalulekile, ngoba ukungahambi komzimba kuphakamisa ukungahambi kwengqondo. Nakuba kunjalo, uma kukhona isifiso esingenakunqotshwa, isibonelo, ukuze uhlole impumulo yakho, akufanele uzinqande futhi ubeke ngale ndlela. Ukwenza ubuncane bokunyakaza, susa isithiyo futhi uqhubeke nomkhuba wokuphumula oqhubekayo.
Ngamazwi sizohamba kuwo wonke umzimba, sizobuka izingxenye zawo ezihlukahlukene (imilenze, izingalo, isiqu, ubuso) futhi sizozama ukuqeda zonke izindawo ezinzima. Ekuqaleni, ngezinye izikhathi izingqondo zethu zizulazula kude nento yokubona, kodwa lokhu akufanele kusenze sibe namahloni. Sibuyisa ngokuthula futhi ngenhloso emzimbeni wethu futhi siqhubeke sibheke. Ngakho-ke umzimba wethu uzokuphumula ngokuphelele futhi ekugcineni ufunde ukufinyelela kuleli zwe ngokushesha kakhulu, njengokungathi ukuhlakazeka endaweni.
Uma sinomuzwa wokuthi umzimba ukhululekile ngokuphelele, sizosusa zonke izinhliziyo zethu, siqaphele isikhala sethu sangaphakathi futhi ulalele izinzwa zethu. Sizozama ukubona konke ukunyakaza okucashile emzimbeni: mhlawumbe sizozwa ukuthi isisu, amathumbu kanye nezinye izitho zangaphakathi zisebenza kanjani. Mhlawumbe siyozizwa ukuhamba kwegazi ngokusebenzisa izitsha, impulse yakho, umsebenzi wenhliziyo, ukuphefumula kwakho. Sekuyisikhashana sizozibuka. Buka ukunyakaza emzimbeni, phumula futhi ukhohlwe ngobunzima bokuphila. Khona-ke sizogxila ekuphefumuleni kwethu. Zizwe ukuhamba kwakhe emakhaleni, emqaleni, esifubeni, esiswini. Vele ubukele ukugeleza komoya. Ukuthi umoya wethu uzalwa kanjani nokuthi kuphi, kuphi nokuthi kuphi ukuphuma kwethu.
Sizozama ukugcina ukunaka kwethu kulezi zintuthuko ezisheshayo futhi ezibushelelezi, ngezikhathi ezithile zibuyisela ukuqonda kwethu into yokubona. Sizozama ukungalali, nakuba ekuqaleni kwethu kungenzeka lokhu, lapho izingqondo zethu ziphuma, ziphinde ziqede. Masingalili, sizoqhubeka nokuzijwayeza njalo, futhi kancane kancane sizofunda ukuhlala esimweni esibucayi sokuzibona kwethu, ukuzithoba, ukungabi nandaba, ukwamukela ngokwethu njengoba siyikho, ukuthola ukulawula imizwa yethu nemicabango yethu.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, sizobona ukuthi umhlaba ugcwele imibala. Ukulumbana nobuvila, ubuhlungu nokudabuka kuyothuthukisa ngokwengeziwe injabulo nokwethemba. Sizokhokha ngokwengeziwe lokho esikwenzayo, sizophila okungokoqobo, sichitha isikhathi esingaphansi nesikhathi esingaphansi kwamaphupho mayelana nekusasa lesikhumbuzo noma ukukhumbula okwedlule. Njengoba sithuthuka ekufundeni kwethu, sizoqaphela ukuthi siyeka ukusabela ezimweni nakubantu abasizi futhi besiphatha kabi ngaphambili. Imishini izoqhubeka nokuphuka, umsebenzi owenziwa ekhaya kanye nendlu ngeke ibe ngaphansi, kodwa sizobona ukuthi konke lokhu kuthinta kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili, lapho sithukuthele, sithukuthele, sikhathazekile futhi sigxilile. Sizoyeka ukuhlukumeza ngezicucu, futhi kuyoba mnandi kakhulu ukuxhumana nathi. Yiqiniso, lezi zibonakaliso zempumelelo ngeke zibonakale ngokushesha, kodwa ngeke sizizisole ngokuthi sahamba kuloluhambo olude noluthakazelisayo lokuzifunda.
Wonke umuntu kudingeka afunde ukuphumula futhi akhohlwe ubunzima bokuphila. Ikhono lokuphumula ngokuphelele umzimba wakho, ukumnika ithuba lokuphumula ngokugcwele futhi alulame - ikhono elibalulekile kuwo wonke umuntu. Kodwa-ke, leli khono libaluleke kakhulu empilweni yabesifazane abakhulelwe, ngakho-ke, ukuphumula kwesikhathi esigcwele kuyadingeka kumama ozayo njengamavithamini nokuzivocavoca umzimba. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ikhono lokuphumula lisiza kokubili ngesikhathi sokubeletha kwengane, nangesikhathi sokubeletha, nalapho ingane izalwa. Uma ukhululekile kahle, noma yimuphi umama uzokwazi ukubuyisela amandla ngesikhathi esifushane futhi uzizwe sengathi ulale ngokulala kahle. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuphumula ngokuphelele!