Uma umndeni ufa? .. Uma singabhekana nokuba nomndeni ofanelekayo? Noma ingabe yiqiniso nje ngomndeni ongcono, imibono yabantu abhekene nokubhekana nesimo sangempela futhi baba yisithiyo senjabulo? Phela, umndeni ojabulayo, wadala ngesisekelo sokukhanga, ukushada "ngothando" - lokhu ikakhulukazi umdlalo, uhlobo lwezemvelo. Abathandi ababili, abanemizwa enamandla, abafani kakhulu nabanikazi bezinkuni okwamanje - Angiboni lutho, into eyinhloko ukuthi ngidonsela umlingani. Uma inyunyana yezimbili ihlelwe ngokomthetho, ngisho nangaphambi kokuba lowo mzuzu ojabulisayo baphile "ngaphandle kokubhalisa" - umkhosi ohambisana naleso sikhathi umkhosi ubonakala ubilisa into ebaluleke kakhulu ...
Ukuqinisekisa "uthando olungunaphakade" ungavumeli ikholi yangaphakathi yomphefumulo, isidingo sokuba "inyunyana", ujabule. Futhi emva kokungaqondi, bahlela izimpi ukuze kube nelungelo elingcwele lokwanelisa lezi zidingo ngosizo lomngane wakho "umlingani" ... "Ingabe umndeni ongcono uyinganekwane noma yiqiniso?" - yilokho abalingani abazama ukwakha ubuhlobo basombulula ngempela.
Isikhathi sokuvuthwa sizokhamuluka, futhi ukwehluleka komlingani (nokuphila komndeni) kuzolimaza izingxenyana eziphangazelayo zombili ezimbili ezenziwe ngengozi. Umndeni ofanelekayo, inganekwane kanye neqiniso mayelana nokuthi singubani omunye komunye, uzoqala "ukuphuma" ngaphansi kobuningi obukhulu be-chocolate-vanilla romance.
Abanye bayavumelana nezinkolelo zokuthi umsebenzi omuhle ngeke ubizwa ngokuthi into enhle, kanti abanye, ngokulindela inkathi ezayo futhi begcwele imizwa, bazoqeda ukuhlukaniswa, futhi bahlanganyele ekufuneni injabulo yabo ...
Akusikho lokho ...
Izizathu zokuthi kungani abantu bedumazeka kakhulu emshadweni futhi umlingani bahlukene kakhulu. I-elula (futhi, i-alas, evamile) ingqondo yomntwana ukuthi kufanele ukuba umuntu "oyedwa" oqonda kusukela ngezwi elilodwa, uzokwenza njengokuthanda kwakhe nje ngenxa yokuthi uyayithanda. Futhi abaningi, ngaphansi kwethonya lezinganekwane zomndeni ofanelekayo, aboni iqiniso. Futhi ngoba kusukela ebuntwaneni kwakukhona ukudumazeka okuningi - okungenani umama nobaba, ababengekho nhlobo ekahle, - bafuna le ndoda. Ekwahlulela inganekwane nge "halves", ehamba emhlabeni wonke, le nkinga iye yahlukunyezwa isintu iminyaka eyizinkulungwane!
Ukufana okufanayo "ukuqhuma" kungabonwa emadodeni. Kubonakala sengathi uyamthanda - futhi njengompheki, futhi njengowesifazana ... kodwa into ethi "i-elusively wrong", umndeni omuhle awuzange usebenze. Futhi noma ifuna "okufanayo", noma iqala ukulungisa eyodwa kuphela ngaphansi kwesimo esingabonakali. Lapha udinga ukubonisa uhlamvu futhi okungenani uzivikele wena, kepha njengesikhulu - ukusiza othandekayo wakho akhule kancane ...
Obaba nabantwana
Esinye isizathu esibalulekile sokuthi "ukufa" komndeni omusha ukucaciswa okuqhubekayo kobudlelwano obuvela emndenini "omdala": ama-cavils, izimpikiswano, ukwesaba ukuthi (yena) uzophazamisa umsebenzi, izakhiwo ezehlukene zomphakathi nezamasiko. Nakuba ngezinye izikhathi akuyona indaba yokuzonda imindeni yabazali ngenxa yamalokazana nomalokazana. "Abantwana" abaningi bayashada futhi beshade, bahlala "amadodana" namadodakazi "kuze kube phakade, ngakho-ke umndeni wabo ubalela," ukuphuma okuphuthumayo ", futhi noma yikuphi ukwanda okulawulwa yibo kubonakala njengokugqilazwa. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kufike ukuqonda ukuthi umndeni abawusebenzanga, noma kunalokho, baphambuka ebudeni obungunaphakade "ngenkathi okhokho baseDacha."
Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi ababili baphuphe ukuhlangana emndenini owodwa, bezwa ukungcola kwabo kokuziphatha: bebheka lezi zibhangqwana, kubonakala sengathi ababili abaneminyaka eyishumi banquma ukuthi ndawonye bazobukeka sengathi indoda eneminyaka engamashumi amabili ibonakala iyisiphukuphuku. Injabulo yamanje ephathelene nemizwa yobulili ("izindlela ezingu-112 zokuyiqhubela ezulwini") iphinde iphendukele abantu, noma kunalokho, hhayi nakancane ngamakhanda abo. Lapho sibona ukuthi umuntu onokugijima angena kanjani e-whirlpool yezifiso ezintsha, izinzwa, ngifuna ukukukhumbuza ukuthi akukho okusha ngaphansi kwelanga.
Umndeni emndenini
Imisebenzi yomlingani emndenini ingahluka, isibonelo, kusuka "kunina" kuya "indodakazi kababa", futhi ngokuphambene nalokho, nangenxa yokudideka nokuntuleka kwamakhono okubuza ukuthi umlingani udinga yini, umzamo wokuthola umndeni omusha ngaphandle kokuxazulula izinkinga zokuziphatha esikhathini esidala kuba uvivinyo olunzima kakhulu kokubili. Umlingani womshado angasoze waba "ubaba omtholayo", engahambisani ngokuphelele noyise. Yengeza lapha ingxube yokugubha yabazali nabazali bomzimba, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nangomshado wesibili, wesithathu, inqwaba yabodadewethu, abazalwane nabo bonke abathintekayo abaye baphenduka ngezikhathi ezithile, bese wengeza izithombe zezingane zakho mayelana nabazali bakho abaphefumulelwe yizincwadi, izindaba kanye amabhayisikobho. Futhi manje zama ukuhlukanisa izithombe ezinsikazi nabesilisa, uhlukanise izindima zomphakathi zalabo bonke abathonya wena eminyakeni ehlukene, ukhulisa izinga lokusondelana bese uzama ekugcineni ukwakha ubuhlobo bakho, ngakho (ngokungafani nabo bonke okushiwoyo) kuzoba ngabomuntu ngempela, mahhala kwezinye izinkolelo zabanye abantu! Akunjalo?
"Thina" no "Mina"
Esikolweni sethu seSlavvic, hhayi seWestern, amasiko, ama-echoes alobo bungcwele, abelwe isakhiwo somshado, namanje aqinile. Kuze kube manje abantu bahamba ngaphansi kwesigqoko futhi bahlupheke kakhulu "umshado emazulwini" ngenxa "yunkulunkulu wanikezwa" naye. Izimpande zalesi siko zingabonakala ngokucacile emasikweni asekuqaleni - ukuya ekufeni ngemuva komyeni oshonile noma "ukuchitha" othandekayo, ukungabi naso okuzimele.
Emazweni aseNtshonalanga, futhi manje ingxenye yamasiko ethu, ngokulandela inkolo ethi "thina", umuntu ngamunye wayewumzamo wokubalekela. Ukudumazeka, ngokungazelelwe kuboniswe ngabalingani ababili be-incorrigible, ngisho noma elungiselela ukudla, futhi uhola izingane epaki ngezimpelasonto, okuholela ekuweleni komkhumbi othandwayo nhlobo ngokuphila.
Uma abantu ababili beza umahluko phakathi kwethu "imindeni" futhi "ababili-i" -imindeni, bavame ukuzibuza: ngakho-ke uyenzani - ulahlekelwa wena noma ube "omakhelwane ekhishini elivamile"? Khumbula ukuthi phakathi kobudlelwane bomuntu ukuthi ifomula 1 + 1 ayiniki umphumela ofanayo nese-arithmetic, hhayi "amabili", kodwa "ayishumi nanye", futhi ayikho "yezingxenye" ezilahlekile kakhulu. Okuhlala kusithakazelisayo komunye iminyaka eminingi ...