Uthando, umzwelo ongakhuthaza, uletha injabulo, ngoba abanye besifazane baphenduka ekuhlukunyezweni, ubugqila, okungeke bakwazi ukuphuma. Njalo uma bathandana "ngokubulala". Futhi kumuntu ongatholakali - oshadile, odumile, obanda futhi engenandaba nakho konke, noma kumuntu onomuthi othile - ukuphuza utshwala, ubulili, imidlalo. Lapho ehamba, owesifazane uyesaba, ubuhlungu obungokomoya, isizungu. Futhi uzimisele ukuya kunoma yikuphi ukuhlazeka, ukuze nje umgcine ...
Okwesithathu kokushisa
Abesifazane, ngeshwa, abazi njalo ukuthi bangamisa kanjani ngokuya othandweni lomuntu. Yiqiniso, akuzona zonke zazo ezisongela ukuthandana nomuntu ongafaneleki ngalokhu. Ngezici eziningi kuncike emndenini akhule kuwo. Njengomthetho, le ntombazane ayitholanga ukufudumala nokwanela okuvela kubazali bayo ngakho-ke manje sekubhujiswa konke impilo yakhe ukufuna le mizwa. Owesifazane onjalo unxusa uthando oluvela kumuntu, noma uzama ukwanelisa isidingo sakhe ngokungaqondile - abe ngethenda futhi anakekele umuntu ongadingi nhlobo.
I-Kabbalah yezinkohlakalo
Nokho, hhayi kuphela izinkinga zomuntu eziholela owesifazane ekuthandeni ubugqila futhi baphoqeleka ukuba bathembele othandweni lomuntu. Emphakathini wethu, kunezinkolelo ezidumisa uthando nokuhlupheka.
Inombolo yesitembu 1. I-heroine enezinkinga
Amakhosikazi aseDecembrists, Sonia Marmeladova, amantombazane aseTurgenev ... Izithombe zabo ezivela ebhentshini yesikole zinikezwa njengento ekahle. Futhi laba heroine benzani? Banikela ngempilo yabo ngenxa yabantu. Okusho ukuthi kubonakala sengathi isiphetho sowesifazane asinanzuzo ekhethekile, kuphela uma ephonswa ezinyaweni zomuntu othandekayo ...
Eqinisweni, lobuqhawe obungathandabuzi busekelwe ekuzizweni kokuziphendulela okukhulu. Ekujuleni komphefumulo, owesifazane onjalo ucabanga ukuthi akafanelanga injabulo "njengaleyo." Uqinisekile ukuthi kufanele azuze, uwine.
Inombolo yesitembu 2. "Wathandana naye ..."
Ukuhlupheka egameni lothando kuthandiswa esimweni sethu. Kukholelwa ukuthi lapho ubhekene nokuhlupheka okuqhubekayo, nakakhulu uzobe uveza ukujula kwemizwa yakho. Ukuthi lo mzwa omuhle, okwazi ukunika amandla umuntu amandla, ukuphefumulelwa, ukujabulisa, kuthiwa omncane noma omncane kakhulu. Futhi mayelana nokuyeka ukuncika emizweni yakho - ngisho akukho mbuzo.
Inombolo yesitembu 3. Uthando lokufuna
Okunye okunye okushiwo: "Kubalulekile ukuthi udinga umuntu". Akunandaba ukuthi ngubani: indoda, ingane, abazali noma ngisho nekati. Owesifazane angazizwa egcwele kuphela uma ekhona nomuntu odinga ukunakekelwa kwakhe. Abanye besifazane bafinyelela lokho ngokuvamile ngokuzizwa bezimo ezimbi kakhulu.
Inombolo yesitembu 4. Yiba njalo ...
Kukhona isimo sengqondo ukuthi ngosizo lothando ungashintsha umuntu. Futhi njengoba singabheki izindlela ezilula, khona-ke njengento yokuguqula sikhetha lowo ozoguqula impilo yethu ibe yinkinga enkulu. Owesifazane uyaqiniseka ukuthi uma isithandwa sakhe (utshwala, isidlali, i-donjuan) sishintsha, bayobe bejabule ngokubambisana ndawonye. Lolu suku olukhanyayo kuphela futhi alukwazi ukulinda.
Indlela yokuthakazelisa
Ukuthembela othandweni kuyingozi kakhulu njengokuthembela kwezidakamizwa nokuphuza utshwala. Kunoma yikuphi, le ndlela ifana. Njengoba sesiyeke ukuthembela othandweni lomuntu, owesifazane uzwa "ukuphuka" kwangempela. Phela, ukukhathazeka kubangele ukukhathazeka okude nokuqina kwesimiso sezinzwa. Njengoba kungekho eminye injabulo yowesifazane, ufuna uthando oluthe xaxa. Futhi akekho ongakwazi ukwanelisa lokhu. Lapho indoda ishiya, ifuna ukuvuselela okusha - ubuhlobo obunzima, obubuhlungu. Futhi-ke-kuze kuphele ukuphelelwa ngokuphelele kwesimiso sezinzwa.
"Ungumuthi wami"
Isimo sakho sengqondo ngomuntu saba yisifo uma:
• Ukwesaba ukuhamba kwakhe, uzokwenza konke ukumgcina eseduze; usulungele ukulinda nokuthemba ngothando lwakhe iminyaka;
• amaphupho ukuthi konke kuzoba kuhle kanjani, uma kushintsha noma izimo, kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe kunobungane bangempela;
• Uma kukhona ukungqubuzana phakathi kwakho, uvame ukuzibeka icala;
• unesidingo esingavamile naye, kodwa ubuhlobo obubi ngaphandle kombhede;
• ngaphandle kwakhe, akukho lutho ekuphileni okukuthokozisa kakhulu;
• awunakuthandwa ngabantu abanomusa, abanokwethenjelwa, abathintekayo nabanakekelayo.
Izinyathelo eziyisithupha zokukhishwa
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ubuhlobo bakho nomuntu othandekayo bubuhlungu, zama ukushintsha isimo ngokushesha.
1. Zivume wena ukuthi ungumlutha wokuhlupheka kanye nobuhlobo obunempilo nendoda.
2. Zama ukuqonda ukuthi ukuzama ukushintsha umuntu kunoma yini enhle ngeke.
3. Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ekutakula - funda ukuqonda nokuvikela inhlalakahle yakho.
4. Emini, phawula yonke imizwelo emihle engahlobene nomuntu wakho.
5. Hlola futhi uthuthukise izidingo zakho siqu: ukuhamba, ukufunda, ushintshe umsebenzi.
6. Yiba nobugovu: faka izifiso zakho, izinhlelo zakho, izidingo zakho ngaphambili.