Uyazi lokhu? Kodwa, isimo akusilo ukuphela kokufa, uma uhlangothi olufanele lokusondela. Ngakho-ke ungahlala kanjani nomyeni wakhe ngemva kokukhashelwa kwakhe?
Ekuqaleni (futhi udinga ukukhokha ngokukhethekile lokhu!) Kumelwe ulahle noma yikuphi imizwa, ngisho nesikhathi esifushane. Ekuboneni kokuqala, ungase ucabange okuthile okufana nalokhu: "Yeka iseluleko sokuqala!" noma "Akunakwenzeka!" ... Futhi emva kwalokho uyaqhubeka nokuveza ukuhlupheka kwakho. Kukhona enye inketho - udinga ukuthola ngaphakathi amabutho wangaphakathi uphinde ubhekane nesimo. Uma uthanda ukhetho lwesibili, lokho kuhle! Usuvele umile emgwaqeni, okuholela ekuchibiyweni kwengqondo.
Okulandelayo, okudingeka kwenziwe kwenziwe ukuphendula umbuzo owodwa: "Ingabe u-100% uqiniseke ukuthi othandekayo wakho ukukopela kuwe?" Ungaphendula kuphela uma ungamtholi ngqo "endaweni yesehlakalo." Kodwa konke okuyinkimbinkimbi ingabe ucabanga nje ukuthi ukukhishwa komyeni wakho, akunjalo? Ukwesaba okukhulu futhi, ngesikhathi esifanayo, isifiso esikhulu - kunezizathu zokuthi ungenza kanjani ukuhlanya. "Pho, yisiphi isixazululo?" Okukhethwa kukho ukukhetha ngokuqondile. , kungcono kunokuzidla njalo ngaphakathi.
Ngakho-ke, ake sithi, u-betrothed wakho usakushintsha wena. Ngakho-ke ungahlala kanjani nomyeni wakhe ngemva kokukhashelwa kwakhe?
Kodwa! I-betrothed yakho ithi ukukhashelwa kwakhe kwakuyiphutha futhi ngeke kuphinde kwenzeke. Uphendukile ngobuqotho futhi ufuna kakhulu ukuthuthukisa isimo. Ngalesi sigaba, emva kokukhashelwa, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthola imbangela yangempela yokukhwabanisa: uyithukuthele noma, mhlawumbe, nomunye wesifazane, uthola okuthile ongamniki? Akudingeki uvumelane nokungaqinisekisi izizathu ezifana nokuthi "kwenzekile." Kubalulekile ukuthola okudingekayo kwangempela kokungathengi, futhi ndawonye kufanele uqonde, konke ukubaluleka. Phila ngemuva kokwedluliswa komyeni wakhe, ungakwazi, kodwa lungiselela ukuthi impilo yakho yansuku zonke izoshintsha kancane.
Futhi manje, emva kokuthola izizathu nezizathu, kufanele uziphendule ngokukhululekile nangokwethembeka: "Ingabe usamthanda? Ungamethemba yini ngemuva kwalesi sigameko njengangaphambili?". Lokhu kubalulekile, ngoba ukwethemba yisisekelo soma ubuphi ubudlelwane obuqinile. Ungasheshi, kungcono ukulinganisa ngokucophelela izinzuzo nezingozi. Cishe, ubheke amehlo ozayo ohluke ngokuphelele: usuvele ubona amathemba amasha, ngokuqinisekile wenza amapulani. Mhlawumbe, intukuthelo isaphila enhliziyweni yakho, kodwa amandla omzwelo ashiya okuningi okudingekayo.
Kodwa-ke, uma usenqume ukubuyisela ubuhlobo ngemva kokuhlubuka, khumbula ukuthi lokhu kuyisinqumo sakho kuphela.
Yini okudingeka uyenze ngemuva kokwedluliswa komyeni wakho?
- Okokuqala, udinga ukuyeka ukwenza umhlatshelo. Kuyacaca, awujabulisi futhi ubuhlungu ngisho, kepha ukubukeka emuva nokuzwelana nawe kungukuphela kokufa, into yokudambisa. Uzothuthukisa ngokwengeziwe ukuzethemba kwakho hhayi kuphela ngokwakho, kodwa futhi emehlweni akhe. Kodwa lokhu kuzokwenzeka kuphela uma ungewona nje udoti oluthile othulini emoyeni njengamanje, kodwa u-willow wangempela ongenayo.
- Akudingekile ukusola umuntu. Isifiso sokwemvelo emva kokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe - ukufungela kanye nezitsha. Mhlawumbe lokhu kuzokulethela usizo oluthile lwesikhashana, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba nomthelela ekuqiniseni ubuhlobo bakho. Indoda, ngokuqinisekile, izobaleka nje. Ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unzima kangakanani manje, ukhetho oluhle luyoba uma usabambe iqhosha lakho. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi uvumelane ngakho ngokuqaphela.
- Mkhohlwe futhi uzame ukuthethelela. Lokhu kuyona okudingekayo, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo isinyathelo esinzima kakhulu. Kudingekile ukuba ufunde futhi, ukuthembela othandekayo wakho uma uvele ukhululekile ukusola nokusola. Kodwa, kumele sizame ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukuqinisekisa ukuthi indoda ayizizwa ngendlela efana nesiboshwa.
Kusobala ukuthi ukulandela iseluleko esinzima kunzima kakhulu. Nokho, uma, naphezu kokungathembeki komyeni wakhe, usenqume ukuzama ukubuyisela ubuhlobo bakho, ngakho-ke kuwufanele.