Ukubamba ukuthi ngubani olungile, futhi ngubani ozobekwa icala, ngeke kuholele kunoma yini enhle. Uhlala endaweni, bobabili bebekwe icala ngalokho okwenzekile. Uma usuku nosuku empilweni yomndeni kwenzeka into efanayo, imizwa yomunye nomunye iqala ukupholisa phansi. Umfazi, ohlala ehlala endlini nokugcina izingane, kancane kancane usuka kumyeni wakhe. Yena, engaboni futhi engazizwa ngokwakhe, kufanele afune "into" ohlangothini. Ngaleso sikhathi, amadoda ashintsha kokubili abafazi abalungile nababi. Konke mayelana nobuhlobo bakho, ngoba ekhaya kukhona ukulungiselelwa lapho engakwazi ukuphumula khona.
Le ndoda iqala ukufuna lowo oyiqondayo nokuziphatha ngokumsekelayo, okuyinto azizwa ngayo njengendoda yangempela. Kukhona esinye isigaba esikhethekile samadoda, laba ngamadoda besifazane. Ngesikhathi ungakashadile, awukwazanga ukumbona kulokhu kukhishwa. Kodwa, uma nje 'uvale amehlo akho' ezenzweni zakhe, yiqonda ukuthi awukwazi ukushintsha umuntu! Emshadweni, akahlali phansi, yena ngokwakhe uqobo, nokuthi ngabe uthatha othandekayo emva kokuhlukumezeka - kungcono kuwe.
Okubaluleke kakhulu, ubudlelwane obunjalo buphela ekuhlukaneni, futhi lokhu kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma, ukukhathazeka nokuhlupheka. Uma unquma ukugcina umshado, cabanga ngokucophelela, uzohlala kanjani nalo muntu emva kokuhlubuka? Mhlawumbe lokhu kubuthakathaka okwesikhashana, usuke ukhathele omunye nomunye, futhi wanquma ukwenza kanjalo. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ngokuvamile, umuntu ufihla ukuxhumana kwakhe ohlangothini, ngoba wena nomndeni ubaluleke kakhulu kuye. Mhlawumbe lokhu kwenzeka okokuqala, uphenduka futhi uzama ukulungisa. Ngenxa yezingane, nawe ungayithethelela, ngoba zikhula kangcono emndenini ogcwele, kodwa uma lokhu kwenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi, kuyafaneleka yini? Akudingekile ukubhubhisa yonke into ngesikhathi esisodwa, cabanga ndawonye ukuthi ungaphuma kanjani esimweni, kungase kudingeke uphile ngokuhlukile okwesikhashana. Kodwa uma engakhathaleli, khona-ke ngesibindi uqeda ubuhlobo bese uqala ukuphila okujabulisayo ngaphandle kwakhe nangaphandle kokungathengi kwakhe. Lokhu kulula ukukwenza, okubaluleke kakhulu, akufanele uzizwe njengesisulu!
Ukukhohlakele kungukungathengi kwemizwa yakho, kuvele nje kuphuluke. Yamukela owathandekayo emva kokunye ukukhaphela noma ukuhlala, ujabulele impilo, yebo yedwa, kungcono kuwe. Uma uzenzele iziphetho ezithile, esikhathini esizayo ngeke uvumele umuntu onjalo ekuphileni kwakho. Ngisho noma ushintshile umuntu kanye kuphela, unomuzwa wokungazethembi kuye, futhi uzophazamisa umphefumulo wakho, unganiki ukuphumula. Ungalokothi uzame ukuthola ukuthi kungani enza lokho. Imininingwane kuphela engeza ekuhlushwa futhi engeza kuwe izinkimbinkimbi.
Ungazama ukusinda ukukhwabanisa kwamadoda, kodwa umbuzo uzovela: "ukuthi ungalala kanjani naye emva komunye owesifazane?" Ngemva kokutholwa othandekayo ngemuva kokukhashelwa, ungazami ukufakazela noma yini embhedeni kuye nganoma iyiphi indlela! Ungasheshi ukujabulisa izikhwama zakhe, angaba nesifo esithathelwanayo, futhi uma engenwe igciwane, angase abe ngumthwali wezifo zesifazane. Njengomthetho, umfazi kanye nenkosikazi bathola izinkinga zabesifazane kanye nesizathu - indoda eyodwa kokubili. Ukuba khona "okwesithathu" okwesikhashana ngeke kukunikeze ukuphumula, kodwa uma usenquma ukulwa "kuze kube sekupheleni", khuluma ngalokhu nomyeni wakho, kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungenzi isisulu sezimo. Zama ukuqala «ukuhlala kabusha", uhlale ndawonye, uhlele amaholidi omndeni omncane, ukhulume nje! Ukuphila okuhlangene akuyona into enzima kangaka. Kusukela kunoma yisiphi isimo ungathola indlela yokuphuma, uma uthanda futhi uzihlonipha wena!