Kungani lokhu kwenzeka kuwe? Ingabe kukhona amaphutha kulokhu? Indlela yokuziphatha ukuze ungalokothi uthembeke futhi? Imibuzo eminingi, mhlawumbe, ihamba ekhanda lakho, futhi izimpendulo ezimbalwa kubo. Uma uhlala kusihlwa olulandelayo futhi ulila uthando lwakho olunyathelwe phansi, kunzima kakhulu ukubuka izinto ngokulinganayo bese uhlaziya isimo samanje. Kodwa, kholwa kimi, ngokushesha noma kamuva uzodingeka ukwenze, ngoba awufuni ukuphindaphinda isimo esibuhlungu? Ngakho manje cabanga ngombuzo: "Kungani amadoda ashintsha?". Sizogxila ekuziphatheni kwengqondo yomuntu.
Yiqiniso, into yokuqala efika engqondweni ingqungquthela yebhansela ukuthi bonke abantu bayithembu ngesimo. Ngikholelwa, madoda, lokhu kungukungalungi okugxile ezinhliziyweni zezinkulungwane zamadoda nabesifazane abasebenzisa ngobuciko lokhu ukuze balungise amaphutha abo. Akunakuphikwa ukuthi okhokho bethu basendulo, basendulo babe ne-psychology ehlukile kunabantu basimanje. Ukuziphatha komuntu wasendulo kwakungokwemvelo, izinga lobuhlobo bezenhlalakahle laliphansi kakhulu kangangokuthi abantu basendulo baphila ngokuvumelana nemithetho yemvelo. Owesilisa - unonya, kumele avikele ilungelo lakhe lokuphila, umthengisi, nomlandeli womndeni. Umsebenti wakhe ukukhiqiza abaningi ngangokunokwenzeka kuye, ngokulandelanayo, okuncane futhi okunempilo okwesifazane, okungcono, futhi uma kuningi, ke lokhu kuyindlela enhle. Kodwa, uzovuma, izwe lanamuhla liye lashiya kakhulu emphakathini wakudala. Umuntu, njengangaphambili, kumele akhombise ukuvumelana nokuphatha kwakhe, alondoloze umndeni, kodwa isidingo sokuba iningi labantu abanjalo liye laphela. Yingakho manje umuntu engahlali ngokwemvelo, kepha ngokusho kwezenhlalo nezindinganiso. Yiqiniso, kusekhona abesilisa abadala abadinga abesifazane abengeziwe, futhi uma ubanjwe kanje, akusona iphutha lakho, wawunenhlanhla ukuthi washiya wena futhi wayeka ukuchitha impilo yakho.
Esinye isizathu esingaba yiyona nkinga. Ezingqondweni, kukhona into enjenge-crisis, okusho ukuguqula isimo esisha sokufaneleka, ukuphumula emibonweni kanye nezindinganiso zangaphambilini. Mhlawumbe owakho wangaphambili uye wabhekana nobunzima obunjalo. Yebo, yebo, kubantu abadala, akuyona nje intsha. Kungenzeka ukuthi abantu bakho bokuqala babelane ngemibono, kwakukhona uhlobo oluthile lokungqubuzana kwangaphakathi, ukucindezeleka nokukhwabanisa - lokhu kuyisimo senzuzo. Cishe, umuntu uzolisola kamuva, kodwa kuba ngumkhuba.
Ngokweminyaka, amadoda athile aziphendulela, lokhu kuzwakala kungavamile, ngoba sijwayele ukuthi abesifazane bahlale bekhathazeka ngokushintsha kweminyaka, kepha njengendlela yokubonisa, amadoda ajwayele ukubhekana nezinkinga zokudala. Mhlawumbe, kubonakala sengathi akayena omuhle kakhulu, futhi impilo yezocansi ihluleka, futhi ukuzibonakalisa ukuthi "kusekhona isibhamu emahlathini", le ndoda iyaqhubeka. Kulokhu, akukhiphi iphutha lesifazane owayeseduze futhi akazange akhuthaze indoda yakhe ngesikhathi.
Ngenxa yokucwaninga kwengqondo, kwavela ukuthi amadoda ayesaba ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, futhi abesifazane bangokomoya. Kungenzeka ukuthi indoda yakho ivele ithandane, ngoba bonke ubudala bayathobela uthando. Ngaphansi kwethonya le-oxytocin, elikhishwa uma selithandana, akakwazi nje ukuhlola isimo, ngakho-ke izinguquko eziyimpumputhe, engaqapheli ukuthi akulungile kumuntu osemncane ongathandeki.
Esinye isizathu siwuphindiselela. Cabanga, kepha akuzange kukunikeze izizathu zokukholelwa ukuthi wena ngokwakho awunqamuki ukushintsha umyeni wakhe. Mhlawumbe uhlanzekile futhi uthembekile phambi kwabathembekile, kodwa ukuziphatha kwakho kwezinye izimo kunikeze isizathu sokucabanga ukuthi ushintshile umuntu. Futhi ngubani ofuna ukukhohliswa, yingakho kuyindaba yokuhlonipha, okungukuthi, impindiselo. Futhi sekwephuzile kakhulu ukuthola izizathu. Le ndoda yazizwa ikhohlisiwe futhi yanquma ukubuyisela ubulungiswa.
Izizathu zisenkulu kakhulu. Wonke umuntu, njengoba esho, unamaphanga abo ... Kodwa uma uzizwa ukuthi wena ngokwakho uyisola okwenzekile, kuzomele udonse iziphetho. Mhlawumbe nawe "u-zapilili" indoda yakhe, noma ukhokhelwa kancane, ingase ibe yinto engathandeki noma ebandayo. Cabanga kahle ngakho, ngakho-ke kusukela ngaleso sikhathi amadoda akho azohlala nawe njalo.