Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ucansi, umuntu wesaba ukuthi angasasebenzi, hhayi ukuphumelela noma ukulahlekelwa othandekayo. Kunezindlela ezinjalo, isibonelo, ukwesaba ukuphakama, ubumnyama noma isikhala esivaliwe. Ukwesaba kwabesifazane bonke baphathwa ngezinye izidakamizwa, kodwa isithombe somuntu ongenesibindi senziwa emphakathini ngokuqinile naphakade. Indoda ubulili obuqinile, uphawu lwamandla angempela, ngakho-ke abantu abanakho ukwesaba ngokomzimba noma kokuziphatha. Sonke singamadoda namadoda, ngakho-ke, ngezinye izikhathi besaba ngenxa yezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Nakuba bezama ukungaboni ukwesaba kwabo. Khona-ke ungamsiza kanjani indoda ukuba ibhekane nokumesaba kwakhe?
Kuyaziwa ukuthi ukwesaba kuvela ngenxa yezimo ezithile. Lo mzwa awuveli kunoma yikuphi. Ngezinye izikhathi ukwesaba kubumba amakhulu eminyaka noma iminyaka ngezinga lofuzo. Isibonelo, ama-bachelors abonakala ngokwesaba, okwenzeka kubafana abavela emndenini ongaphansi. Njengoba sezikhulile, amadoda anjalo azohlala eseshashelwe umfazi. Emzimbeni we-REGISTRY OFFICE, ngendlela, ezinye iziganga futhi azifinyeleli. Ukusiza umuntu onjalo ukuba abhekane nokwesaba kwakhe kudingekile. Ngokuphambene nalokho, uma umfana ekhula eyedwa noma endaweni yokukhosela, kungenzeka ukuthi abe nokwesaba isizungu. Ukwesaba ngendlela yama-phobias, isibonelo, ukwesaba izindawo eziphakeme, izinambuzane noma amanzi, kuvame ukuzuza njengefa. Lapha awukwazi ukwenza ngamazwi afana nalokhu: "Udinga ukubheka amehlo wesaba." Ukwesaba yedwa kunganqotshwa umuntu onamandla ngempela onamandla. Maye, akubona bonke abanezimfanelo ezinjalo.
Izazi zengqondo zithi izinkolelo eziningi zesilisa zihlangene ngokuxhumana, ngokwesibonelo, ebuhlotsheni nomuntu othandekayo noma nabangane, kanye nabasebenza nabo. Ngokuvamile kule ndawo, amadoda angase abe nokwesaba okuhlukile. Amadoda ngandlela-thile ukwesaba okukhulu ukubonakala kungathandeki futhi kungenangqondo. Baye besaba ukuthi bangabonakali futhi banesidingo. Ezimweni ezinjalo, bagwema ngokucophelela imihlangano ejwayelekile nabangane nemibuthano enkampanini enomsindo. Futhi, amadoda anokwesaba okuthiwa "umndeni". Bayesaba umshado, okungaholela ekuphileni kwabo abaningi abangaziwa kanye nobunzima, isibonelo, ukuhlukumezeka, ukutholakala ekuzalweni noma ububaba bazo esikhathini esizayo.
Kukhona ngisho nesigaba samadoda esaba besifazane abanamandla. Lokhu kwesaba kubangelwa ukungaqiniseki kwamadoda. Ukungaqiniseki futhi njalo ukungabaza umuntu, njengombuso, uqala ukulahlekelwa ekhanda lakhe izenzakalo ezikhona ezingase zenzeke ebuhlotsheni babo nowesifazane. Ngakho umuntu uhlelwe ukuthi emicabangweni yakhe yonke izenzakalo ezizayo zizokwenzeka ngokusho kweskripthi sakhe. Ngokujwayelekile kwenzeka ukuthi ayinayo. Ngakho-ke, le ndoda isivele ihlelwe kusengaphambili kokubi. Kuningi ukwesaba. Nakuba kukhona okuvamile, ngokwesibonelo, ukwesaba kokungabonakali nokungahlehlisi, ukulahlekelwa othandekayo, ukwesaba ukugula, njll Kodwa wonke umuntu wesaba ukufa. Lokhu kuyinto engaba yinto engenzeka kakhulu kunabo bonke abantu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akekho owakwazi ukulwa nakho.
Muva nje, izazi zengqondo zaseRussia zenze ucwaningo lwabaphenduli besilisa ababa nesibindi sokwesaba. Amadoda amaningi abika ukuthi ayesaba ubumnyama ebuntwaneni bawo. Ngakho-ke, sisabhekene nokungahambi kahle, ekubeni ezindaweni ezimnyama. Leli qembu elilandelayo labaphenduli liyesaba ukuthi liyesibindi nezinja. Kwakukhona ukuthi akuwona wonke amadoda abalandeli bama-movie asabekayo. Futhi, abacwaningi bafunde ngendlela amadoda abhubhisa ngayo ukwesaba kwawo. Iningi labaphendulile lavuma ukuthi lixazulula le nkinga ngokulandela isimiso esithi "umcengezi ukhonjiswe ngemali". Ngokombono wabo, uma umuntu esaba ubumnyama, kufanele avame ukuya ezindaweni ezimnyama futhi ahlale lapho isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka. "
Ukuze indoda ibhekane nosaba, usizo oluvela ngaphandle luzodingeka. Amadoda ayabhekana nokubhekana nezinkinga zabo. Uma esaba ukuxhumana nocansi obuthakathaka, kungase kumlahleke ukuba abike ngokushesha intombazane. Ukunganaki okunjalo kuphazamisa ngisho nabesifazane. Amadoda kudingeka awazi amantombazane njengoba nje adinga. Le nqubo kumele iqhubeke kuze kube yilapho indoda izwa induduzo emphakathini wobulili obuhlukile. Kubalulekile ukuba umuntu aqonde ukuthi kufanele kuqala kuqala asebenze ngokwesaba ngokwakhe. Konke ukwesaba kwakhe kusekelwe, okokuqala, ngezici ezizimele nezici zakhe, yingakho ukuzivocavoca okusebenzayo kuyisisombululo esihle kakhulu.
Wonke umuntu unokwesaba kwakhe siqu. Lezi phobias "zakhuleliswa" kuyo yonke impilo yakhe. Yiqiniso, uma umuntu egwazwa inja enganeni, ngakho-ke, ngisho nokuba umuntu omdala, uyoba nokwesaba njalo ezingeni elingenakuqaphela inja. Ukwesaba abesifazane ikakhulukazi kwenzeka ekukhuleni. Kule minyaka, insizwa enqatshelwe yintombazane eyodwa noma ngaphezulu izogcina ukwesaba abesifazane impilo. Nakuba lesi simo singaqondiswa owesifazane ohlakaniphile nokhaliphile ongasiza indoda ukuba inqobe lokhu kwesaba. Emva kwakho konke, ngomzuzwana omncane wengqondo, kuncike kakhulu ekuthandweni nasekulingeni kwalowo muntu ngokwakhe. Kuyaziwa ukuthi umuntu udinga indlela eqinile futhi eqinile, futhi othile udinga ukwelashwa okubucayi nesineke. Amadoda amaningi azama ukunqoba ukwesaba kwawo ngendlela "evivinywe futhi evivinywa" ngosizo lophuza utshwala. Nokho, kuyoba yiphutha lesilisa elivame kakhulu.
Kuzwakala sengathi kukhona, kodwa ngokwesaba ungakwazi ukulwa ngokuphumelelayo nezinye izindlela. Isibonelo, ukuzilibazisa. Ungaphinde usebenzise ukuphumula okusebenzayo, kuhambisane nokuvakashela kumaqembu, ukuya e-cinema, kanye nemidlalo. Izemidlalo nezenzo zokuzilibazisa zinikeza umuntu ukushayela nokuhle. Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kuveza ukukhuthazela komuntu futhi kuqinisa umoya wakhe. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukukhetha imidlalo ephathekayo njengokubhukuda, i-tennis, ibhola lebhola noma ibhola lokugijima. Ukwesaba kuyimimoya emibi, futhi ingavela uma kukhona ingozi yangempela noma ecatshangelwayo esongela ukuphila komuntu. Uma umuntu esaba kakhulu, izihlobo zakhe kufanele zinakekele ukungabonakali empilweni yakhe kulezi zingozi.