Umqondo wokukhathazeka uyajwayele ngamunye wethu, hhayi ngezwi lokuzwa. Kodwa uphi umngcele oshayisanayo phakathi kwesenzo esivamile engozini engase ivele ngenxa yokuzimela kokuzimela, nokuhlushwa kwakho kanye nabanye okuzungeze izikhathi ezingamanga? Injabulo, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba kanye ne-phobias yiyona ngxoxo yengxoxo yanamuhla.
Ngokuvamile ukukhathazeka ukuphendula ngokomzwelo esimweni esinzima. Kulesi simo, kungokwemvelo futhi kuvamile. Iqiniso liwukuthi ukwesaba, kanye nokubonakaliswa kwanoma yimiphi imizwelo, kuyisici esibalulekile sokusinda. Kwakungokwemvelo ngokwawo, kwafezwa ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Emva kwakho konke, uma kwakungekho ukukhathazeka nokwesaba, umzimba wawungeke ukwazi ukulungisa ngokushesha futhi usabele ekusongweni okwenzeka kungazelelwe. Uma kwenzeka singenaso isikhathi sokulinganisela konke nokuzindla, uma kungenaso isikhathi sokucabangela nokuhlaziywa eside, umsebenzi wesimo semvelo wokulondolozwa kufakiwe. Isiza umzimba wethu ukuba wenze ngokuvumelana nokucacile okuhleliwe, okulungiselelwe izinkulungwane zeminyaka, lapho konke kubhalwe khona emzimbeni, kanjani nokuthi yini okufanele ukwenze, futhi lolu hlelo lusebenza ngokucacile ("uma ungakwazi ukunqoba, noma ukugijima, uma umphikisi enamandla").
Ukwesaba ukuthi sihlakulela
Kodwa-ke, kwenzeka, ukukhathazeka kwethu kudlula kakhulu isimo, mayelana nokuthi kuvele kuphi. Khona-ke lesi simo singasithintela ngokuphawulekayo futhi siphuthumise kakhulu izinga lempilo yethu. Kule ndaba, sesivele sikhuluma hhayi ngokukhathazeka, kodwa ngesaba. Ukwesaba kuyimimoya ekhonkolo nakakhulu kunezinkathazo, okuyizinto ezijwayelekile. Ukukhathazeka kungaqhathaniswa neqembu lokuqaphelisa kokuqala, okuholela umzimba ekubeni isimo sokugqugquzela. Ukubambisana okunjalo kuzokuhambisana nokwanda kwethambo lomzimba, umsebenzi okhulayo wezitho zangaphakathi nezinhlelo eziphethe ukugunyazwa okusebenzayo kokuvikelwa komzimba (inhliziyo, imithambo yegazi, amaphaphu, ubuchopho, njll). Ukwesaba ngakolunye uhlangothi kungalinganiswa nesignali "Qaphela! Sihlaselwa! Zisindise, ngubani ongakwazi ... ". Ngezinye izikhathi ukwesaba kunomthelela omubi emzimbeni, engqondweni nangentando yomuntu. Okudabukisayo kakhulu ukuthi ezimweni ezinjalo thina ngokwethu sibabili "ama-boas" futhi sithuthumela "onogwaja".
Phakathi naleso sikhathi, ukwesaba, ukungeneli kwezimo zangaphandle, empeleni, umkhuba omubi, kubangelwa futhi kusekelwa uhlelo lokucabangela olufana nezinhlelo ezisebenza kwikhompyutha. Kunalokho, uhlobo oluthi "igciwane lesandulela ngculazi", eliphonswa ekhanda ngokuthi "izifiso ezinhle", noma "kulinywa" lapho ngokuqondisa kwalo. Umuntu uzalwa ngaphandle kokwesaba. Ingane encane ayesabi ukuthinta umlilo noma izinyoka, ukukhubeka, ukuwa, njll. Izinkolelo ezifanayo zivela kamuva, ngolwazi olutholile. Ngakho-ke sibheka, esikhundleni sokuphila, ujabulele ukuphila, "lapho ubeka khona izinsalela" nokuthi "ngabe awuhambanga kanjani." Kusuka kubangane abasha silinde inkohliso engcolile, kubangane - ukukhohliswa, kubantu abathandekayo - ukuhlubuka, ukusola okukhulu nokuxoshwa, eqhweni - ukuwa okungenakugwemeka. Lokhu, ngendleleni, kungabangela ukuwa kwangempela, njengoba imisipha ephelelwe ukwesaba iphikisana futhi ingalaleli, futhi ubuchopho buzama ngokuzimisela ukwenza uhlelo olungalungile. Uma uzimisele ukuthola okuthile noma uhlobo oluthile lokuphutha, ngenxa yokuthi udinga okuthile noma othile ozokwesaba, qiniseka ukuthi uzothola le ntombazane emafutheni ngamafutha.
A Million Tricks
Lapho besaba, ukukhathazeka nokwesaba kuba namandla kakhulu futhi njalo, kuthiwa yi-phobias. I-Phobia (kusukela ku-phobos yesiGreki-ukwesaba) ukumesaba okuqhubekayo nokungenangqondo ngezinto, izenzo noma izimo. Abantu abanamahloni bavame ukwesaba ngisho nangomqondo othile mayelana nesimo noma into ebesabisayo. Ngokuvamile bazizwa bekhululekile esimweni lapho bekwazi ukukugwema khona lokhu kanye nemicabango ngakho. Kodwa-ke, iningi lalaba bantu liyazi kahle ukuthi ukwesaba kwabo akufanelekile futhi kuningi.
Ungacabangi ukuthi lokho kwesaba kukhonjiswe kuphela "kwengqondo." Ngamunye wethu unezindawo ezithile, izimo noma izinto ezibangela ukuthakazelisa okukhethekile kanye nenjabulo. Lokhu kuvamile, uma ezinye izinto zisikhathaza ngaphezu kwamanye, kungenzeka ukuthi izici ezihlukahlukene ezesabisayo ziyovela ngezigaba ezahlukene zokuphila kwethu. Kunalokho ukwesaba okunjalo okuhluke kakhulu kunama-phobias? Yini, isibonelo, umehluko phakathi kokwesaba okwemvelo kwezinyoka kusuka e-phobia? Ukuhlukaniswa kwezifo zomhlaba jikelele kubonisa ukuthi ama-phobia anamandla futhi aphikelela, futhi isifiso sokugwema into noma isimo nesimo sikhulu. Abantu abanama-phobias bavezwe ezinkingeni ezingenakukwazi ukulwa - ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba kubamba. Lokhu kungathinta impilo yomuntu siqu noma yomsebenzi walaba bantu. Ngokwesibonelo, ukwesaba ukushayela indiza noma ukuhamba esitimeleni kungenza ukuphila kube nzima nakakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuqaphela ukuthi ngandlela-thile "uyiphutha", "hhayi njengabanye abantu," futhi akanalo umphumela omuhle kunombono womuntu ohlukunyezwayo, okwandisa ukuhlushwa kwakhe.
Ku-psychotherapy, lonke iqembu okuthiwa ukukhathazeka nge-phobic-phobic lihlukaniswa - lapho ukukhathazeka kubangelwa kuphela noma ikakhulukazi ngezimo ezithile noma izinto ezingekho eziyingozi ngaleso sikhathi. Ngenxa yalokho, lezi zimo zivame ukugwema noma zithathwe ngomqondo wokwesaba ongahluka ngokusuka ekukhungeni okumnene ukwesaba. Ukukhathazeka komuntu kungagxila ekuvelelweni komuntu ngamunye, okuvezwe ngenhliziyo noma umuzwa wokuphelelwa amandla, futhi kuvame ukuhlanganiswa nokwesaba ukufa, kungenzeka ukuthi ukulahlekelwa ukuzilawula noma ukungaziphathi kahle. Futhi ukukhathazeka akuyeki kusukela ekuqondeni ukuthi abanye abantu lesi simo akubonakali kuyingozi noma besongela. Umqondo owodwa kuphela wesimo se-phobic ngokuvamile usuvele ubangele ukukhathazeka ngokulindela.
Ngenkathi ama-phobias anciphisa kakhulu izinga lokuphila, zande kakhulu emphakathini wethu. Ngokusho kocwaningo lwamuva, amaphesenti angaphezu kweyishumi ebantwini bamazwe amaningi emhlabeni abhekene ne-phobias okwamanje kanti kuze kube yingxenye yesine labantu baye bahlaselwa yisifo esingenasifo esibucayi emiphakathini yabo. Izibalo zibonisa ukuthi abesifazane banama-phobias angaphezu kokuphindwe kabili njengamadoda.
Ukwesaba okuthandayo
Esikhathini samanje izigaba zezifo zezizwe ngezizwe kunomkhuba wokuhlukanisa izigaba ze-phobias ngezigaba eziningana: i-agoraphobia, i-phobias yezenhlalo, i-phobias ethile, isifo se-panic, isifo sokukhathazeka jikelele, njll.
I-Agoraphobia - uma ihunyushwe kusuka esiGrekini, iyosho ukuthi "ukwesaba isiteleka semakethe." Izinkinga ezinjalo zihlangane empeleni futhi zichazwe kuGrisi Yamandulo naseGibhithe lasendulo. Namuhla igama elithi "agoraphobia" lisetshenziswe ngokubanzi: manje lihlanganisa nokwesaba izindawo ezivulekile kuphela, kodwa futhi nezimo eziseduze nabo, njengokungena esixukwini futhi ukungakwazi ukubuyela endaweni ephephile (ngokuvamile ekhaya). Ngakho-ke, manje leli gama lihlanganisa isethi yonke yama-phobias ahlobene: ukwesaba ukushiya indlu, ukungena ezitolo, ukuqhuma, ezindaweni zomphakathi noma ukuhamba ezitimeleni, amabhasi noma izindiza.
Kungani abantu abazizwa bejabule njalo, bekhathazekile, besaba futhi besaba, besaba ukushiya ikhaya labo ngaphandle kokuhamba nabantu, basebenzise izithuthi zomphakathi futhi bavele ezindaweni ezigcwele abantu? Ngokujwayelekile besaba ukubonakala esimweni sabo kwezinye izimpawu eziphazamisayo (ukuthi abantu abanjalo bahlobene nobungozi empilweni noma empilweni), njengesizungu futhi umuzwa wesimo esiyingozi, ukushaya kwenhliziyo okusheshayo, ukuphefumula kanzima, umuzwa wokuthuthumela kwangaphakathi. Ukwesaba kukhuliswa ngemicabango ukuthi ngeke bakwazi ukubhekana nemibono enjalo nezwe elikhulayo noma ngeke bakwazi ukuthola usizo lochwepheshe ngesikhathi.
Esikhathini samanje esinzima kakhulu senjabulo, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba kanye nama-phobias, abantu empeleni baba yizigqila zokwesaba emakhaya abo. Abakwazi ukuhlala emsebenzini, balahlekelwa abangane nabangane. Iziguli ezine-agoraphobia zivame ukubhekana nokucindezeleka, zithuthuka ngenxa yemingcele eyinkimbinkimbi nobuhlungu eyenziwa yizinkathazo ezikhona.
Kuyini ukuhlaselwa kwesifo?
Abantu abaningi abahlukunyezwa yi-agoraphobia, kanye namanye ama-phobias, babhekene nokuphazamiseka okuqinile nokuzumayo okwesaba, noma kunalokho okwesabisayo, okubizwa ngokuthi ukuhlaselwa kwe-panic. Njengomthetho, ukuhlaselwa kwesibindi kubonakala izikhathi ezingu-1-2 ngesonto, nakuba amacala uma kwenzeka izikhathi eziningana ngosuku noma, ngokuphambene, kanye kuphela ngonyaka akuvamile. Abantu abaye babhekana nalesi simo esinzima kakhulu bavame ukufuna usizo lwezokwelapha, bakholelwa ukuthi baye bahlaselwa isifo senhliziyo noma isifo sohlangothi. Kulokhu, ngemuva kokuqinisekisa ukuthi isiguli asinaso isifo se-somatic, udokotela umthumelela ekhaya, nje ecela ukuphumula, ukulala, ukuguqula, kepha lokhu akwanele ukuqeda ukwesaba. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunethuba eliphakeme lokuthi ukuhlaselwa kwesibindi kuzokwenzeka futhi maduzane.
Ngemva kokubhekana nokucindezeleka okuhambisana nokuhlaselwa kwesibindi, umuntu esikhathini esizayo ngokuvamile uzama ukuwugwema, futhi i-agaphoaphobia yakhe izokhula kuphela. Ukwamukelwa ukuze "kungafi" noma "kungabi namahloni" kungaholela ekutheni ingqondo nokuziphatha kungaphansi kwalesi sifo. Umuntu uyangena esimweni sokukhathazeka futhi ama-phobia aze aqale nokuqondisa indlela yokuphila, isibonelo, ukuphoqa umuntu ukuba ahlale ekhaya ngokwesaba ukuhlaselwa okusha.
Isifiso sokugwema izimo lapho ukwethuka okunganqoba khona kungabangela umuntu ukuba ahole ukuphila okunjengokungathi ukuhlasela lokhu kwenzeka nsuku zonke nangehora. Ukwesaba okukhulu kokuthunjwa kuyaziwa ngokuthi ukwesaba ukulinda. Ukunqoba lokhu kwesaba kungesinye sezikhathi eziyisihluthulelo zokutakula kusuka ekwesabeni i-neurosis ne-agoraphobia. Ukuqeda ukuhlaselwa kwesabisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bayesabisa kangakanani, ukuqaphela ukuthi abengekho uphawu lokugula kwesifo esongela impilo, noma i-harbinger yokugula kwengqondo, kuyasiza kakhulu. Ukuhlaselwa kwesibindi, nazo zonke izinhliziyo zakhe kanye nezinye izinto, kuyisenzo esandayo sokwanda ngokweqile kwengqondo noma ngokomzimba, futhi akukho muntu ogwemekile kulokhu. Futhi nakuba ngesikhathi sokuhlaselwa kwesibindi isimo esibukeka singathandeki kakhulu futhi ngokuzenzekelayo kunzima kumuntu, ngokwayo, akakho nengozi yangempela empilweni. Ukuhlaselwa kwe-panic attack, ehambisana nenjabulo, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba kanye ne-phobia, akuholeli ezinkingeni, ukulahlekelwa ukulawula ngokwakho noma ukungahlambuluki.