Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Ngemuva kwakho konke, kamuva nje usubhidele zonke izinsuku zokuzalwa, imishado namanye amaholide, waya emaphakathini amnandi, futhi ngokumane, ukuhambela omunye nomunye. Usekela abangane bomunye nomunye ngezikhathi zokujabula nokudabukisayo zokuphila. Wazizwa uhle, ufudumala futhi ukhululekile ndawonye, ngoba wazi ukuthi unomunye nomunye. Ubengabangane iminyaka, futhi ubungane bakho buqiniswa yizinto ezithandekayo, izinkumbulo kanye nokubona.
Kodwa kukhona izinguquko ezinkulu empilweni yakho. Ulindele umntwana futhi ufuna ukwabelana ngenjabulo yakho elinde isikhathi eside nazo zonke ukukhanya okumhlophe! Ufuna ukutshela abangani bakho mayelana nokubona kwakho, ubatshele mayelana nezinguquko ezizayo empilweni yakho. Futhi-ke, ubatshela mayelana 'nesimo sakho esimnandi kakhulu'. Ngokuvamile ukusabela akunakwenzeka, hhayi ngendlela okulindele.
Ungakhathazeki! Ngisho nawe usenenkinga yokujwayela isimo sakho esisha, futhi ungathini ngabangani bakho! Ikakhulukazi uma bona bengenazo izingane, bazizwa becindezela emphakathini wakho. Abangani abazi ukuthi baziphathe kanjani nawe, yingakho beka ukumema ukuba uvakashele, uhambe, uye emihlanganweni, njalonjalo. Baqala ukwesaba ukuthi bazosho okuthile okungalungile, ngeke benze okudingayo, bayokulimaza, bazokufica ...
Kulesi simo, akudingeki ukuba uthule futhi uvumele konke kuhambe. Uzofihla icala, futhi ibanga phakathi kwakho nabangani bakho liyokhula ngokwengeziwe. Buza ngokuqondile ukuthi yisiphi isizathu sokuhlukaniswa kwabo. Uma lezi zesaba ngempela ngenhlalakahle yakho, khona-ke tshela abangani bakho ukuthi akudingeki ukuthi bathathe umthwalo wesimo sakho. Chaza ukuthi wena nomntanakho unomthwalo wemfanelo, futhi vumela abangani bakho baphendule kuphela ngombono wakho omuhle.
Isimo esihluke kakhulu siqala nalabo abangani abavele benabantwana. Zilungiselele ukuthi zikuphonsa ngezeluleko eziningi, izinkumbulo kanye nokubona. Bazofuna ukukuchoboza, ongenalwazi kodwa engazi, ngokombono wabo, igunya labo. Ngeke babuze uma udinga lokhu? Ingabe ufuna ukuphathwa ngale ndlela?
Yiqiniso, uzobe ucasulwa yizo zombusazwe. Kodwa ake sibone ukuthi yini eyashukumisa labacebisi? Futhi bashukunyiswa ukunakekelwa wena kanye nengane yakho yesikhathi esizayo. Bayafuna ngempela ukukusiza futhi bakuvikele ezinkingeni naseziphambekweni ezingase zihlangane nazo. Ungakuvumeli ukuthi uhambisane negama elifanayo. Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi uthando nokunakekelwa kwabangane kungabonakala ngawe "kuma-bayonethi."
UMkhandlu kuleso simo kungaba yinye kuphela: uma "umeluleki" engaphezu kwetende, mtshele ngokucophelela ukuthi uyakwazisa konke akushoyo, kodwa okwamanje awunaso isifiso sokukhuluma ngalesi sihloko nalapho udinga usizo, wena kufanele kuxoxwe.
Ngezinsolo "ezinganakwa," uma umeluleki ebonakala engenele futhi eqhubeka enza izinzwa zakho ngemilayezo yakhe, nakuba umtshele ukuthi awufuni ukukhuluma ngakho manje, kufanele uthathe isinyathelo esinzima. Ngokuphendula ukugeleza kwezeluleko, tshela ngokuqinile: "Yiqiniso, ngiyabonga kakhulu ngeseluleko, kepha ngifuna (ngithanda, ngiyakwazi) ukuxazulula le nkinga ngaphandle kosizo lwangaphandle (nomyeni wami)." Cishe, emva kwesitatimende esinjalo uzocasuka futhi uzobe uthanda isikhathi esithile. Thatha lula. Ngeke bahlale bekhubekile, kodwa bazoqonda ukuthi usuvele useyintombazane endala, okwazi ukuzikhethela ukuthi kanjani nokuthi yiziphi izimo okufanele azenze.
Futhi uma engasizi ... Kulungile, ke ngokujulile, ngokujulile, ingabe udinga ngempela abangane abanjalo?