Ushadile ngemva kweminyaka engu-30: ukwehluleka
Njengoba uneminyaka yobudala, umbuthano wokukhulumisana kwabantu, ezimweni eziningi, unciphile kakhulu. Futhi uma ungakaze ube yindlela esebenzayo yokuphila, ngaleyo nkathi, akunakwenzeka ukuthi othile uzobe ekhona, ngaphandle kwezintombi ezimbalwa kanye nozakwabo emsebenzini. Lokhu kuholela ekutheni ukuthola umuntu oshade naye kuthola kanzima futhi kunzima, futhi izikhumbuzo eziqhubekayo ezivela ezihlotsheni azivumeli ziphumule.
Uma wakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga ezichaziwe ngenhla, uzobe uhalalisiwe, akuwona wonke umuntu impumelelo. Ngeshwa, lokhu akusikho konke, ubunzima buqala nje, ubunzima bokuphila komndeni wamanje.
Okokuqala, abalingani abaningi bezeminyaka, kunzima kakhulu ukujwayela omunye nomunye, ngoba wonke umuntu ujwayele ukuhlala yedwa futhi ekude ahlale ehlangene nemikhuba yabantu kanye nokungaphumeleli. Uzokwazi yini ukuvala amehlo akho enkampanini ecasulayo yomndeni?
Umshado oneminyaka engamashumi amathathu kusho ukuthi abantwana base-uvas bazophuza. Lokhu akusho nje inkinga ebuhlungu yenkinga yezizukulwane, kodwa futhi ukuthi omdala umzimba wesifazane, kube nzima kakhulu ukuba athwale futhi abelethe umntwana. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, lesi simiso kufanele siqale ukuhlela ngokushesha ngemva komshado.
Silethe izici ezibaluleke kakhulu zomshado emva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu, manje ungacabangela izici zayo ezinhle.
Ushadile emva kweminyaka engu-30: izinzuzo
Kule minyaka yobudala, njengomthetho, abantu basebazi kakade lokho abakufunayo empilweni, nasebuhlotsheni bomndeni, futhi bashada nabo bonke abathintekayo, ngokuqaphela. Kanti futhi, ngokuvamile umuntu uvele esazi ukuthi angakuthola kanjani ukwehlisa izinto, angaziboni ukuhluleka okuncane - konke lokhu kuzokusiza ukunciphisa inani lezingxabano nezinhlamba ezikhona, futhi, ngokusho lokhu, lokhu kusho ukuthi umshado uzoba namandla kakhulu.
Okubaluleke kakhulu yiloluhlangothi lwezinto eziphathelene nendaba. Uma umlingani wakho eneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-30 ubudala, kungenzeka ukuthi usevele unesimo esithile emphakathini, isikhala sendawo, umsebenzi, izimoto zakhe. Uma kunjalo, ungakwazi ukuphumula futhi uvumele ukujabulela ukuphila. Ngeke kudingeke uphonse impumelelo ekuzameni ukuzethemba ikusasa, ungathula ingane futhi ufundise. Futhi noma ngabe kukhona okungalungile okwenzekayo, awudingi ukuqala kusukela ekuqaleni.
Abanye besifazane bakubheka njengenzuzo ukuthi ezimweni eziningi esikhathini esinikeziwe, le ndoda isivele "ihambile", kanye ne-ion ngokwayo. Zonke iziphepho zezifiso nemizwelo zidlulile futhi manje wena nomlingani wakho nilungele ubuhlobo bomndeni. Akusekho wena, futhi indoda yakho ngeke isongela okwenu kuphela ngenxa yokukhathazeka okungabaza.
Ngokuvamile kaningi emshadweni onjalo, ubudlelwano bocansi benza kahle ngokwanele. Umlingani ngamunye usevele unesipiliyoni nesipiliyoni esithile, okukuvumela ukuba ujabulele, ngakho ungayisa kumunye umlingani. Yiqiniso, umuntu akanakusho ngokuqiniseka ukuthi ubuhlobo obuseduze buyokwanelisa wonke umuntu, kodwa ithuba liphakeme kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, umshado emva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu kunenzuzo ebalulekile - usuvele unemiphumela ethile yomsebenzi, isimo esithile senhlalo, ujabule emshadweni futhi ungaba umama omuhle kakhulu.
Ezinye izibalo
Ngokusho kwedatha ehlinzekwe yi-European Social Survey eyenziwa ngonyaka ka-2006, okungenani amaphesenti ayishumi abesifazane baseRussia abaneminyaka engama-30 no-40 abazange bashade kanyekanye, kodwa abaneminyaka engama-50 inani labo liwile ngamaphesenti amane, okungukuthi, kubonakala sengathi abanye besifazane bamane kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukunquma ngalesi sinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu nesibalulekile.