Sihlaziya izizathu zokuthi kungani amadoda eziphatha njengabesifazane

Ngokwemvelo yowesifazane, isidingo ngumuntu ozovikela, anike izipho ezimnandi futhi enze amancane (futhi hhayi) kakhulu. Inkulumo, njengoba uyazi, iphathelene nomuntu wesilisa. Amantombazane amaningi athi laba bafana babemane nje emakhasini ezothando zothando. Futhi empilweni akukhona ukuthi ngeke uthole isipho kubo, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kufanele unqobe othandekayo ngokwakho. Asiqonde izizathu zalokhu ukuziphatha "kwabesifazane" kwamadoda ethu amahle!

Kungani amadoda eziphatha njengabesifazane?

Ekuqaleni kusukela ebuntwaneni

Izazi zengqondo ziye zafakazela ukuthi ukuziphatha komuntu kuthintwa yizimiso zesilisa nabesifazane ekukhuliseni. Ngakho-ke, amantombazane akhuliswa ngubaba oyedwa akhula ubuntu obuqinile, ukuzwelana nokuthandana abahlukile kubo, futhi abafana abakhuliswa umama oyedwa, ngokuphambene, baba yizimo ezithambile nezothando. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kukhona le mithetho nokuhlukile. Kodwa uma "unenhlanhla" ukuhlangabezana nendodana enjalo "yindodana", zilungiselele ukuthi uzokujabulela ukunikeza izinsolo zobudlelwane bakho ngezandla zomama ezinhle.

I-Psychology iyinto engathí sina, ngakho-ke ungazami ukwenza "i-muzhik" yakho kusuka ekhethiweyo yakho kusukela evikini lokuqala lomngane wakho. Abantu abanjalo banezinye izimfanelo eziningi ezinhle: njengababusi, abathandekayo abaqondayo abashadile, abajabuli ngezinkinga zabesifazane, bangakwazi ukubekezelela izinguquko ezibukhali emoyeni wabesifazane nehora nengxenye yemali yokudlela. Amadoda anjalo azovame ukukunika izipho, noma kunjalo, futhi ufuna lokhu ngokubuyisela.

Ukukhwabanisa nomuntu onjalo-kuyabiza kakhulu, kodwa naye ungakhuluma ngokukhululekile, futhi owesifazane kufanele athathe leli thuba. Ngefomu elibuthakathaka, mtshele izikhalazo zakho, ukusikisela ukuba uhlanganyele kolunye uhlobo lwezemidlalo yesilisa, ukuya ebhokisini lokudubula, ukudlala ibhola, ukuthatha ibhoksi noma ubuciko bokulwa. Uma umuntu ethanda kakhulu ukuba phakathi kobulili bakhe, uyazethemba ngokwengeziwe ukuthi uzoba yini.

Abesifazane abanamandla abaseduze

Isilinganiso samadoda asithintekile ngokukhuliselwa kuphela, kodwa futhi nawo wonke amaqoqo abambelele kuwo isikhathi eside. Kwenzeka ukuthi esikoleni, naseyunivesithi, nasemsebenzini, lo mfana wayehlale / engabangane nabesifazane abanamandla nabanamandla abangazange bakhulume ubuthakathaka babo obungokwemvelo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, indoda ivele isetshenziswe ukuthi yonke imisebenzi yakhe yenziwa ngobulili obuhle futhi ngokuzithandela inikeza amandla ezandleni hhayi kuphela emsebenzini, kodwa futhi ekuphileni kwakhe siqu. Amadoda anjalo afuna umngane wokuphila ngomlingiswa oqinile. Izazi zengqondo zeluleka amantombazane ukuba angashiyi ubuthakathaka bawo ngokuthanda abantu. Ngokuphambene nalokho, yiba ngowesifazana futhi unesibindi. Indlela yodwa yokuvuka kumuntu yisimo sakhe semvelo.

Umlingisi onjalo

Futhi kwenzeke ukuthi umfana uzalwe ngumlingiswa wesifazane. Kusukela ebuntwaneni yena ukhetha inkampani yamantombazane, kunokuba abefana, akanandaba nezenzo zokuzijabulisa zomuntu futhi akenzi izinyathelo zokuqala ebuhlotsheni. Uzithanda kakhulu kakhulu ukuba anakekele othile. Laba bafana basebenzisa isikhathi esiningi ekubukeni kwabo, kuthiwa "ama-narcisseuses". Naphezu kokuzidla kobugovu, amadoda alolu hlobo angabalingani abalinganayo ebuhlotsheni, noma kunjalo, isizathu salokhu kungenzeka ukuthi sizithanda wena, hhayi kuwe.