Uthando lwabazali luyisindlela esiyinhloko semfundo yothando lwezingane ezivela kumakhelwane, emvelweni, kuzo zonke izinto ezizungezile.
Kunezindlela zengqondo zokutadisha imizwa yabazali. Isici esiyinhloko salezi zindlela zokufunda ukuthi uthando lwabazali luyisiqalo nokuphela kobudlelwane bomndeni, kanye nomphumela wemizwa yomshado. Njengoba nje umuntu ngamunye engumuntu ngamunye, njengoba ubuhlobo bomuntu nomunye bomunye nomunye, ubuhlobo nengane yabo nakho akulula. Ngomntwana wakho, singathanda ukuzibonakalisa thina, ukuphindaphinda komuntu omthandayo, noma, ngokuphambene, ukufana nomuntu ongajabulisayo. Umntwana usenomuzwa wokuthi uthando lwabazali bakhe kusukela ebusweni, futhi uluthatha ubisi lomama. Izingane zidinga ukubonisa uthando lwaso njalo emzimbeni nasemzimbeni. Kumele bazizwe futhi baqonde ukuthi bayathandwa. Amanye amagama "Angikuthandi ngokwanele."
Yebo, kunzima kakhulu ngezinye izikhathi ukuqonda izingane zethu, kodwa lo msebenzi obaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwethu konke. Futhi uma ukhathalela ngokwengeziwe, nakakhulu uzobe uhaqwe luthando esikhathini esizayo nalabo abaseduze nawe.
Uma ingane ithola inani elidingekile lothando lwabazali, khona-ke uyozihlonipha yena nalabo abasondelene naye, bayohamba kanzima empilweni futhi badlulisele lo mzwelo ezizukulwaneni eziphumelelayo.
Kukhona amacala uma kubonakala ngathi akubaluleke nakakhulu ukuthi ingane ngaleso sikhathi ingase ibonakale iwubuhlungu empilweni yakhe yonke. Kulesi simo, ingane izama ukufinyelela kithi, ngoba uyazi ukuthi abazali bayisekela futhi baqonde, okuyinto ephenduka uthando.
Abaningi bayaphutha lapho ingane igcinwa ngokuqinile, ithi "uyesaba - uyahlonipha." Lokhu akumele kwenziwe nakanjani. Ukhula kancane kancane ekuhlukunyezweni kwengane, engayiphonsa kakade esemdala, kubantwana bakhe, kumlingani noma kumfazi. Futhi ngeke akuthande, uzovele esabe.
U-Ross Campbell, umuntu oye wahlola ubuhlobo phakathi kwezingane nabazali weluleka, ukuthola isikhathi sokuthinta ngokomzimba kangcono kunokuba uma ushintsha noma ugeza ingane, njll. ngenxa yesidingo.
Shaya ingane ekhanda, yithinte ngendlela enobungane ehlombe, cindezela ipeni lakhe - lokhu kuyoba impendulo engokwenyama embuzweni othi: "Uthando lobuzali beqiniso kufanele lube njani." Ama-touchings enza ulwazi oluthe xaxa, isibonelo, ngokuthinta, singabonisa ukulahlwa, ukucasuka, ukunakwa, inzondo nokuthanda uthando.
Uthando lwabazali, indlela eyinhloko yemfundo yothando ezinganeni ikhuthazwa yi-factor, indlela abayithola ngayo ekuthandaneni kwengane nangokwanele okwanele. Nakuba abantu abaningi ababengazi ukuphila kwabazali babo ekuphileni, babhekane nokukhuliswa kwezingane futhi batshale imali kulokho abangathanda ukuba nabo.
Ubuciko bokugqugquzela uthando ngabantwana ukutshala imali enganeni, hhayi lokho esikufunayo, ngokushelelayo nangokuthanda, kodwa lokho abakudingayo nalokho okudingayo.
Esikhathini sethu, impilo iyashintsha ngejubane elifuthekayo, amaqabunga endala, futhi endaweni yayo iza konke okusha. Lokhu kusebenza ezindleleni eziyinhloko zokukhulisa izingane - uthando. Uma ngaphambili abantwana bebazi igama "kuyadingeka", manje sekushintshiwe amagama athi "ake sizame, angakwazi ukusebenza". Futhi lokhu kuvela ekudlulelweni kothando emndenini. Njengokuntuleka kothando, futhi ukudlula kwalo kudonsela izici eziningana ezingalimaza ingane ekuphileni kwamuva. Uma ingane ivunyelwe konke, ngakho-ke abanye abazali babonisa uthando lwabo, kuba ubugovu, emhlabeni kuye akekho okhona. Uzibeka ngaphezu kwabazali bakhe, futhi ubaphathe njenge-wand magic egcwalisa zonke izifiso zakhe. Kodwa lo mzuzu ungase ulahlekelwe yilapho usuku olulodwa amandla awo bese kuqale ukushaqeka kakhulu. Izingane ezinjalo aziba nabangane, futhi uma zingabangane kuphela ngenxa yenzuzo ethile. Ekuphileni kwabo kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukuba baxazulule. Abaningi bafuna ukwesekwa ezinkampanini ezimbi, lapho abanye bengakhathaleli ngobugovu noma cha. Yilapho abazali beqala ukubuza imibuzo "kungani", "futhi ngenxa yalokho, ngoba sonke singuye." Futhi inkinga kuphela kubazali ngokwabo.
Izingane aziyona iphalenda, okungeke ukwazi ukuyiphatha ngamafutha. Emfundweni kufanele ichazwe ngokucacile njengothando lokuqina okunjalo, kokubili okuthandekayo nokucindezela. Kodwa into esemqoka okudingeka uzizwe lapho ingane idinga usizo, futhi uma udinga ukuphikisa. Futhi kufanele ube ngowokuqala ukusiza futhi unikele iseluleko noma ngokuphambene nokubeka konke endaweni yayo futhi ufune izincazelo. Nje ungadluli!
Akumangalisi ukuthi "Izingane ziyizimbali zokuphila"! Phela, izimbali nazo zibangele imizwelo emihle kubantu - i-caress, i-tenderness, injabulo. Futhi lapho empilweni yethu kufika umzuzu obaluleke kakhulu njengokuzalwa kwengane - sonke sidinga ukuqonda ukuthi lena imbali encane egcwalisa yonke insimu yezimbali, futhi ukuthi isixhumanisi emphakathini wethu womphakathi esizifundisayo thina. Ngakho-ke, uthando lwangempela kanye oluyinhloko ngumzali, njengoba sizoliveza kubantwana bethu, ngakho-ke kuzokwakhiwa, ukugcwalisa sonke isikhala esisizungezile.