Uyazi ukuthi zonke izingxabano zomndeni zingahle zilandiswe nje, futhi izingxabano ezinjalo zingaletha izinkinga eziningi empilweni yakho yomndeni. Izingxabano ezinjengokuphakama kwabantu, ubugovu, ukuhlukumezeka kanye nokungahambi kahle kwezimo. Kubonakala kungenjalo, kodwa kholwa kimi, lokhu kwanele ukuthi umndeni wakho uhluleke.
Manje sizocabangela zonke izingxabano emndenini bese sizama ukuhlonza umndeni ngezizathu zokuxabana, ukuze silondoloze impilo yomndeni.
Kukhona imibhangqwana ejabulisayo ehlala njalo efuna ukufakazela ukuthi omunye wabo uyiphutha futhi akayena ohlakaniphile njengoba angathanda ukubonakala. Futhi ngokuvamile esesimweni esinjalo oshade naye noma umfazi bafakazela ukufaneleka kwabo, kodwa balahlekelwa ukuthula emndenini.
Futhi kukhona abantu abakwazi ukufakazela kubo bonke ukuthi bangcono kakhulu, futhi bonke abanye abemi ngisho nomunwe wabo omncane. Lokhu kuziphatha ngendlela efanayo ebuhlotsheni bomndeni kuyoholela ekungeneni. Ngaphezu kwabo, kunezizwe ezizungezile eziqaphela lokhu futhi zingathinta ubuhlobo bomyeni nomkakhe. Oshade naye noma oshade naye ngale ndlela yokuziphatha ngaphandle kokuqaphela, ukuchitha impilo yomndeni wabo. Umuntu akufanele acabange yena kuphela, kodwa ngabantu abakuzungezile.
Ngizokutshela ngomunye wabangane bami abangalokothi balalele iseluleko somuntu, kodwa uyathanda ukuwapha ngenjabulo enkulu. Lokhu kuziphatha, uma kulula ukukhuluma ngakho, ukungabi nobuqili nokushaywa indiva, okungabangela ukungqubuzana emndenini.
Imifumba yezizathu zabo
Ngandlela-thile umuntu oyedwa ohlakaniphile wathi iseluleko kufanele sinikezwe abantu kuphela uma umuntu ngokwakhe ekubuza yona ngakho. Kodwa kaningi ngaso sonke isikhathi abantu abazange babheke lo mthetho futhi bamane bangayinaki. Abantu abaningi abathanda ukunikeza iseluleko abakwazi ukuqonda empilweni yabo ngakho-ke bazame ukufundisa wonke umuntu ukuthi baphile kanjani nokuthi baziphathe kanjani kulokhu noma isimo.
Phakathi kwababini, kubuye kuvame kakhulu ukuthi ukuziphatha okunjalo kwenzeka lapho bezama ukubulala noma omunye womshado. Futhi phakathi kwalabo abashade baqala ukuxabana komndeni. Esikhathini iseluleko sabanokusebenza kwengqondo, ukuxhumana okuvamile komunye nomunye, kungcono ukungaphazamisi umxhumanisi futhi ungalokothi uphazamise inkulumo yakhe lapho ukhuluma nawe noma omunye umuntu.
Ngokuvamile abesifazane bathanda ukufaka amasenti amahlanu lapho bekhuluma, lapho abantu bexhumana. Kodwa amadoda awakuthandi ukuhlangana nomuntu, ikakhulukazi owesifazane, ngoba ngaleso sikhathi uvele ephazamise umcabango wakhe futhi angamvumeli ukuba alethe ingxoxo yakhe ekupheleni. Futhi yingakho kuphakama ukuxabana phakathi kwemibhangqwana eshadile. Khumbula abesifazane abathandekayo, amadoda abathanda ukuletha zonke izitatimende zawo ekugcineni. Uma ufuna ukuveza umbono wakho, kungcono ukwenza lokhu emva kwengxoxo yabo noma ukukhuluma kamuva ngalokhu nomyeni wakho.
Ingxenye eyinhloko emndenini kufanele ikhulume ngokukhululekile. Uma engekho emndenini wakho, khona-ke uzohlala unenkinga ngomunye nomunye futhi umhawu ungase uvele, futhi umhawu njengoba wazi, kunoma yini enhle engakafiki. Ungalokothi uhlekise ngesigamu sakho sesibili. Emva kwakho konke, akubona wonke umuntu ongaqonda lokhu futhi athathe njengenhlaya. Futhi akunakwenzeka ukuthi oshade naye angathanda ukuba into yokuhlekwa usulu, kungamlimaza kakhulu, zama ukuhlonipha imizwa yabanye.
Ungalokothi uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo kusuka komunye umuntu kuya komunye. Futhi ungakhumbuli ngaso sonke isikhathi umuntu wezinye izimo zokuphila ezingathandeki okwenzeke empilweni yakho yomndeni. Ungabangela ukuziphatha okunjalo kumuntu wokuhlukumezeka nobugovu.
Uyazi ukuthi igama elithi ulaka, kusuka kwisiLatini, lihunyushwe njengokuhlaselwa. Futhi ngempela umuntu ohlukumezayo uqala ukuhlasela wonke umuntu ngaphandle kwesizathu. Kubantu abanjalo, ukuhlaselwa komuntu kuba indlela yokuphila komndeni, kanye nendlela yokuphila. Ngokuvamile abantu abanjalo babizwa ngokuthi umgqomo wesibhamu, baqala ukuzibandakanya nokuxabana kwabo, laba bangabangane bokuphila njalo. Ngabantu abanjalo, kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukugwema izingxabano emndenini.
Ungasindisa kanjani umndeni futhi ugweme izingxabano emndenini? Okokuqala, zama ukukhuluma nomngane wakho ngokukhululekile nangokwethembeka. Zama ukukhumbula ukuthi wawujwayele kanjani ukuhlangana ndawonye nokuthi waziqonda kanjani kahle. Zama, bonisa ukuhlakanipha futhi mhlawumbe zonke izingxabano zakho nokungaqondi kahle kuzokudlula.
Kukhona nabantu abaningi abazikhukhumezayo abagxila kuphela. Abantu abanjalo bazama ukufeza yonke into yabo kuphela futhi abakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi kungani kungekho muntu owaziyo. Futhi futhi kukhona ukuxabana okuqhubekayo emndenini, okuholela ekuhloleni komndeni ukuhlukanisa.
Uma othandekayo wakho engumuntu onobudlova, zama ukuphikisana naye futhi ungabonakali lutho kuye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi udinga ukuvumelanisa nomuntu onjalo futhi uphambise iqembu lakhe elibi, noma ukungqubuzana ebuhlotsheni bakho ngeke kuphele.
Sithemba ukuthi emva kweluleko sethu, uyazi ukuthi ungakwazi ukugwema izingxabano emndenini futhi uzokwazi ukulondoloza impilo yomndeni wakho. Isibekezelo esikhulu kanye nesineke kuphela!