Ukuphila komndeni kuqukethe i-cocktail yonke yezenzakalo: lapha futhi kuhlangene ukuphuma ukusebenza, kanye namaqembu wetiyi kusihlwa, nezingxabano ezincane ngenxa yamasokisi ahlakazekile endaweni engafanele. Kodwa konke lokhu kuthokozela kuphela emndenini wendabuko, okungeke kuthiwe ngento efana nomshado wesimenywa, lapho kungenakwenzeka khona ukudala izimo ezinjalo.
Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ngaphandle kwemininingwane echazwe ngenhla, umndeni awukwazi ukukhona, ngakho-ke umshado wesimenywa awukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi wangempela. Abantu abanobudlelwane obunjalo, futhi ngubani onamaqhawe okuhlasela iqiniso, ethi umndeni ophumelelayo umsebenzi omkhulu, futhi wabonisa ukuthi ungakwazi ukugwema isimiso, ushiye iholidi elingapheli empilweni yakho.
Abashadile abamukela ngokusobala ukuthi basemshadweni wesimenywa bayaqiniseka ukuthi kukhona indawo eqondile eyabelwe umsebenzi, okungukuthi ihhovisi, futhi wonke umuntu kufanele ajabule, ngaphandle kokuguqula umkhuba futhi ngaphezulu njengomsebenzi. Lokhu kusebenza nasebuhlotsheni bobulili, ngoba uthando luyadingeka kuphela uma umphefumulo ufisa, hhayi ngoba unomsebenzi wobulili. Ukunakekela umlingani kufanele futhi kulethe injabulo futhi kungenamatheli kumyeni noma umkami nje ukuze ekugugeni kwakunzima ukukhathazeka ebusuku.
Umkhuba uyinto enamandla
Kuyinto engavamile ukuzwa kulabo abavikela umndeni wendabuko ukuthi akekho oyokhipha isiphuzo kulabo abahlala emshadweni wezihambi lapho begugile, ogcwele amanzi. Futhi kuthiwani uma ungayidingi le ngilazi?
Ukuphikisana okulandelayo, ukuzwakala ekusekeleni amasiko, kuyisidingo sokubeletha futhi kukhulise izingane ezizoba nzima ukuchaza ukuthi kungani umama nobaba bengaboni ndawonye ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa bavame ukuvakashela umngane ngezikhathi ezithile. Futhi ubani owakutshele ukuthi lokhu kulungile? Yebo, ezweni lethu abesifazane abaningi bahlala nabesilisa abangathandeki kuphela ngoba izingane kufanele zihlale kuwo wonke umuntu, lapho abazali bobabili beqokwa khona.
Abaxhasi abaningi bemishado yendabuko, phakathi kwabo ngokuvamile abayeni, bakholelwa ukuthi ubudlelwane bezihambi abukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi umndeni. Yebo, kunenzuzo ukuthi indoda ize kanye ngesonto kumuntu obizwa ngokuthi oshade naye, uthole ukwesekwa ngokomzwelo nokuzilibazisa ngokocansi, owesifazane ukhululekile ukungahambisani nomndeni, ungapheki njalo futhi ulinde umyeni wakhe emsebenzini. Kodwa uma umuntu ethatha isinqumo sokushada, kufanele alungele zonke izintelezi zayo.
Kunomqondo wokuthi emindeni enezindadi zendabuko, umqondo womunye umhlatshelo ulingana, futhi abantu bashada nje ukuze kube nomunye umuntu ozohlala naye bese efa ngosuku olulodwa. Njengokuthi umshado uyisiqinisekiso sokuthi lapho usukhulile uzoba nengxenye eyintandokazi, ukwethenjwa nothando, esikufanelekele ebusheni bethu. Kuvela ukuthi emva kokuphila esikhulile, ungathembela kuphela kumlingani wakho. Kodwa kuthiwani ngabanye abantu, isibonelo, izingane, izihlobo?
Isizathu sokuqiniseka
Uma sicabangela umshado wendabuko ngendlela yokubheka ukuzinza, khona-ke abantu abahlala emndenini bangabonisa ukuthi inyunyana yabo ingunaphakade, kanti lo mlingani abathembela kuzohlala nathi usuku lonke. Ukuhlala emshadweni wezivakashi, abalingani bayazi ukuthi njenge-nikruti, futhi kulokhu kuphila kufanele bathembele ikakhulukazi othandekayo futhi size kuleli zwe yedwa, futhi sishiye ngaphandle kokuhambisa. Vumelanani, ngoba kunezibonelo eziningi lapho kungenjalo indlu ejwayelekile, ngisho nezingane ezingasindiswa ekukhonzeni, ukugula okubulalayo noma ingozi.
Yiqiniso, akufanele sifihle iqiniso lokuthi imishado yezivakashi isekelwe abantu abanengqondo ekhethekile kanye nendlela yokuphila: bangabanikazi, abazimele kakhulu ukuba bathembele komunye umuntu ngaphandle kwabo ngokwabo, baqotho ngokweqile, bevuma ukuthi abakwazi ukuphila impilo yabo nomlingani wabo. Izazi zengqondo zithi ngabantu abangezigaba ezixhasa imibono ngomshado wesimenywa. Ukuphumula, ukungabi nobuhlobo obuqinile futhi okungenani ukuqiniseka okuzayo esikhathini esizayo, kuzobhekana nalesi simo.
Khuluma ngokumelene nomshado wesimenywa nalabo abawela kulokhu baphoqeleka. Lezi zigaba zibandakanya imibhangqwana, okutholwe yimuphi umuntu, ithole okuthakazelisayo kwelinye idolobha futhi ibona kuphela isigamu sabo sesibili ngezinsuku ezingavamile zamaholidi. Angenelisekile ngesimo ngomshado wesimenywa nalabo abangakwazi ukuthenga noma ukuqasha indlu, lapho umndeni ungahlala khona.
Kodwa umuntu akakwazi ukucabanga ukuthi bonke abantu abahlala emshadweni wesimenywa kusukela ekuqaleni bavumelana ngokuvumelana nobuhlobo obunjalo. Ngokuvamile lesi simo siphoqeleka. Isibonelo esicacile, esishiwo ngenhla. Kungathi lapho omunye womshado kufanele asebenze noma afunde kwenye idolobha.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umshado onjalo cishe unenkululeko engenamkhawulo, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi abesifazane bafuna ukuthatha umyeni wabo ngento enhle, bahlasele embhedeni obandayo, balungiselele kwasekuseni bese behleka ngaphambi komsebenzi. Amadoda nawo ahlupheka, ngoba ekude nabesifazane, abanalo uthando olujulile nokusekelwa.
Dweba iziphetho
Labo abanesithakazelo sokuba khona kwama-halves wesibili eseduzane, abazimisele ukuhlanganyela nabo bonke injabulo nezinsizi, abafuna ukuhlanganisa izingane zabo abathandekayo, abasoze bavuma ukuhlala emshadweni wezihambi.Ukuphela kwesimo isimo esiphoqelelwe, ngoba kuba mnandi kakhulu ukugcwalisa umsebenzi wabo wesikole, noma othandekayo, uma ebuya emsebenzini, evela kumama noma e-gym.
Uma ungenabantwana okwamanje futhi ulungele ukuhlolwa okuqinile, kungenzeka ukuthi umshado wesimenywa uyinto oyidingayo. Ngako-ke uzoba nomshado we-classical ngeengubo ezimhlophe, isitembu esipasipoti kanye nokuqaphela ukuthi unomlingani wakho.
Banoba nomshado wezihambeli kanye nezici zabo eziyingqayizivele. Ngakho-ke, ngamunye womshado unesikhathi esiningi samahhala, esiziphendulela ngokuziqhenya kwakhe: uma ufuna ukuphishekela umsebenzi, ufuna ukuthuthukisa ukudweba noma ukuhamba nge-motocross. Omunye umzuzu omuhle okhona kulezo zinsuku ngumzwelo othanda njalo, ogcinwa ngesikhathi sokukhulumisana kwabashadile.
Ukukhathazeka okuyinhloko komshado wesimenywa kungacatshangwa, njenge-nistranno, imibono engafanele yabanye, abaningi babo abambheka ukuthi abashadile abangeke baphambuke, obani ubudlelwane babo buzophela noma kamuva.
Izazi zemiqondo zithi umshado wezihambi ungabhekwa njengendlela yokushintsha yesikhashana kanye nohlobo lokuhlola ubudlelwane bamandla. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunzima kakhulu ukuba izingane zikhuliswe kuleso simo futhi abashadile abathintekayo ukuba bazalwe ngokushesha noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi umndeni wabo ubuyela endleleni yokuphila yendabuko.