Okokuqala, ake sikhulume ngokuthi kunjani umehluko eminyakeni yobudala nokuthi intombazane ingakanani ubudala. Ngoba, eqinisweni, singasho ukuthi uthando luncike kunoma yimuphi ubudala, kodwa, eqinisweni, kunezimo ezingamukeleki ngempela. Isibonelo, izindaba ezinjalo zingabonakala kulabo lapho intombazane eneminyaka eyishumi nane ubudala, futhi indoda isivele ingaphezu kwamashumi amathathu. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi indaba efana nezindaba zeLolita kaNabokov ingabizwa ngokuthi ijwayelekile. Vumelana nalokho okungajwayelekile phakathi kwendoda enjalo futhi, empeleni, ingane. Uma abantu bathandana futhi bakhe ubuhlobo, kufanele ukuthi babe nezithakazelo ezivamile. Futhi kulokhu, ngeke kube nombuzo wezintshisekelo. Cabanga ngawe, yini ongayicabangela lapho uneminyaka eyi-14. Mhlawumbe, ngalokho esikoleni ukhathele ngakho nokuthi ungathola kanjani amamaki amahle, mayelana nezintombi nabangane, ama-discos nokuthi abazali abakunakuqondi nhlobo. Indoda eneminyaka engamashumi amane, futhi, mayelana nalokho acabangayo? Ucabanga ngebhizinisi, kusihlwa okuthula ekhaya, mayelana nobhiya nokudoba nabangani. Ngakho-ke, ubuhlobo obunjalo kunoma yibuphi ubugebengu abukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi uthando futhi bayabingelela. Mhlawumbe intombazane inothando ngempela, ngoba kunamadoda abheka okuhle phakathi kwamashumi amane, aziqaphele futhi azi ukuthi unesithakazelo kanjani. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane bavame ukuthanda abantu abadala, ngoba babonakala behlakaniphile futhi abanolwazi. Lokhu, ngokuvamile, kuyiqiniso, kodwa hhayi kulokhu. Ngoba indoda ifuna nje ukuzijabulisa, khumbula intsha. Mhlawumbe yena unomfazi nezingane. Kulula nje, wayekhathele owesifazane ofanayo, noma nje wayefuna ukusho "iwayini elincane".
Insizwa encane yindoda enjalo ivame ukuthandwa ngokobulili. Ngakho-ke, uyashesha, futhi umane uyanyamalala, futhi intombazane izokhala isikhathi eside futhi ihlangabezane nakho kokuqala ukukhathazeka kothando, okuyinto, kungakhathaliseki ubudala bayo, ngeke ibe yintsana nhlobo. Ngakho-ke, yilokho kanye ubuhlobo okumelwe kugwenywe, futhi uma ubona ukuthi udade, intombi noma indodakazi iwile kuleso simo, kudingeka wenze konke. Ukumisa lobu buhlobo. Ngisho noma intombazane ingamelana futhi imemeza ukuthi ikuzondayo, qonda ukuthi manje usemncinyane futhi othandweni. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, intombazane ikhula, iyaqonda konke futhi ngokuqinisekile izokubonga ngokumlondoloza ngesikhathi esifanele ebuhlotsheni obubi.
Kodwa, kunezinye izimo lapho umehluko weminyaka ongadlali indima ekhethekile, okungekho okungalungile. Isibonelo, uma intombazane ishumi nesishiyagalolunye, kanti umfana uneminyaka engamashumi amabili nesishiyagalolunye, lo mthelela awukwazi ukubhekwa njalo. Sonke siyazi ukuthi amantombazane akhula ngaphambi, futhi amadoda abe abahlakaniphile kamuva. Ngakho-ke, singacabanga ukuthi empeleni, kunezinyanga ezintathu kuya kwezine phakathi kwabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma umfana enesifiso sokuzilibazisa kanye nezithakazelo ezifanayo, ngakho-ke akukho mbuzo wokuhluka kweminyaka nhlobo. Uma bobabili behola ukuphila okujabulisayo, ngokwesibonelo, bathanda ukuhamba, babe nesikhathi esibi kakhulu nokunye okunjalo, ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile bobabili babheka abasebasha futhi kuphela labo abazi kahle kakhulu bakwazi ukuhlukanisa umehluko weminyaka. Yiqiniso, ngezinye izikhathi intombazane ingaba nento enganeyingane, kodwa uma ihlakaniphile, eyanele futhi ingathandeki ukwenza amahlaya nganoma yisiphi isizathu, impela ibekezela futhi ingaphenduki. Ngamabili, lapho bobabili bangaphezu kweyishumi nesishiyagalolunye nangaphansi kwezingamashumi amathathu, azikho neze ukungavumelani okukhethekile. Kulokhu, bobabili umfana kanye nentombazane bangabameleli besizukulwane esifanayo, nemfundo efanayo, imibono yokuphila, izithakazelo, izinkinga kanye nezinkumbulo ezijwayelekile zokuphila, ebuntwaneni nokunye. Ngakho-ke, kulula kakhulu ukuba bathole ulimi oluvamile, baqondane, bamukele izinkinga ezingase zijabulise enye ingxenye futhi zenze ngendlela ezobasiza, kunokuba zikhulise isimo.
Yiqiniso, kunzima kakhulu emibhangqwaneni lapho intombazane ingaphansi kwengamashumi amathathu, kanti le ndoda isivele isingamashumi amane. Kukhona okungenzeka kube ukuxabana kwesithakazelo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abazali bakhe bangabhikisha ngokumelene nobuhlobo obunjalo nomshado. Kodwa, ngale nkinga ungabona ukuthi bobabili owesilisa nowesifazane baziphatha ngendlela efanele. Intombazane akufanele ithukuthele abazali bayo, imemeza futhi ihambe endlini. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokwazi ozithandayo. Inkosikazi kufanele ihambise umnumzane emndenini wayo ukuze akhulume futhi aqonde ukuthi ungumfundi ofanelekayo. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi usekhulile lihlanganisa kuphela, ngoba umuntu onjalo uhlakaniphe kakhulu, athembekile futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, unamandla ezinyaweni ohlelweni lwezinto ezibonakalayo.
Umehluko ngeminyaka, indoda endala, akufanele ibe yinkinga kulabo abathandanayo futhi bazimisele ukwehlisa. Yiqiniso, abantu abavela ezizukulwaneni ezahlukene abaqondi njalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa uma lolu thando lungokoqobo, ungakwazi njalo ukuzama ukuqonda inkinga, wenze iziphetho ezifanele futhi uhlehlise. Kulokhu, indoda nowesifazane bangavuma ukuthi ezinye izinto zizophathwa ngokuhlukile. Isibonelo, indoda izodlala igalofu, futhi owesifazane uzoya e-nightclub. Into eyinhloko ukuthi ayibahlukanisi futhi ayiphuli ukuthembana. Uma bobabili bayazi ukuthi ngisho ngaphandle kokuthandana futhi kuzohlala njalo kuyiqiniso, ubuhlobo babo buyoba namandla futhi buhlale njalo.