Indlela yokuphila
Uma uhlushwa izinkathazo zansuku zonke, lapho ikhanda lihlanganiswa nendlela yokwenza isidlo sasekuseni, isidlo sasemini nesidlo sakusihlwa, ugeze, uhlanzeke endlini, ugijime esitolo, uthathe ingane enkulisa noma esikoleni, futhi uhlangane namalungu omndeni wakho owathandayo ngokumomotheka okujabulisayo, Kunzima ukucabanga ngomama nomkami ojabule futhi ojabule. Ukuphila kwansuku zonke, impilo yansuku zonke ifaka umthelela omubi ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwamalungu omndeni, okwenza izingxabano kanye nezingxabano. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ubudlelwane obuhle phakathi kwabashade, kanye naphakathi komama nezingane, kususa ezinye izinkathazo zansuku zonke ezivela emahlombe abesilisa abancane. Ukuze ube ngowesifazane omuhle nomama - okokuqala, yiba ngokwakho, kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi ungowesifazane obuthakathaka - onomusa, omnene, onothando. Ukuphila kwansuku zonke nokuphila kwansuku zonke, kungenjalo, akufanele kube ngumbhubhisi wenjabulo nokuthula kwesidleke somndeni esithulile.
U-Elena, oneminyaka engu-26 ubudala (umama omncane wengane eneminyaka eyodwa):
- Ngaphenduka waba umshini "ikhishi-ukugeza-ironing," Ngikhathele kakhulu, ngihamba njenge-zombie, ngenxa yokuntuleka kokulala. Usuku lwami lonke luzinikezelwe ukuthi ngizama ukulungisa yonke imisebenzi yesikole ngenkathi ingane iphumula, futhi lapho ivukile, ngichitha isikhathi naye.
Isimo sika-Elena sijwayelekile kumama omncane abaningi. Ukukhathazeka kokuphila kanye nosuku akufanele kukucasule, ngoba ukuzalwa impilo entsha sekuvele injabulo enkulu. Ukuba umama omuhle ukujabula ezinganeni zakho futhi ujabulele ukuthi banakho. Ezinyangeni eziyisithupha emva kokubeletha komntwana uzobona ukuthi kuba lula kakhulu, ngonyaka uzongena ngokuphelele kumculo wokuphila omusha, futhi ngemva kweminyaka emibili, ungase ufune ukugcwalisa emndenini. Uma kunzima kakhulu, cela umyeni wakho ukuthi asize ekuxazululeni izinkinga zasemakhaya. Ngendlela ehlakaniphile, ngingabazi ukuthi uzokwazi ukukulahla.
Igolide elisho
Inhloso yegolide, ukuhleleka kobudlelwane bomndeni kungokuqala, ngokuqonda. Ubuhlobo obuhle akuyona ubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuxabana, ubuhlobo obunokuqonda, ukuhlonipha, futhi, ngenxa yalokho, isinqumo esifanayo esihle.
Ukuze ugweme ukukhulula ubuhlobo ngenxa yokungaqondi kahle okuncane kwansuku zonke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukusabalalisa imithwalo yemfanelo yomndeni kokubili phakathi komyeni nomkami, naphakathi kwezingane. Ngelungu ngalinye lomndeni, kufanele kube nesabelo esikhethekile sokukhathazeka komndeni nemithwalo yemfanelo. Kodwa ukwakhiwa kwalolu hlobo lobuhlobo kuncike kakhulu ekutheni abesifazane bakwazi ukuhlela nokusetha "indlela yomndeni". Lokhu cishe akuyona ithalenta, kodwa isifiso sokuhlala othandweni nokuvumelana. Kodwa, ngoba lokhu, kunjalo, kudingeka usebenze kanzima. Spitfire, ukuhlukumezeka nokuhlambalaza yizona ababhubhisi inzalo ubudlelwane futhi hhayi enye indlela nxazonke.
Yiba buthakathaka futhi uqine
Iqiniso kuthiwa owesifazane kufanele abe ngumdlali wezithombe ekuphileni. Ake ucabange, asitshele ukuthi awunayo imizwa, indoda ivela emsebenzini, futhi uyibheka ngokubukeka okungathandeki noma, ngokuphambene, ungaphenduki. Yini engalindelwa ekuphenduleni? Amadoda athande ukunakekelwa, futhi njengawo wonke amadoda avamile, umyeni wakho uzophendula njengokuthanda lokho. Ingabe udinga lesi simo sengqondo kuwe, uzicabange wena. Ukumomotheka nokubukeka okujabulisayo, ngisho, mhlawumbe, ukuhleka usulu, kungakhulisa isimo sakho. Ngenxa yalokhu ngezinye izikhathi ukuvakashela kanye nomlingisi.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umyeni kanye nezingane kufanele bazi ngokwebuthakathaka bakho, uqonde ukuthi ukhathele, ugula noma uzinikele ihora noma ezimbili. Njengoba wakha ubuhlobo obunjalo nezihlobo, awusoze wabilimaza ngalokho okunikezayo, kodwa awutholi lutho lokubuyisela.
U-Alina, oneminyaka engu-23 ubudala:
- Ngiyakhumbula ukuthi umama wethu phakathi "nezinsuku ezibucayi" "wabuyela" embhedeni, futhi thina ngokuqonda senza yonke imisebenzi yesikole futhi sahamba, cishe ku-tiptoe, ukuze singaphazamisi ukuthula nokuthula komamulka wami othandekayo.
Ingabe kuyadingeka ukuba uphelele?
Ukucabanga ngombuzo wokuthi ungaba kanjani umama nomfazi omuhle, ungazami ukuba uphelele. Okokuqala, hlala wena. Umama omuhle akayena umama omuhle womama, ungumama othanda izingane zakhe futhi uyakhathalela inhlalakahle yabo. Umfazi omuhle ngumfazi onothando nothando, umngane othembekile nonokwethenjelwa wokuphila. Kuye kukhona okumele akhulume ngakho, njalo kungenzeka ukuthola iseluleko esihlakaniphile kuye. Umbhede? Umfazi othandekayo nothandekayo akasoze abe nenkinga ebuhlotsheni obuseduze. Indoda ethandekayo ihlale iyindoda efiselekayo, ayinaso amaphutha - inhle kakhulu, noma ngabe ikhathele, ingabi nesikhumba futhi ingenaso isikhathi sokugeza.
Umama omuhle ungumngane othembekile
Ungazami ukwakha ubudlelwane nabantwana usebenzisa indlela "ye-karoti nokunamathela". Imfundo yokwesaba ngeke iholele ebuhlotsheni obuqotho. Ingane yakho kufanele iqiniseke ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, ingakwazi ukuza njalo kuwe futhi ikhulume ngokukhululekile ngakho konke okusemhlabeni, ukuthi ngeke uyihlambalaze futhi uyijezise, kodwa zama ukusiza esimweni esinzima. Abangane akufanele babe ngabokuqala ukwazi izimfihlo nezinkinga zomntanakho, futhi unomusa, unothando, uqonda futhi unomthwalo wemfanelo. Kusukela ekuzalweni kwezingane zakho, ukwakha ubudlelwane obethembayo phakathi kwakho nawe, ungalokothi ukhohlise, khona-ke ungalindela futhi ufune lokhu ngokubuyisela.
I-ekahle izuzwa - yini engingayilwela?
Ngisho noma ucabanga ukuthi empeleni ungumama nomkami omuhle, akusho ukuthi kuzohlale kunjalo kanje. Izingane zikhula, siyashintsha, ngakho-ke isikhathi ngasinye sidinga ukuzivumelanisa nesimo esisha ngendlela entsha. Kuyadingeka ukuthi ukwazi ukubhekana nezinkinga zomndeni, inkathi yobusha yezingane zabo, ukukhuphuka nokuhlaselwa. Futhi, ngokuqinisekile, uzokwazi ukunqoba konke lokhu, ngaphandle kwezinkinga ungaba umama wezingane zakho nomfazi omuhle, okusho ukuthi - ukuba abe umqoqo enkundleni yokuphila!