Bonisa okuningi
Uthando luyaziwa ukuthi luyimpumputhe, ngakho-ke kaningi asiwa labo okufanele. Awumomotheka ukuba ube yisigqila sakhe, futhi ukhetha indlela ezungeze lo mbuso enenkani wezinhliziyo eziphukile. "Emakilasini aphezulu ngigcina idayari - i-pink eyodwa enekhikhi encane eyayivaliwe ngesihluthulelo segolide," kusho uKatya, "akazange agcine noma yimaphi izimfihlo ezikhethekile: Angizange ngibe nazo, ngangilungiselela ukuhlangabezana nothando lokuphila kwami - ngendlela efanayo lapho bezilungiselela khona impendulo ekuhlolweni: wabeka imibono ehlakaniphile kule ndaba.Idayari yanyamalala endaweni ethile, kodwa izingcaphuno zazihlala ekhanda lami. Ngikhumbula, isibonelo, ukuthi i-Kierkegaard ithi into kuphela ongayicabangela ngumzwa womuntu okwenzayo Kodwa angifuni ukuhlupheka nakancane. Ngakhetha iseluleko umlobi waseNgilandi uSamuel Johnson enikeze indodakazi yakhe eminyakeni engamakhulu amathathu edlule: "Uma ufuna ukuthanda isikhathi eside, thanda ingqondo hhayi inhliziyo, hhayi nje kuphela lokho, kodwa ukuze kuzuze wena." Ukugijimela emoyeni wokuzivocavoca komuntu siqu - lokho kusasebenza, kodwa ungakhetha kahle, oqondiswa ukuqonda. "Ngakho ngashada no-Antonio, ngangineminyaka yokuqala lapho efika e-internship, ngilindele ukuhlala izinyanga ezimbili, futhi ngahlala iminyaka emihlanu. Ngenxa yami. Lapho ngihlala eholidini, ngahlala naye eRoma, lonke isikhathi ayehlala eMoscow. Isibonakaliso esithinta inhliziyo kakhulu sasingakaze sithuthele kwelinye izwe hhayi izimbali nezipho anginike wona, kodwa indlela ayehamba ngayo nami esikhungweni njalo ekuseni, nakuba evuka ngo-7 ekuseni. Futhi njengoba sekubandayo, ephethe ukushisa okuphezulu, wahlala nami emifundweni, nakuba ayekwazi ukuphefumula ngokuthula ekhaya. Lapho u-Antonio ephakamisa kimi, ngenza lokho abacwaningqondo abakhuthazayo: Ngathatha iphepheni ngamakholomu amabili - ngakwesobunxele kanye, futhi ngakwesokudla - amaminithi wokuphila kwethu ndawonye. Abazali bami abakhethiweyo bangabanikazi abaye bangamukela mina njengendabuko, ifulethi elivulekile, i-rock band kanye ne-studio yokurekhoda, nginenhlanhla naye, ungumculi oqhamukayo nomqambi, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - uyangithanda kakhulu. I-minuses yaba yi-four kuphela: njengabo bonke ama-italiyane, u-Antonio wayengasetshenziselwa ukuhlupha, ungaphansi kwamamitha angu-centimitha, esikhundleni sama cubes of the press, une-bunch, futhi ... Angimthandi. Kodwa ingabe kubalulekile ngempela? Sekuyiminyaka engu-7 ukuthi sihlangene, iningi labangani bami abaye baphumula ukushada ngothando olukhulu, bakwazi ukuhlukanisa, abanye baze bangabi nanye. Babephuka ngekusasa elihlukile, futhi ngathola kahle lokho engangikufunayo, futhi angizisoli. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi konke okufanayo ngiyazibuza: ngokuzumayo ngiphuthele okuthile ekubala kwami? Kuzo zonke izinto zibushelelezi futhi zibikezela ... "
Uyesaba ukuphenduka udonsa, uhlaselwe umcibisholo we-Cupid, owenza ngokungahambisani nezithakazelo zakho siqu. Ngakho-ke awuzivumeli ukuba ulahlekelwe ikhanda lakho lapho uhlangana namadoda angayiguqula, futhi akhe ubuhlobo nalabo abangakwazi. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ngaphandle kokuzwa imizwa engathí sina ngenhloso yesihawu sakho, ungagcina ikhanda elikhuni. Uzihlelele ngokukhethekile ngokubeka ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo othandweni, futhi akuzange kukuvumele phansi okwamanje. Akukakushiywa ukuthi ngeke kukuvumele, ngaphandle kokuthi, wena ngokwakho, ufuna ukuphakamisa ukuvinjelwa ebuhlotsheni obubi, ngokubona kwakho, abafana, abavame ukuheha amantombazane amnandi.
Ukwenza kahle umshado
Uzame ukufakazela wonke umuntu ukuthi usuvele ungumdala, ungafuni ukushiywa ngemuva komngane ozoba nomshado ngokushesha. Noma, mhlawumbe, ngisemncane, ngangicindezelekile iphupho elinikezwa iHollywood - njengokuhamba kancane, ukugibela e-altare emgqeni wezintambo ezimhlophe ezingenamsebenzi ... Ngethuba lokuqala, waqaphela lesi simo, futhi umshayeli wezintambo zomshado washaywa. U-Igor uthi: "U-Igor wangibiza ukuba ngishade ngokuqondile," kusho uKarina, "futhi ngokushesha nganquma ukuthi ngizoba nomshado, njengangomabhayisikobho." Futhi ukuphila, okufana ne-movie, endlini ehlinzekwa abazali, lapho egumbini lokulala egumbini elinombhalo othi " Ngikhumbula njalo ukuthi ngokucophelela, njengokungathi ngiyaphila, ngisusa igqabha elimnyama ekhanda lakhe elimhlophe, futhi uhlala isikhathi eside futhi enambitheka ngokukhululeka zonke izinkinobho eziyishumi nambili ezembathweni yami kusukela kumbeletho wesikhombisa i-vertebrae emuva ngemuva. "Engxenyeni ka-Igor, konke kwakungokoqobo, kodwa mina. Ngabe ngifunda endaweni ethile ukuthi uthando lokuqala aluhlangene neze nemizwa yangempela-ludinga kuphela ukungazizwa okuncane kanye nesifiso esincane. "Isifiso sazaneliseka, uthando alukaze lwenzeke, isitembu kuphela epasipoti kanye nomgqa ekamelweni lokulala ngesethembiso sokungabi nalutho ukuba sibe ndawonye kuze kube phakade .. Lapho ngineminyaka engu-18, akuzange kwenzeke kimi ukuthi zingaki izinsuku zonyaka nokuthi zonke zibukeka kanjani uma uhlala nabangathandwa. Kodwa uma uneminyaka engu-28, ubheka izinto eziningi ngokuhlukile. "Kungani ungamhlukanisi naye?" - intombi iyamangala. Yebo, ngoba angifuni ukumlimaza mina nami. Siyazi kahle ekilasini lokuqala - kakade iminyaka engu-21! Uyingxenye yokuphila kwami, okungeke ukwazi ukusula kalula. Kufana noTolstoy: U-Nikolai Rostov wayengathandanga noMnuz Marya, kepha, nakuba kunjalo, wayezizwa eyingxenye yakhe. Waqhathanisa umkakhe ... ngomunwe: awunomuzwa okhethekile ngaye, kepha emva kokulahlekelwa, uhlala ukhubazekile impilo yakho yonke. Ngakho nginomuzwa ofanayo kumyeni wami. Ngokuqinisekile akusilo uthando, kodwa namanje ... "Imizwa ipholile, futhi akukhathaleki ukuthi ngabe uhloswe yini ne-Romeo yakho noma cha: ubuhlobo bakho kunoma yikuphi ubuhlobo budinga ukuqala kabusha." Zama ukuthandana nomyeni wakho ezenzweni zesayensi Kuningi lokuqeqeshwa okunjalo, cabanga ukuthi udinga ukukhangisa njengesibonakaliso sobulili futhi ubambe iseshini lesithombe kuso, ukhetha ukuhlunga okuphumelelayo kakhulu futhi ukunikeze isithunzi esiseduze. ubuthi, ubulili endaweni engavamile ... imizwa yokucabanga ingaba yinto engokoqobo: akusizo izezi zezinqondo zithi zithande ukunqoba komcabango ngengqondo, ngendlela, ukuthi nisandawonye nisho okuningi. Mhlawumbe ucabanga ukuthi awunayo Umamazala ukholelwa ukuthi uphile iminyaka engama-40 engathandeki, kodwa wonke umuntu obonile lo mbhangqwana ucacile: imizwa iyabelana.Uthi uyashada ngoba umyeni esongela ukuthi uzophuka emayini uma enqaba ... Kodwa uzoba uyasindisa umuntu ongakhathaleli?
Ngeke ngibe ngumama
Umama wakho uhlushwa uthando, futhi awufuni ukuphinda amaphutha akhe. Uthole ngenkathi efuna injabulo yakhe, futhi wawusencane futhi ukhathazekile kakhulu ngaye nangokwakho.
U-Olya uthi: "Ubaba wayethanda ukuphila kwakhe," kusho u-Olya. "Yonke into eyayisendlini yayibanjelwe umama, wasebenza njengomqondisi wezisebenzi ehhovisi elikhulu, wangiphakamisa mina nomfowabo, salalisa ugogo okhubazekile." Uma i-TV idilikile, yathathwa ukulungisa, uma imoto Esikhathini sokunakekelwa kwemoto ngangixosha izikhwama zokudla ku-dacha esitimeleni. Ubaba wayengacabangi ukuhlangana naye kusihlwa esiteshini noma ukuphonsa uMitka enkulisa ekuseni. Upapa wayekulungisa izingxenye zeqhwa, futhi lapho imiyalo eyomile (okwenzeke ngaso sonke isikhathi), yalala enkabeni Ufakwe nge. Sasihlangana eMallorca (futhi uMama wasebenza kulolu hambo, futhi wenza zonke izincwadi), futhi wadonsela izinsuku ezintathu ngaphambi kohambo lokudoba, nakuba samshukumisele ukuba ahlale ekhaya. ngakho-ke engisashadile futhi ngandlela-thile ngifa kanyekanye ... Ngiyazi into eyodwa: lolu thando aluyena kimi! Ngifuna ukuhlupheka kunanoma yini ephasini engangithandi nhlobo. Ngineminyaka engu-25 ubudala, ngisebenza njengesibonelo engingamthandi kuye. Yamukela ukuthi wesaba ubuhlobo obuseduze. Kodwa akubona bonke abantu abafana noyihlo, futhi akudingeki uphinde uphinde wenze amaphutha omama wakho - uzozenza ngokwakho uma, uma kunjalo, uzinike ithuba elinjalo. Ngandlela-thile, ukukhathazeka nendoda okwakufanele kusuke kudala, ngokuvamile kubhekwe ku-okuthiwa i-symbiotics - amadodakazi, aqashwe kakhulu ngabazali abanobuqhawe. Emshadweni, bahlanganiswe ngokuqinile kumlingani, okuyinto empeleni ethatha indawo kamama noma ubaba. Uma ngabe uzimele kusukela ebuntwaneni, khona-ke ngeke ukwazi ukubekezelela ubuhlobo obenza uhlupheke. Yiqiniso, kunesimo somndeni esithonya ukukhetha kwethu: abaningi bakhe umshado ngokusekelwe emfanekisweni womndeni womzali - uma nje bewubheka njengesibonelo. Futhi uma kungcono kakhulu, benza ngokuphikisana. Yenza okufanayo, ungavumeli ukwesaba kulawulwe impilo yakho. Ngoba ukuthanda kuyisidingo esihle kakhulu, sibekwe esimweni somuntu.
Okuningi futhi akukho lutho
Zonke zihlukile kakhulu. Noma kunjalo awukho ndawonye. Uqala ukuwa othandweni nomunye, kodwa ke uhlangana nomunye - ophakeme, ohlakaniphile, ophumelele kakhulu ... Ngingayikhetha kanjani? Awukwazi impendulo yalo mbuzo, ngakho-ke nje ubukele ukulwa. Vumela leli qembu lama-knights likulwe nezinkemba ukuze likwazi ukumanga umsikazi wendodakazi yabo, ogcina imizwa yokufanelekela kakhulu ... Kodwa akakwazi ukunquma ukuthi ungubani. "Angikwazi ukuthandana, ngeke ngichaze ukuthi ubani," ukhononda u-Christina, "Wonke umuntu uyangithanda ngendlela yakhe." Omunye uhle, omunye unamandla amakhulu, owesithathu ucebile futhi uphumelele ... Njalo lapho ngicabanga: Hhayi, ekugcineni, mina kodwa okulandelayo kubonakala, futhi ngithola kuye lezo zimfanelo engingenalo kumlingani wangaphambili.Ngidinga ukuqala futhi nomunye umuntu, nakuba ngiphupha ngemizwa enamandla nobuhlobo obuhlala njalo.Uye wahlangana nomfana omncane kunami inyanga kakade Ungumuntu ohlekisa futhi ohlakaniphile, kodwa uhlazisa iminyaka yakhe nenkukhu I ukuthola: amadala futhi ufuna ponakachannee Kodwa ngisho noma mina ziyokuwa ngakho kunjalo ngoba ngithola okuthile ukuze bakhononde ngamamaki ... Mhlawumbe ngikuthanda alikho futhi ngiyakujabulela ukuchitha isikhathi sami ngifunana ngifuna ke ".? Ukungabaza "yena / hhayi" ukuhlushwa, kanti uthando lwangempela alukho. Lapho efika, imibuzo iyanyamalala. Kodwa ukuze lokhu kwenzeke, udinga ukugxila ezintweni ezithile, futhi ungazami ukuthandana nalaba abahlanu ngesikhathi esisodwa futhi ungafani nomakoti kaGogol. Ungathinti abafana, njengenqwaba yezigqoko ezintsha kuma-hangers. Ngokusho kocwaningo lwezazi zengqondo zaseMelika, amantombazane aneminyaka engu-16 kuya kwezingama-30 ubudala aphupha ngekhanda elinomlomo kaKeanu Reeves, izindebe zikaBrad Pitt, amehlo kaTom Cruise, amahlombe eHarrison Ford kanye no-biceps uSyvester Stallone. Ukuhlanganisa izici zenkanyezi kwesikrini sekhompyutheni, abalobi bezinhlolovo bathola ubuso obusilisa besilisa - baboshiwe! Ungahambi kude nemicabango futhi uthinte amantombazane, njengenqwaba yezigqoko ezintsha kuma-hangers. Yenza uhlu lwezimfanelo eziyishumi ozikhethela zona futhi uma uthola okungenani ezinhlanu, gxila kuye futhi ungashintsheli kwamanye amakhelwane okwamanje lapho ilangabi luthando selungele ukuvuvukala kulesi sifo.
Awudingi ingxenye!
Awakholelwa ekuthandaneni okuthandanayo mayelana nokuhlangana ngamaminithi amabili, ngoba uzibona ungumuntu okwanele, futhi ungaqali ubuhlobo obungathí sina, ukhetha ukudlala ngothando ngothando, kulula kakhulu! "Kukholelwa ukuthi bonke abantu bayakugwema ukushada, futhi wonke amantombazane ayawuthanda," uLea uhlanganyela ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. "Mhlawumbe othile ufuna ukushada, kodwa hhayi mina, ngineminyaka engu-27, futhi ngenze konke. Angihlezi, nginabantu abaningi, kodwa anginalo noveli oluyinkimbinkimbi, ngoba into ethakazelisayo kakhulu iqala ekuqaleni: umnika isignali - ubukeka kahle emehlweni akho, uphonsa izinwele zakho emahlombe akho, isongo lokukhwehlela, uphonsa unyawo lwakho emlenzeni, ubambe iso, Ulungisa u-tie wakhe, ubeka izithupha zakhe emgqeni. "Kuwe noma kimi?" - futhi konke kwenzeka njengokwokuqala, kodwa uyazi ukuthi lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okuhle kakhulu kungabuyeli kabili nomuntu ofanayo. imizwa idonswa - kukhona kakade akukho drive, into efana ne-weathering yezinzwa zenzeka, ngakho sekuyisikhathi sokuphuma futhi ngokuzingela okukhulu. " Ngokwesilinganiso samagugu akho, ukuziqaphela, hhayi umndeni, kuthatha indawo yokuqala, futhi isimo sengqondo sokuthandana kanye nobulili ngokuvamile siyisilisa. Awulindele ukuthi othile ahlale naye isikhathi eside, ngenjabulo futhi afe ngosuku olulodwa, kodwa ngentshisekelo ufuna umlingani ozobe ekhululekile lapha futhi manje. Kungenzeka ukuthi ngelinye ilanga uzofuna okungaphezu kokudlala ngothando, kodwa manje thanda ngaphandle kwezibopho ezikufanisayo. Ungajabula ngaphandle kwamadoda, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi uzoba yedwa impilo yakho yonke. Ngokubalulekile, akubalulekile kakhulu, uzohlangabezana nesikhathi esizobekwa nguPeter, Antony, Hippolytus noma cha. Empeleni kuwe futhi kuhle. Futhi lokho kwenzeka!