Isikhathi sihamba ngesivinini kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi awunaso isikhathi sokubheka ukuthi masinyane izingane zabanye kuphela zikhula kanjani. Kubonakala sengathi maduzane bathatha indodakazi esibhedlela, kodwa namuhla othile wambiza intombazane. Ingabe usukhule kakade? Noma mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi sokukhuluma ngalezo zinguquko ezikhona noma ezokuqala ukuzenza kuye. Abazali bahlehlisa kangaki le ngxoxo, ngokubhekene nokuntuleka kwesikhathi, bese kungenalo ulwazi, bese kuthi ngesikhathi esingekho emthethweni. Kodwa isikhathi sibaleka kanye nezimpukane, kodwa umzuzu awuze ufike. Lokhu kungaba inkinga enkulu, ngoba uma abazali bengayitsheli ulwazi, izingane zizothola zona. Futhi akuzona njalo kuyoba okulungile futhi okudingekile.
Akulula ukuqala ingxoxo enjalo, ikakhulukazi uma kungakaze kube khona ubuhlobo bokuthembela ngaphambili. Kodwa kuyadingeka futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuyadingeka. Kwaqala nini? Ukudweba iziphetho ezifundweni zanamuhla, iminyaka yokuguquka emantombazaneni kwezimo zanamuhla iqala eminyakeni engu-8-9. Kule minyaka yobudala, amaphesenti ayishumi amantombazane anesisindo. Kule minyaka yobudala okudingayo ukuthi ubatshele mayelana nezinguquko ezenzekayo ezingase zenzeke. Akekho ofuna indodakazi yakhe ukuba ingene kulezi ezingamaphesenti ayishumi, futhi yashaqeka, isesimweni esinjalo ngokungazi ngokuphelele.Yini okufanele utshele indodakazi yakho? Izici zobulili ezivela ngesikhathi sokuvuthwa kwentsha kufaka phakathi: ukuguqulwa kwesimo, ukunyuka kwezigulane ezincelisayo, ukubonakala komjikelezo wesimiso, izinwele ze-pubic kanye namagundane. Indlela nokuthi yini ongayitshela ixhomeke ebuhlotsheni bomntanakho nabazali, kanye nangokwemvelo nokuziphatha komntwana. Kodwa lokhu akufanele kugwenywe, ngoba akukho lutho oluyihlazo futhi olungalungile emisebenzini kanye nesakhiwo sezinhlelo zesimiso sokuzala. Akufanelekile futhi kube namahloni kuphela ukubandlulula okuvimbela abazali ukuba bakhulume nezihloko ezinjalo nezingane zabo.
Ungaqala ingxoxo enjalo ngokushintsha isimo somzimba nesifuba. Amantombazane avame ukulinda lo mzuzwana futhi ahle kakhulu ngalokhu. Eminyakeni yokuguquka, abantwana bangakha ama-complexes ngokuma kwawo, okungeke kube lula ukuqeda. Ngakho-ke, kufanele kucaciswe ukuthi umzimba uzoguquka, amafomu amaningi azovela, kepha lokhu akufanele kuthinte isisindo sonke. Isifuba sisengozini kakhulu phakathi nalesi sikhathi, futhi akukho cala singasilonda noma sishaywa. Kanye nokubukeka kwezinwele ema-axilla nasezikhungweni ze-pubic sebaceous ziqala ukusebenza, futhi kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza izinqubo zokuhlanzeka.
Khuluma ngokuqala komjikelezo wokuya esikhathini kubhekwa ngabazali abaningi ukuba babe nzima kakhulu. Uma kunzima ukuqala, indlela elula yokuphuma kule nkinga ingaba ukuthengwa kwencwadi ekhethekile yabasha. Lichaza nje ulimi lolwazi mayelana nokukhulelwa. Uma ufuna ukugwema ukuthintana ngqo, futhi ungaboni amehlo enkulumweni enjalo, ungafunda le ncwadi ndawonye futhi uphendule imibuzo evelile. Kulesi simo, kuyoba lula ukunqoba inkinga. Okokuqala, kule ngxoxo kubalulekile ukuchaza ukuthi kungani ukuya esikhathini nokuba kanjani. Kudingeka sikwenze kucace ukuthi lokhu akuyona impilo, kwenzeka kuwo wonke umuntu, futhi lokhu kungukuqala kokuguqulwa kwentombazane ibe ngowesifazane.
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuqala komjikelezo wokuya esikhathini akusho ukuthi ukuvuthwa, kanti eminyakeni ngaphambi kokuba ucansi luqale. Okwesibili, intombazane kumele ikwazi ukugcina kahle inhlanzeko. Ukwenza lokhu, kungcono ukuthenga amabhasiki kusengaphambili, ubatshele, ubonise ukuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani bese ushiya indodakazi yakho. Kubalulekile ukuchaza ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukugcina ikhalenda bese uqopha izinsuku zomjikelezo. Yebo, ukuze kugcizelele ukubaluleka nokubaluleka kwalesi sikhathi, ukuze indodakazi ikwazi ukubona lokhu okuthakazelisayo kalula, ungamenza isipho esithile.
Bazali abathandekayo, ungashiyi le ngxoxo, ngethemba lokuthi othile uzokwazi ingane yakho kusuka komunye umuntu. Thola ithuba namandla okukhuluma nendodakazi yakho ngalesi sihloko. Uma kungenjalo, uma ukuya esikhathini kuqala ngokungalindelekile, intombazane ingase ishaqeka, futhi lo mcimbi uzohlala unomlando njengeminye izikhathi ezimbi ekuphileni. Nakuba ungenza kube ilinde isikhathi eside, futhi inkumbulo yokuqala kokukhula iyamnandi.