Kulula kangakanani ukusinda isahlukaniso

Lapho abathandi ababili beqala ubuhlobo, bacabanga nganoma yini ngaphandle kwekhefu labo. Mhlawumbe abaningi bethu endleleni eya ehhovisi lokubhalisa bayaqiniseka ukuthi okwesibili ngeke sihambe khona.

Noma yimuphi umuntu uthambekele ekumeleleni konke ngokukhanya okuhle - ngokwakhe, isimo sakhe sengqondo kuye, emhlabeni jikelele. Noma kunjalo, ezimangalisweni zokuphila zihlukile - kokubili ezimnandi, futhi lezo ezinzima kakhulu ukusinda. Ukuhlukanana kungenye yezimanga ezingezinhle kangaka.

Abaningi bethu ekuqaleni baqala ukucabanga ukuthi isehlukaniso, uma kwenzeka emiphilweni yethu, ihambisana nokulahlekelwa okukhulu, kokubili izinto ezibonakalayo nezingokomoya. Ngaphandle kokungena emininingwaneni yezikhathi zomthetho zesehlukaniso, ake sikhulume ngomqondo wengqondo, okungavamile ukuthi kuleso simo kungabizwa ngokulinganisela noma umnsalo. Lesi sihloko sizokhuluma ngendlela yokuvumelanisa isakhi sakho esingokomoya emva kokuhlukanisa, ngamanye amazwi, kulula kangakanani ukusinda isehlukaniso.

Okokuqala, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi abesifazane banenkinga yokuhlukana ebuhlotsheni obukhulu ikakhulukazi, bazibeka benomqondo ojulile wecala futhi bawela esimweni esinzima esicindezelayo, okungase kube nzima ukuyiqeda. Amadoda, ngokwengqondo esebenzayo, ngandlela-thile bazizwa bengcono kakhulu ngesahlukaniso.

Ngokuqinisekile, wonke umuntu emandleni angabhekana nobunzima bokuzicabangela ngokwakhe, imizwelo ngokushesha noma kamuva, futhi impilo iba yinto evamile. Kodwa-ke, kungani uchitha isikhathi esiningi namandla, lapho ukuphila ngokoqobo njalo kwesibili kuyabiza. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isimo esicindezelayo isikhathi eside asikwazi kakhulu ukukhuliswa kwezingane noma imisebenzi yezobuchwepheshe. Futhi ukuze umuntu azinze isimo sakhe sengqondo, usizo lochwepheshe wezengqondo-isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo luyoba usizo kakhulu. Iseluleko sakhe noma uhlobo oluthile lwezinkambiso zengqondo kuzokusiza ukuba usebenzise indlela entsha yokuphila ngokushesha, futhi, mhlawumbe, ukwakha ubudlelwane obuzinzile nobuqotho nomlingani omusha.

Ngemuva kwesahlukaniso, umuntu akufanele avimbele, aqhubekele lo mlando ekujuleni kwe-subconscious yabo. Lapha, ungakwazi ngisho nokunikeza isiphepho emizweni yakho - ungathukuthela, ukhale, ukhale, ngaleyo ndlela uzokhipha imizwelo ezweni elingaphandle, futhi ungawudli isimo sakho sangaphakathi. Yabelana ngokuhlangenwe nakho nabathandekayo bakho, abangani, indawo ezungezile, lokhu ngeke kubonwe yizikhalazo ezivela eceleni kwakho, kunalokho ngokuphambene nawe unganikezwa iseluleko esihle. Thola okuthile okuthakazelisayo ngokwakho - iya kuma-movie, yaseshashalazini, unakekele okuzilibazisa kwakho okuthandayo, ngokujwayelekile, ngokomzwelo uyasula isimo. Into esemqoka lapha akusiyo ukuhlala ekhaya, ngaphandle kokuvala ngenkinga yakho, uzokwandisa isimo sakho somzwelo kuphela. Mane ungenzi umsebenzi onzima oyokudinga ukucindezeleka kwengqondo, ngoba ukungazinzi kwakho ngokomzwelo ngeke kukuvumele ukubhekana nokuhluleka emsebenzini ngaleyo ndlela kungangcwina nje isimo.

Ukuhlukanisa ngokuvamile kuvame isifiso esinamandla sokuphindiselela. Isibonelo, ufuna ukusola abangane bomngane wakho womshado, nciphise umlingani wangaphambili nomama, qeda inhlebo mayelana nemininingwane esondelene nayo yokuphila kwakho bese ushintsha isizathu sokuhlukanisa naye. Kodwa-ke, lokhu ngeke kwenze kube lula kuwe, ngoba abantu obaziyo kakade banokuningi ukuzwa ngawe ngesikhathi sesahlukaniso, ngaphandle kokubonisa ukuthi awuyona ingxenye engcono kakhulu ebuhlotsheni bakho obuseduze nabanye, ukucindezeleka kwakho kuzokwandisa kuphela. Yeka ukuphawula ngakudala kwakho bese uqala ukwenza impilo yakho entsha.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuphindiselela kuphela akuzange kube nomuntu oletha usizo. Kubangela ubuhlungu komunye umuntu, ngeke sithole ukuhlwithwa. Futhi ngokumelene nengqikithi yenkinga yengqondo yangaphakathi, ukuphindiselela kuzokukwenza ukhathazeke nakakhulu, ukwandisa isimo esivele sisesimweni esibucayi.

Ukuhlakanipha komphakathi kusitshela ukuthi - "umkhawulo okhishwayo". Kulesi simo, akusilo iqiniso. Ungabheke indawo yomngane wakho womshado ezinsukwini zokuqala ngemva kokuhlukanisa. Cishe uzolimaza ubuhlobo obunjalo kanye nawe nomlingani wakho omusha. Amanoveli amancane afana nawo, ukudlala ngothando, futhi, kuzokwandisa kuphela umlilo futhi ngeke kuholele ekulinganeni kwengqondo.

Linda isikhashana kuze kube yilapho isimo sakho sengqondo singazinzile, futhi ukufutheka nokulahlekelwa ngumlingani wakho wangaphambili kuzosakaza futhi kuhlale imemori engathandeki. Khona-ke uzobe usulungele ukwakha ubuhlobo obusha nobudlova nomunye umuntu. Abesifazane abaningi bavame ukushada ngaphambi kwesikhathi, lapho okuhlangenwe nakho kwehlukaniso kungakapheleli, ngaleyo ndlela senza iphutha elikhulu, njengoba siye sagcizelela ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuthi ukutakula kwengqondo kuthatha isikhathi. Umshado onjalo esimweni esingavamile uzophumelela futhi ngenxa yezenzo ezinjalo uzokufika esimweni lapho isazi sezengqondo esijwayelekile esingeke sikusize, ngoba ukudumazeka okuphindaphindiwe kuzothinta isimo sezempilo.

Zama ukwamukela izimo ezintsha zokuphila, thola izithakazelo ezintsha. Uma kunokwenzeka, wandisa umbuthano wokuxhumana, qaphela ukuthi isimo sakho esisha somuntu ohlukanisile noma owesifazane ohlukanisile akusibi kakhulu. Umuntu unenkani kakhulu. Ngokuvamile singenqabe ukwamukela ukuthi yikuphi, esikhundleni sawo siqhubeka sifuna ukushintsha okuthile ekuphileni, mhlawumbe ukubuyisela okokuqala, sibona esimweni "lapha futhi manje" kuphela esibi. Ukufinyelela isimo sokuphila kusuka ohlangothini olunzima kunzima ukuqondisa isimo ngendlela efanele. Esikhathini sokuhlukanisa, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi yisiphi isizungu esinjalo esingenakulinganiswa futhi sinenzuzo yaso. Unesikhathi sokucabanga kabusha izenzo ezedlule, mhlawumbe ukuthola izimpendulo zemibuzo enjalo yefilosofi: "Ungubani mina?" Futhi "Ngifuna ini?", Ukuze ngibone izidingo zami zangempela, ngibe umuntu ozimele ngokwengeziwe.