Kusobala ukuthi ukusabela kokuqala kwamanye amanga kulaka. Kodwa lapha povozmushchalis, bese kuthiwani? Indlela yokulwa namanga? Futhi ngokujwayelekile, ungahlala kanjani nomuntu ongeke ahlale eqamba amanga ngisho nasezintweni ezincane, uma kucacile ukuthi konke kuzovuleka.
Sixoxisane ngemibhangqwana ukuthi amanga ayiphi isikhubekiso, futhi uma kuqhathaniswa lezi zembonakaliso nokucwaninga kwengqondo.
Ukuvuma komyeni okhohlisiwe
U-Stanislav uthi: "Konke ukuphila kwami ngangizi ukuthi ngithole ukukhohlisa komkami," kusho uStanylav, "Cha, uTatyana akayishintshi mina, usuke ehlala nsuku zonke, elele iminyaka eyisithupha yokuphila kwethu ndawonye." Yebo, wonke umuntu uyakwazi kakade! Uthanda ukumbumbulula konke, ukuphupha.
Kungani ethi uyaya ezitolo uma ekhuluma nentombi yakhe ngaleso sikhathi? Futhi uma edinga into yokuthenga, uzopenda ukuze afune ukufa uma ungenalo. Uma nginesithakazelo emsebenzini, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi indodana yenze izifundo, umfazi naye uqamba amanga, ukuthi izifundo zikulungele. Lapho ngifika ekhaya, bayashesha ukufeza imisebenzi. Ngingaphila kanjani, angikubekezeleli ukukhohlisa nhlobo? "
UTatiana uthatha umshado wakhe uphumelele. Unomsebenzi omuhle emsebenzini, uhlangana nomphathi kanye nezintombi. Kumelwe sikhokhele ubuciko bakhe. Kodwa-ke, uma uTanya engeyena umdlali wezithombe hhayi umdayisi, yikuphi lapho azokhombisa amakhono akhe? Kuyadingeka emndenini nasekukhiqizeni. Amanga abesifazane ahlale emngceleni wezobuciko, lokhu kuyindlela lapho ukucabanga okuthuthukisiwe kobulili obuhle kunqanda futhi kugcizelela imicimbi - imizwelo iphuma esikalini futhi ihlanekezela iqiniso.
Ngokuvamile amanga abesifazane awanalo nhlobo, alala amanga "ngenxa yokuthanda ubuciko." Kodwa iningi lamadoda alinakukuqonda lokhu futhi, ebonisa ithenteli elingavamile, uqala ukulandelela imbangela yamanga, ezama ukuvula inkohliso. Futhi-ke incazelo yempilo yomndeni ibhebhezela "ngubani ozobamba." Omunye umbhangqwana oshadile wavuma ukuthi isikhathi esithile manje badlala umdlalo: ngubani ozobamba ukuthi ubani ozokwenza ugobe. Indoda nomkayo abaqiniseki ngokuphelele, futhi lokhu, ngokombono wabo, kuvuselela ubuhlobo. Yeka ukuthi isithakazelo semidlalo salesibili sihamba kangakanani, akekho owaziyo.
Ebudlelwaneni beStanislaus neTatiana amanga akukhathazi imibuzo yothando. Kunalokho, unomlingiswa wasekhaya. Kodwa, njengoba wazi, impilo iqukethe izinto ezincane. U-Tatiana uyamthanda umyeni wakhe, akanandaba namanye amadoda, uyabakhathalela abathandekayo bakhe, ngokuhlakanipha uchitha isabelomali somndeni wakhe, uzama ukwenza konke kube kuhle. Lapho uTatyana ethi izifundo zenziwa futhi konke kulungile, uvele nje efuna ukubonisa ukuthi ungumama omuhle, ulawula konke futhi unake indodana yakhe. Uma ehlala nomngane futhi efihlile, khona-ke kuphela ngenxa yokuthi wayenomhawu ngomyeni wakhe kumngane wakhe. Noma kunjalo, uchungechunge lokungaboni kahle nokungaqondi kahle kungabhubhisa lobu buhlobo. Futhi isizathu ukuthi kubonakala kumyeni ukuthi akaqambi amanga.
Ngendlela, izazi zengqondo ziye zathola ukuthi: "Abantu abaqotho", njengombuso, balala kaningi kunabanye - banikeza ukucabanga okufisa. Futhi, laba "abathandi beqiniso" bacabanga ukuthi imibono yabo iyinhloko ephelele, yingakho abafazi babo kufanele bavumelane futhi badideke ngaphakathi kweziqondiso eziqinile zabalingani babo.
Izimbangela
Imvelaphi yamanga ingase ihluke. UTatyana uthe ngezinye izikhathi akaqapheli ukuthi uyaphakamisa kanjani noma agcizelele izenzakalo. Mhlawumbe, lona wesifazane uphazamise isimiso, futhi ngosizo lwamanga akhe angamanga afuna "ukuzwa okunzima": uqamba amanga futhi ucabanga ukuthi umyeni wakhe uzoqagela yini? Esinye isizathu "ukuthi akasimemezi futhi angathukutheli", uma nje konke bekuzolile futhi kuthule, bese sizokuthola. Esinye isizathu: "Angizibheki ngingumqambimanga, kunalokho, ukuhlakanipha kwabesifazane." Ngempela, umyeni wakhe akufanele atshele konke, "kusho uTatyana.
Ngenxa yokuthi umholi womzwelo ungowesifazane, kufanele anqume ukuthi yiliphi iqiniso okumtshela umyeni wakhe. Kodwa-ke, akudingekile ukuba uye kude kakhulu, ngoba umuntu uyathinteka futhi unenkohliso. "Uma ejwayele ukugxila ezintweni ezincane, ke yini efika nayo ngendlela enkulu?" ucabanga. Ukungabaza kuqoqa, futhi ukubuyisela ukuthembeka komyeni kuba cishe akunakwenzeka.
Umsebenti wesifazane ukuthola isici esinjalo sokuthintana, isitayela esihle nesidlova, ukuze ungabi nomuzwa wokuthi ufana "nentombazane" ephakade futhi ungaphenduki umyeni wakhe abe yinduna nokusola. Ama-masks anjalo kanye nokugembula emndenini oseduze womndeni akuphephile nakanjani. Ungatholi ukuthathwa ngokuhlola ukufundwa kwemicabango kumyeni, ngakho akudingeki ukuthi ahlaziswe ngokukwenza "uphenduke ngaphakathi."
Ukuvuma komfazi okhohlisiwe
"Umyeni wami uNicholas uyindoda enhle, kodwa uyaqamba amanga njalo, futhi amanga akhe ahlanjululwe ngentambo emhlophe," kusho uNadezhda, "ngihlala ngithola ukuthi usebenzise imali enfenisha noma ophuza nobhiya izolo. ukuthi umyeni akakhokheli ifoni noma indlu, futhi ungitshela ukuthi ukhokhe konke, bese efika iresidi ephindaphindiwe - ngingathini? Nikolay ufihla ukuthi uthatha imali ngoba uyazi ukuthi angithandi yini. Ngihlala ngigcina izithembiso zami futhi umyeni wakhe akasoze wathembela kuye. Wonke amanga akhe ayingqayizivele, kodwa udla kakhulu impilo yami ".
Ithemba liyabonga kakhulu umndeni wakhe futhi ngeke lihlukanise, ngakho wazama izindlela ezehlukene zokuthonya indoda yakhe - izinsongo, izinyembezi, izintandokazi, kodwa akukho lutho oluye lwasiza. Ukuze uqonde lesi simo, udinga ukufika ezansi zezizathu ezenza umyeni wakhe amkhohlise namasu amancane.
Lapho esemncane, uNikola wakhulela emndenini onesitayela sobubele sokukhulisa abazali: uyise nonina baqhubeka bephindisela indodana yakhe ukuthi "angalahlekelwa kuze kube phakade." Ukuveza umfana kwakufana nomgomo wabazali bakhe, ngakho uNikola wayejwayele ukubika konke kusukela ebuntwaneni. Njengoba esekhulile, wafunda ukuzivikela - ukuqamba amanga, ukuze angabathukutheli abazali bakhe. Izingane ezivela emindeni enjalo zikhononda: "Uma unyoko noma ubaba wakho ekhuluma iqiniso, kubi nakakhulu, yini enye okudingeka iyenze?" Ingane ikwesaba ukulahlekelwa uthando lwabazali bayo futhi igweme indima yecala, kulula kakhulu ukukhuluma amanga. Ukuphendula okunjalo kuzodluliselwa emndenini wakhe kamuva. Eqinisweni, kuyisenzo esithinta inhliziyo.
U-Nicholas, ezama ukuba umyeni omuhle, ulala ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi akakhathaleli ukuthi ukukhohliswa kuzodalula. Iqiniso liwukuthi indlela yokuvikelwa ezingeni elingenakuqaphela futhi umkhuba, osuselwa ebuntwaneni, unamandla kunezimpikiswano zengqondo. "Munchhausen Syndrome" akuyona umkhiqizo wezingqondo zokudala, kodwa kunalokho, imiphumela yobuntwana obunzima. Ngakho-ke, umuntu ugwema imizwa yecala nokuhlazeka. Ikakhulukazi abantu abaningi balala nobunzima bokuthi "superman". Ukuzama ukwenza kangcono kukho konke (umsebenzi, izimpumelelo namandla angokwenyama), uveza isithombe "Ngihlale nginakho konke u-O'K". Emehlweni owesifazane, umuntu onjalo ngokuphambene ubonakala ebuthakathaka futhi engapheli amandla. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umuntu ufuna ukugwema isijeziso sokucabanga. Oshade naye uphatha ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele, uzizwa engenabulungisa, azihloniphi, imizwa ivutha emphefumulweni wakhe: uyamthanda futhi uyamzonda umyeni wakhe, futhi ngezinye izikhathi isimo sibonakala sibuhlungu futhi singenathemba kuye.
Kuqaphela ukuthi okokuqala owesifazane uthatha njengomama olawulayo. Kodwa ukusabela okunjalo akuyikuxazulula impikiswano: umyeni uyazi ukuthi unina "uzoqonda futhi athethelele konke," futhi emva kokunye ukugxekwa, uyomthanda futhi. Khona-ke le ndima ingabe ingenakulinganisela umfazi - iphikisana nayo, ihlela ama-scandals. Ukulawula njalo nokuthukuthela akudluli ngaphandle komkhondo, isigaba sokukhulelwa siqala. Esimweni esibi kunazo zonke, owesifazane uzizwa engenakuzivikela, noma, ebopha isandla sakhe kumyeni wakhe, uba ngumkhuhlane emoyeni futhi afune indawo.
Ukuvimbela inhlekelele enjalo, udinga ukuxazulula isisombululo esincanyana senkinga, zama ukusiza umyeni wakhe ukuba akhe kabusha indlela asabela ngayo. Kodwa khumbula ukuthi izinkolelo ezivela ebuntwaneni azikwazi ukunqotshwa ngomzuzwana owodwa.
Indlela amadoda alala ngayo
Njengoba ngokwemvelo ukuqonda, abesifazane baye bafunda kahle ukukhohliswa okuncane kwamadoda abo. Futhi bayakwazi ukuxwayisa nokubabathelela. Nasi uhlu oluthile lweziphambeko zesilisa ezivamile.
- Owesifazane uhlale eqinisile. Igama lowesifazane ngumthetho. Ukuqinisekisa lokhu, indoda ayikholelwa ngamazwi akhe. Kunalokho, u-flirts. Ukuzwa lokhu emlonyeni womyeni wakho, ungalindeli ukuthi ngokushesha uqala ukugcwalisa yonke into yakho, ukuthungatha ingane, ukugeza izitsha nokugeza. Le ndoda, hayi, ayiyona impi yamalungelo abesifazane.
- Kwadingeka ngihlale emsebenzini, ngaphezu kwalokho - emgwaqweni omkhulu wesitimela. Owesifazane okhaliphile akasoze athatha la mazwi ngokungathí sina, ngisho nokudalula umyeni wakhe ngeke. Iphunga elincane lebhiya likhuluma ngokwayo.
- Wena kimi, umgogodla, omuhle futhi wezomnotho. Ngokusobala lo muntu ufuna ukuphunyuka ekuhlanzeni okujwayelekile. Inhlanganisela ethintekayo yobuhle nomnotho ayikwazi ukulingana nenkambo yemvelo yemicabango yomuntu.
- Nganginamakhulu abesifazane abahle. Ungowesifazane wami wesibili empilweni. Zombili lezi zitatimende zineqiniso ngokulinganayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna ukubukeka njengoDon Juan, noma ulindele ububele bakho nokuzithoba. Kokubili lokho, kanye nokunye okutholakeleyo, ukwamukela owesifazane emsebenzini wocansi.
- Dank kuphela 50 amagremu. Ukubika okunzima okunjalo kubonisa ukuthi baphuza okuningi futhi behlukile. Buza ukuthi impela umyeni uphuze, futhi uzozindla. Umuntu ongenangqondo akacaci ukuthi uphuza kangakanani.
- Akukaze kwenzeke kunoma yikuphi owesifazane akuzange abe nomuzwa wokuthi kuwe ... Umyeni ufuna ukuba yedwa wakho, ngakho mtshele ukuthi uyakholelwa - memezele.
Indlela abesifazane abalala ngayo
"Owesifazane kufanele abe yimfihlo yindoda futhi angalokothi atshele iqiniso," - ngakho-ke kusho iningi lezocansi ezifanele. Ukuvuleka okusheshayo nangokweqile kuyingozi ebuhlotsheni. Ngangaphezu kweyodwa ngizwile kubantu ukuthi bayashesha kakhulu futhi bavuleleke besifazane - uma kungekho mfihlo kanye nenhlamba, ukungabaza kanye nokuthandana, kuyisicefe. Owesifazane akufanele azinaki imibono enjalo.
Owesifazane, lokhu akulona amanga:
- eneminyaka ethile ukukhohlwa iminyaka yabo yekhalenda;
- phansi izikhathi ezingu-3-4 izindleko ze-lipstick (ukuze ungalimazi umyeni wakhe ngezinto ezincane);
- ngenxa yendaba yokuthakazelisa indaba, ukuqamba imininingwane ebalabalalayo nokuwabonisa kakhulu ngokomzwelo - iStanislavskaya imane iphumule;
- engxoxweni nendoda ukuze idumise ukubonakala kwayo, naphezu kwesonto lezicathulo ezingaphephile nezingcolile.
Izinkomba zasekhaya zamanga
Akudingekile endlini ukuba ibe nomshini onzima kangaka njengamathrekhi amanga. Futhi nakuba wonke owesifazane enezibonakaliso zakhe zokukhohlisa abathembekile, izazi zengqondo ziye zasungula amaphethini ambalwa.
Izenzo ezivaliwe. Lo wesilisa ufihla izandla zakhe emaphaketheni akhe. Engxoxweni ihlanganisa kancane umlomo ngesandla. Isebenza emahlombe noma ubuso.
Ukuhamba komzimba. Indoda ingakwazi ukugcoba amahlombe akhe futhi ihlume kancane. Isikhumba sakhe sishaya i-tie yakhe, indoda yakhe idonsa u-tie, ongafuni ukuthola imininingwane yalokho okwenzekayo, futhi uyashesha ukuqeda ingxoxo. Ukukhwehlela okufakelwayo nokunyakaza kwamafussy.
Izimpawu zamehlo. Amehlo agijima futhi ebuka kude.
Udinga ukwazi
Indlela yokusabela ngayo emangeni
Njengoba indoda eyodwa ehlakaniphile yathi, ngemva kokuhlukanisa kathathu wafunda ukunquma amanga. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akuhlali kwenzeka njalo: "Hhayi, yini ekhethekile kakhulu ngomuntu ongakhohlisa owesifazane?" Yebo, ngiphuza i-vodka ngaphandle kwesidingo noma imali "zanykal", yilokho kuphela. Futhi owesifazane? Ngithengile isembatho somlilo, i-perfume, i-lipstick. ngenxa yokungenangqondo okunjalo? " Nasi iseluleko esinjalo esilula.
Izimpawu zangaphandle zamanga abesilisa nabesifazane zihlukile.
Indoda, lapho iqamba amanga, iba nomlutha, ingaboni i-interlocutor, iphefumula phakathi, ikhuluma ngamathoni aphakanyisiwe, ifaka iminwe yakhe ebusweni, ingagxuma futhi iphume egumbini.
Owesifazane osesimweni esivame ukumomotheka unnaturally, kusho izwi lomntwana, uhlanza izingubo zakhe, ashintshe unyawo lwakhe emlenzeni wakhe futhi ahlaziye kaningi kunokujwayelekile.
Kodwa amandla amanga avela phansi awaxhomekile. Ngokwezibalo zakwa-psychologists yaseMelika, amadoda nabesifazane balala nemvamisa efanayo - isilinganiso samaphesenti angu-5 kuya kwangu-20 ngosuku.