Kuyini ukwesaba?
Ukuzwela, okusisiza ukuba sihambe ngesimo futhi siziphathe njengoba izimo zidinga, ngaphandle kokuxhuma ukuhlakanipha (ukuqonda kwethu umshini ophansi kakhulu). Izinga elincane lesikhumbuzo esivela kuwo wonke umuntu kusukela ekuzalweni, lisenza sibe njalo siqaphile. Lesi sici siyisikweletu esidlule esedlule: uma okhokho bethu ababehlala endle bengesabi, bangamane ... badliwe. Sijwayele ukwesaba okuyisisekelo futhi cishe asizizwa. Ukuhlala naye kusisiza sonke isethi yokuzivikela kwengqondo. Kodwa uma behluleka, lo muntu udala ukukhathazeka okukhathazayo, imicabango engacabangi, phobias, okungukuthi, ukwesaba okungenakuqhakambisa. Ngokuqondene nokwesaba okwakhayo, ngaso sonke isikhathi usiholela esenzweni.
Yini ngempela eyibangela?
Ingozi engaba yimibili yangempela (iqembu elinobudlova labantu abadakiwe), nokukhohlisa (isibonelo, umuntu uyesaba izimpumputhe). Ngaphezu kwalokho, singase sikhathazeke ngekusasa lethu: silinde into engaziwa, futhi lokhu kusethusa. Noma kungazelelwe into eyenzekayo esingayilindele futhi ayizange ihlele. Isibonelo, kusukela ekhoneni ngokuzumayo isithuthuthu sihamba ... Siyamangala lapho sithuthumela: le ndlela yezinto eziphilayo, ezisezilwaneni, iletha imisipha yethu ibe yi-tonus, ibalungiselele ukusabela okusheshayo. Asisazi ukuthi yini esizoyidingayo-sibalekele, sifihle noma sihlasele, kodwa sizodinga imisipha kunoma yikuphi. Kodwa nokho ukwesaba - lokhu kuyimimoya emibi ... Yebo, ngoba ayithandi! Asifuni ukwesaba, sizama ukushintsha isimo ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka futhi siphephile. Futhi lokhu kuyinto ephazamisayo yokwesaba: uma ebengumnandi kithi, asiyikukhokha lokho! Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi ukwesaba okungajwayelekile ukuhlala yibo ngokwabo, bavame ukutholwa. Kungani bethi kulula ukwesaba okuthile kokhonkolo? Ezingaziwa sesabeka yizinto zonke, futhi asazi ukuthi "silwe" nani. Ukwesaba okuthile okukhonkolo kulula ngoba ngaleso sikhathi singenza ngokumelene nalo. Umsebenzi unciphisa ukwesaba. Isifaniso esihle kakhulu sokwesaba yizinkampani ezivela ezincwadini zikaHarry Potter. Bahlale bevela ngaphambi kwamaqhawe weveliveli ngesimo sezinto ezibahlambalayo, ngokufana ne-bat noma umama oboshwe ngama-bandages. Uma uHarry Potter noma abangane bakhe bangabonisa ukwesaba kwabo ngendlela ehlekisa, iBoggart izofa. Futhi bayoyeka ukwesaba.
Ukuhleka kuyisifo sokwesaba?
Okumangalisayo! Kodwa hhayi eyodwa kuphela. Ngokuvamile, sithola izindlela zokulwa nokwesaba ngendlela enembile. Ungawuhlola, usho, phuma kusukela kusihlwa kuze kufike ekukhanyeni okukhanyayo okwethusa. Enye ithuluzi elihle ukudela ukwesaba, ukuthola isilinganiso esifanele kuso. Noma uhambe ngokweqile ngokwengeziwe: uma, ngokwesibonelo, ngesaba ukuthi ingane ingaphansi kwemoto, ngizozinika isikhathi esengeziwe sokumfundisa ukuba agcine imithetho yomgwaqo futhi uqaphele ngisho nalapho ewela emgwaqweni eya ekukhanyeni okuluhlaza. Enye indlela: ukuletha isimo kuze kube yilapho kungenangqondo. Isibonelo, wesaba ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi wakho. Landela uchungechunge olwesaba ukwesaba kwakho: Ngizoxoshwa, ngizohlala ngingenamali, zonke izihlobo zami zizongilahla, ngizothengisa (ngilahlekelwa) indlu futhi ngife ngaphansi kocingo ebanda futhi ngilamba ... Manje, chaza lokhu ngokoqobo futhi ... uhlezi phansi .
Kuyini i-phobia?
Ukungafani kokwesaba kanye nesizathu esibangela. Isibonelo, ukwesaba izinsipho. Ngokuqinisekile kubangela ukungathandeki komunye wethu, kepha ngokuvamile lokhu kwesaba kuhambisana: uma isicabucabu iwela phezu kwami, ngizoyigwedeza, mhlawumbe ngiyathuthumela noma ngimemeza, kodwa ngizoyikhohlwa ngakho. Uma umuntu ehluleka, ngisho nalapho nje ebona umbukiso ekhoneni ... lokhu kuyi-phobia: ukwesaba okukhulu kusatshalaliswe encane ecasulayo. Amanye ama-phobias abangelwa: esikhathini eside esidlule, izinambuzane zingasilimaza, futhi asifuni ukuba bahlangane nesikhumba sethu. Kodwa ngokuvamile ukwesaba okungalawulwayo akusikho isisekelo sangempela sezinto eziphilayo: isibonelo, ukwesaba izimoto ezimpunga noma ingozi yokufa ngenxa yokuguliswa emgwaqweni. Mhlawumbe, lo muntu waba nesipiliyoni esibi: wayevame ukushaywa imoto emfucumfucu, noma ngelinye ilanga, ngenkathi ebanda, wayengenawo umoya okwanele emotweni yezitimela. Ngaleso sikhathi, ukwesaba kwakufanelekile, kodwa kwagxila enkampanini ye-psyche, kwandiswa, futhi kwavela ukuthi i-stimulus - izimo zangempela - futhi ukwesaba okwedlulele okuvela ekuphenduleni akukafaneli.
Futhi ukwesaba kuvelaphi kubantwana?
Kubonakala kusukela ngesikhathi sokuzalwa, kepha izingane azikaze zenze ukuzivikelwa kwengqondo. Futhi-ke besaba izinto ezingasongela ukuphila, njengobumnyama noma izindawo ezingathembeki ngaphansi (ukuphahlaza njenge-asphalt). Uma umntwana esaba uBaba Yaga noma esinye isidalwa esiphila esibhedlela, lokhu kungenzeka ngenxa yokuthi ebuhlotsheni bakhe nabantu abadala kuye kwavela into eyenza ukwesaba noma ukungezwani. Kodwa akaxhumani naye noyise, umama noma ugogo, kodwa uyamesaba uBaba Yaga noma uBarmaleya.
Yini esiza izingane?
Kubandakanya izindaba ezimbi - izindaba mayelana nendlela yokunqoba ukwesaba. Basiza ekusebenzeni ukuvikelwa kwengqondo: Ekuqaleni babesaba, bese benqoba lokho okwabangela ukwesaba, futhi ekugcineni bazincipha. Uma ingane isaba okuthile okukhonkako, isibonelo, ukuhlanza okuyi-vacuum cleaner enkulu, mema ukuba ahlole le nto ndawonye ukuze aqonde ukuthi uphephile ngokuphelele.
Izindlela ezingu-5 zokubuyisela ukuthula kwengqondo
1. Shake ukuze unciphise ukuhlukana komzimba: thutha amahlombe akho, iminwe, imisipha yomzimba, phumula ubuso bakho. Philisa kancane kancane futhi ukhulume, khuluma kancane, thuthukisa amehlo akho ukubona izinto eziningi kanye namathunzi azungezile.
Thola isidumbu sesekelo, isibonelo, gcila emuva emuva odongeni. Khumbula indawo enhle kakhulu nenhle lapho uke waba khona, noma umzuzwana lapho ujabule: usuqedile iphrojekthi futhi uthole umvuzo; ukugijima olwandle, ukujabulela konke ... Yenza lezi zinkumbulo zisebenze: imibala, shades, imisindo, izinzwa zomzimba. Ngenele kulephupho elimnandi, ngaphakathi uzothola endaweni lapho singathola khona amandla.
3. Thela izimbali, uhlasele ikati, ugeze izitsha, uthele amapensela, uphendule amaphepha lapho izandla ezingakafiki khona isikhathi eside ... Ukuzivocavoca okunjalo kusisiphazamisa ngokushesha emthonjeni wokwesaba, kodwa kumele kwenziwe ngokucabangela, ngaphandle kokushesha.
4. Gwema kude ne-TV, ungabuyi kabusha izingosi zezindaba, ikakhulukazi uma i-arah yakho ikhula: izindaba eziyinhloko owaziyo, ukuphindaphinda kwazo okungapheli kuzoletha ulwazi olusha olusha, kodwa kuzokusiza kakhulu "ezweni elikhulu" lapho kucatshangwa khona okuningi, ngenkathi njengoba "ungadingi muntu kakhulu" noma "uhlale ungenzi lutho."
5. Vumela ukuba ube buthakathaka obuthakathaka, ungenzi njengowomuntu onzima kakhulu emhlabeni. Ukubukeka okunamandla ngokweqile, ukubuyisa emuva, izigwebo zesigaba-konke lokhu kungabangela kakhulu ukuzwa okungenakuhlala. Bheka isizathu sokumamatheka. Thola ithuba lokusiza abanye kokuthile. Yenza ukuthambekela okuningana: lokhu kuzokusiza ukubuyisela ukuguquguquka komzimba, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo futhi uphinde uthole ukuzimela kwezahlulelo.