Iwakho engenziwanga futhi enganelisekile ngokuphila
Endabeni lapho owesifazane enganelisekile ngempilo yakhe, uvame ukuzama ukwenza indodana yakhe ibe "inhlanzi", ukuze okungenani ihlangabezane nezimfuneko zayo. Abafuni ukushintsha imikhuba yabo, umama "ongenelisekile" ubafaka enganeni yakhe, futhi ngokushesha uzoqala ukubheka umhlaba ngamehlo kamama wakhe. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ubuhlobo phakathi kwabo buyaqina ngokwengeziwe, futhi cishe akunakwenzeka ukuwuphula. Lapha angeke kube khona umbuzo wokuzimela, ngoba indodana ngeke ikwazi ukuthatha isinqumo esithile esibaluleke kakhulu ngaphandle kweseluleko sikamama.
Ukwesaba umthelela omubi kwengane ngontanga
Lapho eseyingane, lapho ingane isithakazelo ekukhulumeni neontanga, umama osizi, ophikisana nomqondo ovamile, uzama ukuvikela indodana yakhe kubo. Ngamathuba onke, ugxila ekutheni abangani bakhe banenkinga, futhi ngokumelene neminyango yabo emuva kokudumisa ingane yakhe yonke indlela. Ngezindlela ezifanayo, umama uzama ukuvikela indodana encane ebuhlotsheni namantombazane. Uthi: "Kubonakala sengathi uMasha akazi ukuthi aziphathe kanjani", noma "UTanya uhamba isikhathi eside egcekeni". Ngakho-ke umama wenza, ekuboneni kuqala, amazwi angenacala, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi umfana uqala ukungakhathaleli ubulili besifazane.
Ukungathembeki esikoleni
Ngokushesha, umama-usizi usuvele evuna izithelo zokutholwa kwakhe, kodwa uthola nesizathu salokhu. Othisha nabothisha baqala ukukhononda ngokuziphatha kwengane yakhe, kanti umama ngesikhathi esifanayo uyamqinisekisa, ebeka icala ngokusobala othisha abangafundile. Izingxoxo ezinjalo zivame ukuqhutshwa phambi kwengane, futhi njalo lapho eqhubeka eqiniseka ngokuzikhethela kwakhe, futhi umama uba ngumngane kuphela nomvikeli "wengane".
Omunye nonina
Umama onjalo wokucindezela nomfana wakhe "omncanyana" banompilo ngamabili. Uyayinakekela ngokuphelele indodana yakhe - uyilungisa, isula izingubo, ikhetha isigaba, futhi ngokuvamile ikhetha konke. Ukubona kwendodana sekuyisikhathi eside kuhambisana nombono womama, ngakho kukhona ukuqonda okuphelele phakathi kwabo. Uma ngezinye izikhathi indodana iphuma ngaphansi kwamaphiko kamama, okuvame ukuvela ngesikhathi sokuthandana okujulile noma ukukhulelwa kwentombazane yakhe ngokuzumayo, umama ngokushesha uqala ukumsebenzisa ngokuhlakanipha. Futhi kulokhu, ngisho neqiniso lokuthi intombazane ingaba sesikhundleni ngeke isindise. Umama usebenzisa amaqhinga akhe amancane ngendlela yokuhlaselwa kwenhliziyo kanye namaconsi okucindezela. Uma lokhu kungakusizi, umama uphuthuma ukukhumbuza indodana yakhe ukuthi unikezele impilo yakhe kuye futhi unikeza inkulumo ngomqondo womsebenzi. Ekugcineni, indodana ibuyele ngaphansi kwephiko, uma nje ingamcasuli futhi ingamcasuli umama.
Yini ekugcineni esinayo?
"Umntwana omdala", ongafaneli impilo yakhe ngaphandle komama futhi okungenzeka akathokozise noma yimuphi owesifazane. Futhi ingabe omunye umuntu uzokwazi ukuncintisana nomfazi "okahle" kakhulu? "Indodana kaMama" akunakwenzeka ukudayisa impilo ejabulisayo nomama wakhe ngokushada nanoma yimuphi owesifazane. Ngakho-ke, kulokhu, akudingekile ukuthi umuntu onjalo angakha impilo yakhe ezimele ozimele.