Isibonakaliso sokuqala sokunganaki ukungafuni ukufeza lokho okufunayo kuphela ngenxa yokwesaba ukwehluleka. Intsha eningi isandulela isimo esibi, isaba ukuhlukunyezwa, isaba ukuhlekwa usulu kunontanga. Bafana namantombazane abathandekayo, khumbula ukuthi kukhona ukwehluleka nhlobo, ngisho naphakathi kwabaculi bezwe abadumile kanye nesayensi, kepha, noma kunjalo, laba bantu abazange balahlekelwe ukholo ngokwabo futhi baqhubeka bezama, ukuqonda okuthile okusha, ukufeza impumelelo enkulu. Ngakho-ke, akuyona into embi ukuhluleka, kunokuba uhlale ungenzi lutho futhi ungenzi noma yimiphi imizamo. Abantu abaqaphele ekugcineni balahlekelwa ukholo ngokwabo, futhi konke ngenxa yokuthi, ngokulalela ukwesaba kwabo, belahlekelwa amathuba amaningi. Esinye isibonakaliso sokungaqiniseki yisifiso sokulingisa abanye, hhayi ukuhlukana nomunye umuntu, ucabange ukuthi izimpikiswano zabanye zikholisa ngokwengeziwe kunabo. Ngeshwa, ukuzivumelanisa okunjalo kungaholela emiphumeleni eminingi emibi - ukusetshenziswa kotshwala, izidakamizwa, ukubhema ugwayi, esebenzisa isimiso "wonke umuntu enza lokho", ukuzethemba kungaba yingozi empilweni yezingane.
Abaningi namantombazane asebancane abasaziboni njengabathandekayo, ngakho-ke baqambe futhi basebenzise izinto ezingakabaluleki kakhulu - ukuxhumana kwabo nokuzijwayeza, ukuba khona kwanoma yiziphi izinto noma izinto. Ekuphileni kwawo wonke umuntu osemusha kwakukhona oontanga bakhe abatshela ngabaningi babo abazithandayo, abayikho ngempela. Akudingekile ukufuna noma yibuphi ubufakazi obuvela kulabafana, ngoba bengekho, futhi amantombazane nabafana babhala lezi zindaba ukuze bavuke emehlweni abo ontanga futhi bazijabulise. Kodwa-ke, ezimweni eziningi, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, bona ngokwabo bahlushwa amanga abo futhi balahlekelwe ukuzihlonipha, futhi ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba kwabo kuyingozi kakhulu kunokwesaba ukungathandeki enkampanini yabo.
Abanye abasha bavame ukugqoka, ukuziphathisa emphakathini, ukuhlekisa nokulingisa umuntu, igama lokuba njengomunye umuntu. Lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokunganaki, lapho intsha ihlale iqhathanisa nabanye. Ungazivumeli lesi sifiso, ngoba kusho ukuthi ingane isho ukubaluleka okukhulu kwabanye kunokuba yedwa. Inani lomnikazi kuleso siqhathaniso sinqunywa ngokuqhathanisa nenani lomunye umuntu, kodwa kungcono ukuzihlola ngokwakho ngesisekelo somuntu siqu, amakhono kanye nezithakazelo. Udinga ukujabula ukuthi bonke abantu bahlukile ngendlela yabo, futhi awukwazi ukuthola umuntu onjengawe, futhi uma uqala ukuqaphela kwakho, isifiso sokulingisa umuntu sizophela ngokwayo. Ukungaqiniseki kuphi kuvela? Ingabe kunikezwa ngempela ngokuzalwa nokuqeda lokho akunakwenzeka! Yiqiniso, ukuziphendulela kungavela kuwo wonke umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlamvu lwakhe nobuntu bakhe bunjani. Isibonelo, izimo ezinzima ezifana nokuhlukana kwabazali, ukufa komuntu othandekayo, ukuhlambalaza, ukugula noma isimo esibi kakhulu. Futhi, ukungabi nokuzethemba kungaba ukungabi khona komholi noma umeluleki. Ukukhululeka kokungaqiniseki kuyadingeka ngesikhathi sokuqala! Khumbula ukuthi ngisho no-Albert Einstein owaziwayo akazange aphumelele izivivinyo nge-bang.
Ngakho-ke, ngezansi kukhona amathiphu abafana namantombazane abafuna ukunqoba ukungabaza, bawalandele kalula:
- Thola ngaphakathi kwakho izici ezinhle. Ziyini izimfanelo zakho? Yini oyenzayo kakhulu? Cabanga ngezimpumelelo zakho.
- Ungaziqhathanisi nabanye, zibeke izindinganiso zakho.
- Ungenzi izimangalo ezingaphezu kwabantu, khumbula ukuthi azikho abantu abahle. Kungcono ukuphumula futhi uzame ukwamukela njengoba ukhona.
- Thola okuzilibazisa wena. Yenza into eyoletha injabulo nokuziqhenya.
- Kholelwa wena namakhono akho, zivame ukuzikhuthaza ngemishwana efana nokuthi "Ngiyakwazi," "Ngingakwenza," "Ngizophumelela," ngalezi zinkulumo ngeke nje uzenze uziqiniseke ngokwengeziwe, kodwa futhi zizokwenza ngcono kakhulu isimo sakho.
- Unganqikazi ukuthatha ukuncoma. Naphezu kokungaboni kahle, yamukele ukwamukeleka kwabo ngobuqotho.
- Zizwe ukhululekile ukuxhumana nabantu.
- Isibindi nokukhuthazela kuzosiza ekufezeni impumelelo.
- Funda ukuzimisela wena nombono wakho.
- Funa izimfanelo ezinhle kwabanye. Nika abanye ukuncoma okuqotho.
- Zama ukuba nabantu abahle kuphela endaweni yakho. Abangane bethu nabajwayelene nabo banethonya elikhulu kithi. Khetha abangane abaziyo ukujabulela ukuphila.
- Cabanga ngekusasa lakho kuphela ngokuhle. Cabanga impilo yakho yesikhathi esizayo kuphela ngekhwalithi enhle, cabanga ngendlela enhle.
- Qinisekisa ezenzweni nasezenzo.
- Ungakhohlisi ngokujulile ukwehluleka, kodwa njalo uzidumise ngokuthile okuphumelele ukubhekana nakho.
- Gwema ukuzizonda nokuzigxeka. Akukaze kube khona umuzwa wecala nokwehluleka ukuzibandakanya kwaba nomthelela ekwenzeni imiphumela ephezulu.
- Yazi ukuthi ungaqala kanjani ibhizinisi, impumelelo kuyo iyophakamisa ngaphezu kwamanye.
- Smile kaningi! Ukumomotheka kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokutshela umhlaba mayelana nendawo yakho ephelele!
Ngokushesha, umvuzo uzoba nokuzethemba, ukuzethemba, ukuziqhenya nezinye izimfanelo eziningi ezizoba abangane bakho abathembekile ngemuva kokuthi "ukuhlukana" kokungaqiniseki kwakho. Ukuze uphumelele, kuqala, udinga ukufuna futhi ubone ngamathuba amancane amathemba amakhulu. Konke kuxhomeke kuwe nangomzwelo wakho wokuphila okujabulisayo. Kuzo zonke zizovela!