Ake sikhulume ngokuthi singatshela kanjani ingane lapho izingane zivela khona?
Izingane zengqondo zincoma: into yokuqala - ukususa i-tab kusuka esihlokweni. Qaphela ilungelo lomntwana ukubuza imibuzo mayelana nokuhlukana kobulili nokuphila ngokocansi. Emindenini eminingi, konke okuhlobene nokuya ocansini kuvaliwe ngokuphelele futhi akuxoxiswanga nezingane. Abazali bayakugwema impendulo kumbuzo oqondile, noma bamphoqe kakhulu ingane ukuba bayeke ukubuza imibuzo ngesihloko esingakhululekile kubo. Lokhu kuziphatha kwabazali kubeka ingane ekugcineni, kunciphisa ukuthembeka kukababa nobaba, futhi, lapho umuntu osekhulile, iphoqa abanye ukuba bazifune. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhombisa ingane ukuthi umama nobaba balungele ukusiza ukuqonda noma yikuphi isihloko sesithakazelo.
Kuze kube seminyaka ethile (iminyaka eyi-1,5-2), abantwana abanamahloni ngobuqili babo futhi abanesithakazelo kumuntu ongaziwayo. Uma uneminyaka engama-3 umntwana uthola ukutholakala: amantombazane awahlelwa njengabafana, futhi omalume abafani no-aunts. Izingane ezinesithakazelo zibheke abameleli bobulili obuhlukile futhi zibuze imibuzo yazo yokuqala mayelana nokuhluka okusobala kwisakhiwo sezitho zobulili. Cishe ngesikhathi esifanayo, umuntu kufanele alindele ingane ukuba ibuze ukuthi iba kanjani. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuthi ungatshela kanjani ingane lapho izingane zivela khona.
Uma ingane iphakamisa isihloko esithi "sichaza" ngokuvakashelwa, ebhasini, noma kwenye indawo engafanelekiyo - kufanele udinga ukuthi, kuthi, kusihlwa, uma ubuyela ekhaya - uchaze konke kuye. Futhi (QAPHELA!) Qiniseka ukugcina isithembiso.
Akusizi ngalutho ukukhuluma ngesigodlo esineklabishi ngaphansi kwengalo yakhe, esindizela esitolo, lapho izingane "zanedorogo" zithengiswa khona. Kunoma yikuphi - umuntu ufunda ukuthi konke kwakunjani ngempela. Futhi, emntwaneni okhulile, kungenzeka kube nokuphazamiseka okunengqondo: abazali batshela amanga. Akudingekile ukuchitha ukwethenjwa kwezingane ngakho-ke. Akukona kunzima ukuxoxa ngezinto ezisemqoka zobulili nengane, uma ulungiselela kusengaphambili - emva kwakho konke, izimpendulo zabazali kufanele ziqiniseke futhi zizethembe.
Ukukhuluma ngokungafani kobulili, mayelana nokukhulelwa kanye nokuzalwa kwezingane kulandela ulimi olufinyeleleka kulesikhathi ingane ikhona ngayo: ngokomfanekiso, ngokucacile futhi ngaphandle kokulayisha imininingwane engadingekile. "Izingane zikhula emathunjini omama, kufana nendlu encane yezingane ezincane kunazo zonke, futhi uma zithola kancane kancane - ziphuma emgodini okhethekile" - ingane engaphansi kweminyaka emihlanu ubudala iyaneliseka ngezincazelo ezinjalo.
Ngokuvamile, ukuba nesithakazelo endleleni izingane ezingena ngayo isisu, ingane iqala kamuva - eminyakeni engu-5-6. Lapha, izindaba ziba ngokoqobo ukuthi uma umuntu omdala efuna ukubeletha umntwana, ubaba "ufaka imbewu kumama wakhe, lapho umntwana eqala ukukhula khona." Uma uneminyaka engu-7-8, ingane ingakwazi ukunikeza ulwazi oluthe xaxa - ukuchaza incazelo yamazwi "ipeni", "isibeletho", "isisu", "isisu", "iqanda". Inqubo yokukhulelwa ingachazwa cishe ngale ndlela elandelayo: "Owesifazane nendoda ethandana futhi ifuna ukuba nezingane ngaphambi kokuba zilale futhi zikhuleke. Futhi-ke-le ndoda ifaka i-penis ebulilini besifazane futhi i-sperm ihlangabezane ne-ovum." I-spermatozoon esheshayo ihlanganisa i-ovum, kusukela kulokhu iqala ukukhula futhi ibe yintsana. "
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane ingakanani ubudala, izimpendulo kufanele zibe yiqiniso futhi zichaze ngokugcwele lokho okushiwo yile ndaba.
Akudingekile ukungazinaki isihloko sokuhlukana kocansi, ukukhulelwe nokuzalwa, ngisho noma ingane ingabuzi imibuzo eneminyaka engu-6-7. Kusontanga angathola ulwazi olunzima kakhulu. Kungcono ukukhulisa lesi sihloko ngokwakho, usebenzise umzuzwana omuhle, isibonelo: "Bheka - umama ka-Aunt Masha ukhula - ngoba banomalume u-Lyosha uzoba nezingane ngokushesha." Kupholile! Uyazi ukuthi abantwana bazalwa kanjani? ".
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi isihloko esiyinhloko engxoxweni mayelana nobuhlobo bobulili uthando.
Ngenkathi yengane, umntwana kufanele abe nomqondo ocacile wezici eziyinhloko zezici kanye nezinqubo zomzimba ezihlobene nokuzalwa kwezingane. Ngalesi sikhathi, ezingxoxweni nabazali, isihloko esiyinhloko kufanele sibe isihloko somthwalo wemfanelo. Khuluma ngokuthi abantu abadala bangena ebuhlotsheni bobulili, bayazi imiphumela kanye nokuthatha umthwalo wempilo yabo kanye nezingane zabo. Xoxa ngalokho okusongelwa ukukhulelwa okungahleliwe kanye nezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi. Sitshele ngezindlela ezahlukene zokuvimbela ukukhulelwa. Kodwa, kufanele kugcizelelwe ukuthi ayikho indlela engamaphesenti ayikhulu. Phakamisa futhi isihloko sothando ebuhlotsheni bobulili. Qiniseka ukuthi ingane engena ekuphileni kobulili "ngenxa yelukuluku" ingase idale ukudumala kuphela.
Iminyaka engu-12-15 - inkathi yobushakathaka kanye nesikhathi esiningi "esengozini". Kuhle uma intombazane enokuzethemba okugcwele ethatha abazali bakhe. Kodwa-ke, amantombazane - kulula ukuxoxa ngezihloko "ezingaqondakali" nonina, nomfana - nobaba.
Izincwadi zezingane mayelana nomzimba womuntu kanye nokuphila kobulili kwavela ezweni lethu ema-90s, futhi, njengamanje, ukuhambisana kwazo kungadonsela ukudideka kwabazali "abaphambili" kakhulu. Ngaphambi kokuthenga enye "i-Encyclopedia yokuphila ngokobulili kubantwana," qiniseka ukuthi ufunda umbhalo ogcwele wencwadi ukugwema "izimangazo" ezingakahlelwa. Ungaguquli ngokuphelele umsebenzi wokukhanyiselwa kwengane ezindabeni zobulili ezincwadini. Ingxoxo enhle nabantu abaseduze bayovumela ingane ukuba ichaze zonke izikhathi ezingenakuqondakala.
Jabulela, uma ingane ikubuza imibuzo "enzima" - ngenkathi yenza kanjalo, ungaqiniseka: uyisiyingi sokuqala sokuthembana. Ungasiqhubeli ngalesi sikhathi. Ukwethemba okulahlekile kunzima kakhulu ukululama. Isiphathimandla ezindabeni ezinjalo kufanele kube ngabazali, hhayi abangane abavela egcekeni.