Umbuzo uwukuthi: Kungenzeka kanjani ukuthi i-romance yesevisi, uma indoda nowesifazane bebambisana ndawonye, kungaba nomthelela omuhle noma kumthelela kabi umsebenzi womuntu. Yiqiniso, ukusondelana nabathandekayo bakho cishe amahora angu-24 ngosuku, kuhle futhi kunothando. Kodwa, ngokuvamile, lo mzwa uvela kuphela okokuqala. Iqiniso liwukuthi ngisho nabantu abanothando kakhulu badinga okungenani ngezinye izikhathi ukuphumula komunye nomunye. Ngokushesha noma kamuva, phakathi kwalababili, izinkinga ezihlukahlukene zomkhaya ziqala. Uma bobabili umfana kanye nentombazane beya emsebenzini ngokuhlukana, bangakwazi ukuphumula komunye nomunye, baphinde bahlole isimo, bafinyelele iziphetho futhi baxoxe ngokucophelela ngale nkinga. Kodwa, kwenzekani lapho umbhangqwana oza ukusebenza ndawonye? Baqhubeka begijima bese bethukuthelana komunye nomunye. Yiqiniso, lokhu kuthinta ukukhiqiza kwabo futhi kubangela ubutha kubaphathi babo. Yingakho, amantombazane amaningi ahlukumeza kakhulu amanoveli phakathi kwabasebenzi. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, akekho ongavimbela abantu ukuba bathande. Yingakho, amanoveli ezisemthethweni akhona ngisho nasezihlanganisweni, lapho kuvinjelwe khona umthetho wangaphakathi.
Kungani abantu bewela othandweni? Mhlawumbe iqiniso liwukuthi izisebenzi eziningi cishe azikho isikhathi sokuhlangana ngaphandle kwehhovisi. Ngezimpelasonto, kaningi kunalokho, baxoxisana nezihlobo, abangane abadala noma nje ukuphumula ekhaya. Ngakho-ke, umbuthano wabantu abangabhekwa njengento yemizwa yothando, kakhulu kakhulu. Abantu abasha kanye nabesifazane bayaqaphela ngokungaqondile kulabo abasondelene nabo ngqo. Ehlangothini elilodwa, abantu banenkinga efanayo nezintshisekelo. Ngenxa yalokhu, ukukhulumisana phakathi kwabalingani bakho kuyasondelana kakhulu futhi kungaba nobuhlobo obuseduze. Yiqiniso, kungcono uma uthando luphuka phakathi kwabantu abalingana nesimo. Khona-ke, emkhatsini wendoda kanye nentombazane ayikho impi, okungaba yimbangela yenzalo yobuchwepheshe. Eqinisweni, kubonakala sengathi uthando luyabhubhisa yonke imizwa enjalo. Eqinisweni, abantu abafisa ukuziqhenya abanesimo esihlukile, kunzima kakhulu ukuhambisana nomunye futhi bamukele ukuthi othandekayo wenze okungaphezu kwalokho akwenzayo. Futhi ngisho noma ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, akunandaba ngempela, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izinto zingashintsha kakhulu. Yiqiniso, umuntu akakwazi ukusho ukuthi lokhu kuyimbuso futhi kwenzeke ngamaphoyinti ayikhulu kusuka kwekhulu. Kukhona abantu obani umndeni obaluleke kakhulu kunomsebenzi nokuzifiso. Bangakwazi ukubekezela ngokuthandekayo othandekayo ophumelelayo futhi baphile othandweni nasekuqondeni iminyaka eminingi. Kodwa uma kungenjalo, kubalulekile ukucabanga ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukwakha ubuhlobo obunjalo nomuntu osebenza naye.
Okunye ukuhluka kobudlelwane obuseduze emsebenzini kuwukuthandana phakathi komphathi (boss) kanye nomncane (ongaphansi). Kulesi simo, ubudlelwane obunjalo bubangela inhlebo eningi, okuthinta kabi ubudlelwane phakathi kweqembu. Kukhona amacala uma umphathi noma umshayeli eshadile. Khona-ke, eqenjini leqembu liqala ukuthi lichitha igunya lomuntu obambe isikhundla esiphambili. Yiqiniso, amanoveli anjalo nawo ajwayelekile, kepha kaningi awaletha lutho okuhle futhi angabangela ukuxoshwa komuntu ongaphansi noma ophansi. Kodwa, ngisho noma uthando luqala phakathi kwabantu abakhululekile, ngokuvamile kaningi eqenjini lobuhlobo obunjalo bunzima kakhulu ukubona. Noma kunjalo, umona wesintu awusakhanselwa. Phakathi kwabasebenzi, futhi, ikakhulukazi, abasebenzi, kuzohlale kukhona labo abazoxoxa ngakho yonke imininingwane yereveli ngaseceleni futhi bavele nama-nuances abo. Ngakho, ithimba lihlelwe ngokumelene nalababili. Abantu baqala ukubona izinto ezingase zingabi ngokoqobo. Isibonelo, amalungelo anikezwe osebenza naye othandana naye neziphathimandla, ukubandlululwa kwamanye abasebenzi, nokunye okunjalo. Uma ubudlelwane obunjalo bugcinwa ngasese, ngokuvamile akunakwenzeka. Futhi esimweni lapho usuphumelela ukufihla, maduzane, ngokuvamile, ngombhangqwana, ukuhlukana kuyaqala. Iqiniso liwukuthi kunzima kakhulu ukuzivimbela nokuzilawula njalo cishe yonke imizuzu, ukuze abantu bangacabangi ngemizwelo yakho, ngokusho ngamazwi nokubukwa. Lokhu kuphazamiseka okuqhubekayo kungabangela ukucindezeleka ngisho nokucindezeleka. Yiqiniso, kulesi simo kukhona okuhlukile. Lokhu kwenzeka ikakhulukazi emaqenjini amancane nezinhlanganiso, lapho kungekho ukuhlukanisa okuningi ngezihloko. Lapho wonke umuntu angazibonakalisa khona futhi athola umvuzo ophelele wokuziphatha nomali kulokhu, ongagculisa izinhloso, kungenzeka ukuthi kubambisana cishe kubonakala kunesithakazelo ngokweqile ebuhlotsheni babanye abantu. Kodwa, ngeshwa, azikho eziningi eziningi eziqoqiwe, futhi ngezinga elikhulu, cishe azikho amacala anjalo.
I-"enempilo" kakhulu, mhlawumbe, ingabizwa ngokuthi inoveli phakathi kwabantu abahlala ezikhundleni eziphakeme ezilinganayo. Kulokhu, ukuncintisana akukhona njengalokhu. Futhi, uma abantu behlangana futhi bengaboni ukuxabana emndenini emsebenzini, ubuhlobo obunjalo bungabathonya kakhulu ukuziphatha kwebhizinisi, njengoba abantu bethemba ngokuphelele, bazama njalo ukusiza nokusiza.
Uma senza iziphetho kuzo zonke ezibalwe ngenhla, singasho ukuthi amathuba okuba nomlingani wezinsizakalo, uma indoda nowesifazane besisebenza ndawonye, kuhlale kukhona, kodwa kude kube nemiphumela emihle njalo. Ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe, ngaphambi kokuba uthandane nomuntu osebenzisana naye, kubalulekile ukucabanga ngokucophelela. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, sonke siyaqonda ukuthi awukwazi ukuyala inhliziyo yakho futhi uma ulandela yonke imithetho, ungalahlekelwa injabulo yakho. Ngakho-ke, naphezu kwezixwayiso, kungenzeka ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi kufanele wenze izinto ngendlela intuition yakho kanye nomphefumulo wakho ukusho ngayo.