Umbono womphakathi
Isizathu sokuqala sokushada, noma kunalokho sishade ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ingumqondo ohlolwe isikhathi: "Awukwazi ukuhlala emphakathini futhi uzimele ozimele." Umbono womphakathi udlala indima ebalulekile ekwakheni isimo somuntu womhlaba, ukubeka izinto ezibalulekile ekuphileni.
Mhlawumbe zonke izintombi zijwayele umbuzo womngane wakhe omdala emhlanganweni: "Awukakashadi okwamanje?". Uma kuphela abangane bami, kodwa nabangani kuphela. Futhi abazali baqala ukuzibuza ukuthi indodakazi yabo ethandekayo izokwenza yini ukuba abazukulu bakhe bajabule. Futhi omunye umamakazi ovela kuZhytomyr obiziwe, wabuza: "Uma u-Olesya eshadile, bese sekuyiminyaka engamashumi amabili nanhlanu emva kwakho konke. U-Vaughn omakhelwane bonke bangama-rasskazkivali, uTatiana wazala indodakazi, namaMila - twins, nabayeni-abathandekayo. " Endaweni ka-Olesya kwakungamantombazane amaningi, kusukela kulokhu isifiso sabo sokuba endaweni yeTatiana noma iMila sikhula ngokweqile, futhi ngezinye izikhathi sifika ku-mania. Abanye bayothini ngomunye owesifazane ongashadile? "Kukhona okungalungile kuye, mhlawumbe, uhlamvu olubi, yingakho akekho oshade naye." Futhi lokhu kungcono, ngezinye izikhathi, le fantasy idlala ngokucophelela.
Umbono womphakathi uchaza ilungu ngalinye lomphakathi ukuthi yini elungile nalokho okungekho. Indlela yokuziphatha ezimweni ezahlukene zokuphila. Sithanda, uma sidunyiswa, setha njengesibonelo. Ungaphumeleli ekuziphatheni okwenziwe ngephethini - enye yemigomo yowesifazane ozama ukushada.
Isimo sokuphepha
Wonke owesifazane ufuna ukuzizwa evikelekile, kokubili impahla kanye nomzimba. Isifiso sokulondeka sibonakala nakakhulu ezingeni elibucayi, okubangelwa umlando womlando wokwakhiwa komphakathi. Ngaphandle kokungena ngokujulile emininingwaneni, kungashiwo ukuthi kuwo wonke umlando wokuba khona kwesintu, abesifazane besesimweni esiphezulu ngokuqondene namadoda, okuye kwafakwa emazingeni aphansi okungaqondakali. Ukushada, owesifazane uyaqaphela isidingo sokuvikelwa, ngezinye izikhathi kunemibandela, ngoba abesifazane abacebile ngomqondo wezomnotho bayakwazi ukuzivikela ngaphandle kokuhlanganyela "nomyeni".
Ochwepheshe bezenhlalakahle bezemfundo bafika esiphethweni sokuthi isithombe somuntu ozama ukushada nabesifazane besifana nesithombe sikababa owavusa owesifazane. Kulokho iqiniso ukuthi isidingo somfazi esingaqondakali sokulondoloza sibonakala engxenyeni yendoda. Kusukela ebuntwaneni, amantombazane ajwayele ukujwayela ukuthi abaqashwe kuqala ngubaba, esikhathini esizayo - ngumyeni. Futhi kusebuntwaneni ukuthi izwe libuke futhi uhlelo lwezinto ezibalulekile zokuphila kwabesifazane lwakhiwa, ngokucindezela okukhulu kwengqondo okuvela emvelweni wokukhulisa. Kule ndawo, ingane ibuye ithole iziqondiso zokuqala ezingokwengqondo zokuqala zomshado ongenamthetho ekufinyeleleni kwabantu abadala.
Izwe lobunikazi
Esinye isizathu esibalulekile sesifiso sowesifazane sokushada ngumqondo wobunikazi. Lokhu akukona ngempahla yomuntu, abashade naye, izisusa zobugovu azihlangene nalokhu. Kuqondene nomuntu uqobo lwakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungcolile kanjani. Abesifazane abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ngokushada, bathola umyeni wabo endaweni. Kunesinye isici - ukuthi kusukela ngesikhathi somshado, indoda iqala ukuba yowesifazane kuphela futhi akekho omunye. Owesifazane ukhathazekile ngokuthi indoda ayisekho kumuntu, kodwa yedwa kuye.
Leli qiniso lichaza ngokulula: umqondo wobunikazi kusiza owesifazane ukuba enze umzwelo wokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumuntu othandekayo. Uma ubheka kancane kancane ekucabangeni kowesifazane, umshado, ngokombono wakhe, isinqumo esibi kakhulu esinqumayo inkambo yokuphila kwesikhathi esizayo, kokubili amadoda nabesifazane. Izinqumo ezinjalo zivumela ukuhlela impilo yomndeni ohlanganyelwe iminyaka eyandulelayo, enikeza umuzwa wokuzethemba nokuzinza esikhathini esizayo, ekusebenziseni isimo sengqondo somphakathi, igonywe kusukela ebuntwaneni.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izizathu zesifiso esinamandla sokushada kwabafazi, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi abantu banempahla kaningi ukunikeza ukucabanga okufisa. Ukuphila okujabulisayo nomuntu othandekayo kungenzeka ngaphandle komshado, okuphambene nakho nakho kuyiqiniso. Akuyona yonke imishado ejabule. Futhi ngaphezu kwamaphesenti angu-50 ahlukana eminyakeni emihlanu yokuqala yokuphila komndeni. Ukuphila komndeni kuhilela ukusebenza kanzima ngokwakho, kokubili indoda nomfazi, kuyinselele nge-ego yakho kanye nokucinga okuqhubekayo kokunciphisa.