Izindlela ezimbalwa zokujabulisa umfana

Uyakholelwa othandweni ekuqaleni kokubona? Asazi ukuthi ithando lokuqala, kodwa ukuzwelana kahle kungase kuvele ngokushesha kakhulu - futhi, ngeshwa, masinyamalale ngokushesha. Njengoba wazi, akukho ithuba lesibili lokwenza umbono wokuqala. Ngakho, unemizuzwana engu-60 ukuthanda naye! Sizokubonisa ezinye zezindlela zokujabulisa umfana!

Lindela, nguye!

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyayithanda noma cha, amandla okumbono wokuqala kumfana inkulu kangangokuthi ithonya elikhulu embonweni womuntu noma into. Izazi zengqondo zanikeza lo mkhuba igama elithi imprinting - "imprinting". Ngokusekelwe ekuboneni kokuqala, ubuchopho buqala inqubo yokuqhathanisa nalawo mifanekiso afanele okwakhiwe kakade. Lokhu kungukuthi, isithombe senkosana enhle, okwakungaphupha ngalo, okokuqala ukuzwa inganekwane ngeCinderella, izobe iphakanyiswe kumfana, imenze ibe yindawo enhle. Kodwa lokhu kuyisimo sothando ekuqaleni kokubona, okungukuthi, ukuhambelana okuphelele kwesimo sokuqala esinomqondo omuhle. Asingathembi ngomphumela omuhle wezehlakalo bese uzama ukuthonya umbono we-MCH.


Ngaphandle kwamazwi

Ngakho-ke, ubona "into" - umfana, futhi-ke, udinga ukwenza into ethile ngokushesha - vuka, ubheke, wazi kahle, uxoxe nje, ngenxa yezindlela eziningana zokujabulisa umfana. Cishe usuvele ukwazi ukuthi iningi lwazi esiluthola kumpawu ezingekho amazwi - ngoba umuntu ubheka, uyahamba, ubukeka. Ngombono wokuqala, lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. Yini ezosebenza ngokuqinisekile? Ukuqiniseka. Umuntu ongaqiniseki akakwazi ukuzola ngempela, futhi ukukhathazeka kufundwa ngokushesha futhi kwenziwe ngokudabukisayo, ngisho noma uzama kanzima ukuzenza sengathi konke kulungile. "Umusa" nje akudingeki kwenziwe. Khumula. Akukho lutho olubi olwenzekayo.

Leli phuzu lilandela ngokuqondile kusuka kwangaphambilini. Ungamamatheli kumfana futhi ungazami ukuthukuthela uthathe ukuma okumangalisayo noma ukuma kwakho - kuyobonakala, futhi umphumela ngeke usebenze. Ngomzamo wokushaya endaweni, awudingi ukuveza i-hybrid ye-clown nomdlali we-movie othulile. Inkulumo ebusweni ebusayo ngokujwayelekile ingabonwa hhayi ngokwanele. Ukumomotheka okunobungane ukuqala kuyindlela engcono kakhulu. Bese ugxila esimweni. Izwi eliphansi, Yiqiniso, akudingeki ukuthi ukhulume ngokukhethekile ngamabhasi. Vele uzame ukukhuluma njengento engokwemvelo kuwe. Ukubukeka okucacile. Igama elithi "ukuchaza" kusho ukuthi, okokuqala, ngeke ubuke i hero ngokuqhubekayo, noma, ngokuphambene, shayela amehlo akho nxazonke ukwesaba ukumbheka. Ngendlela, khumbula idumile "ekhoneni - ekhaleni - esihlokweni"? Akuyona ihlaya elinjalo: ukuhamba kwamehlo e-diagonally kusuka phansi kuya ngokucacile kakhulu. Kodwa, mhlawumbe, kudinga ukuqeqeshwa kancane. Ungazama khona manje phambi kwesibuko, ukuze uhlome ngokugcwele ngesikhathi esifanele.


Futhi manje sizoxoxa

Ake sithemba ukuthi awudingi ukukwenza ukulinganisa kanye nokuthinta kuphela.

Esikhathini "seminithi yokuqala" yezinketho ezifanele zokukhuluma nomfana akusikho okuningi. Ungazama ukukhuluma ngenxa yezindlela eziningana zokujabulisa umfana: Yenza ukuncoma. Yiqiniso, kufanele ibe yindoda eqotho futhi efiselekayo kakhulu - ayihambisani nhlobo. Masizwe sengathi uchwepheshe. Buza noma yikuphi umbuzo mayelana nalokho umfana akuqonda kahle (kodwa okungenani udideke ohlelweni lwesitimela). Ukuba "umlaleli" osebenzayo akusho ukuthula, "ngokuphambene nalokho, faka ama-interjections kanye nama-replicas, okubonisa ukuthi uyaqonda konke futhi unesithakazelo kuso. Cabanga ngemisho ehlanganisiwe yomhlangano weshumi noma ukuxhumana okucabangayo. Futhi kuhle ukukhipha ezintweni ezincane ezidabukisayo: impumu egijima, ukuhlafuna i-gum noma ukudla emlonyeni wakho.


Umsebenzi wesikole

Uma unenhlanhla futhi unesikhathi sokuthola kusengaphambili izithakazelo nezintandokazi zayo, kufanele ulungiselele ngempela. Okokuqala, thola ngokuthanda kwakhe umculo nomfashini. Noma kunjalo, sizimisele kakhulu kubantu abanjengathi, nesihloko sengxoxo sizoba lula ukuthola. Zama ukuqagela ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo zamantombazane ezimdonselayo. Zama nje ukubamba umqondo othile oyisisekelo, umqondo, mhlawumbe ngisho nokucacile. Ingabe isithandwa sakhe simheha noma sithanda amantombazane asebenzayo, angenakuvinjelwa?

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ama-super-concrete formulations afana nokuthi "umfana uthanda ama-blondes kuphela" noma "awanandaba namantombazane emini" ungadlula ngokuphepha phezu kwezindlebe. Izitatimende ezinjalo ngokuvamile azihlangani neze ngokoqobo, futhi kungenzeka ukuba uqaphele umthandi obomvu ngesikhashana, noma ngabe u-brunette ku-jeans.


Lungisa isithombe esingalungile

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uphupha kangakanani ngokuzijwayeza "njenge-movie", izenzo ezishaqisayo nezingaqondakali zishiya izinkumbulo ezicacile nakakhulu. Ngakho-ke uma uzizwa sengathi unamandla okuthi "ngengozi" ungqongqoze ingilazi yejusi kuwo, mema ukuba udansa uma kungekho omunye umuntu odansa, noma enze okuthile okuphambene nakakhulu, ngakho-ke kuhle. Kodwa uma ungabaza ngisho nehlasi, ungenzi lutho olunjalo nganoma iyiphi indlela. Ukuziphatha kwakho akufanele kube khona futhi kuhlushwa. Ngaphambi kokwenza noma yini, cabanga nje ngomphumela oyobe nawo kuwo, kodwa mayelana nenduduzo yakho ngezindlela eziningana zokujabulisa umfana.

Amandla womqondo wokuqala kumfana ukhulu kakhulu kangangokuthi akulula ukushintsha umbono ngawe ekuqaleni kokuxhumana.

Ukuthanda ekuqaleni ekuqaleni akuwona umsebenzi olula. Kodwa sizokuxazulula!