Uthando lunezimo eziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu futhi eningi, mhlawumbe kungani abaningi bebhekana nobunzima ekuchazeni. Uthando kuwo wonke umuntu - owakhe, umbala ngamunye ngemibala yawo eyingqayizivele, futhi ungakhathazeki uma ungakakwazi ukuqonda ngokucacile lo mzwelo omuhle.
Ezweni lezizwe eziningi, izilimi kanye namasiko, leli gama ngezinye izikhathi linikwe incazelo ehluke ngokuphelele. Futhi manje - sisho kumuntu "Ngiyamthanda" asisayikungabaza, yiliphi uhlobo lokusho esikufaka kulo. Kwabanye abantu leli gama liyi-banality, ngoba abanye likhona kuphela emagameni athi "yenza uthando."
Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi uthando lunamalungu amathathu:
Owokuqala usondelene. Kungumzwelo wokubambisana, ukukhanga. Sifuna ukusondelana, ukwenza impilo yomuntu othandekayo ibe ngcono.
Esesibili yisinqumo, ukuzibophezela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuqonda ukuthi abantu bathandana, kolunye - isifiso nokuzimisela ukulondoloza lolu thando.
Futhi okwesithathu yisithando. Ivuselela ukukhangwa ngokocansi. Nakuba uthando alukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi yingxenye eyinhloko yobuhlobo bobuhlobo, kodwa ngaphandle kwalo, imizwa inganciphisa futhi ilahleke.
Ungacabangi ukuthi uthando aluxhomekile kumuntu, akunjalo. Ungaqiniseka ukuthi uma othandekayo wakho ebheka ngendlela ehlukile, noma, isibonelo, wathola imikhuba emibi eyokucasula, ngakho-ke kungakhathaliseki ukuthi imizwa yakho igxilile kangakanani kuwe, izobhekana nezinguquko ezingenakugwema. Uthando lwethu luqoqo lonke ulwazi mayelana nento, kusukela esithombeni sayo esibukwayo, ukuphela ngezingubo nokuhogela. Konke okwenzeka kuwe nomthandi wakho, konke ukuhamba kwakho nokubuka, wonke amazwi akho - konke lokhu kuqhubeka njalo futhi kulungisa imizwa yakho. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi uthando alukwazi ukuphila ngokwalo, kufanele luqiniswe njalo, lusekelwe, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kubalulekile ukufakazela uthando lwakho kumuntu othandekayo. Akumangalisi ukuthi ukuthanda ngothando kuwumsebenzi omkhulu. Uzodinga ukufakazela uthando lwakho njalo wesibili. Uma uthanda lolu hlobo lomsebenzi, kunalokho thola ebhizinisini. Awukwazi ukulahlekelwa umzuzu.
Okokuqala, udinga ukuqonda futhi wamukele ukuthi lolu thando luyisipho. Abanye abantu empilweni yabo yonke abaze bazi le mzwa. Yingakho kudingeke ubuyekeze imibono yakho empilweni bese uyeka ukucabanga ukuthi uthando luyinto ejwayelekile futhi ebonakalayo. Kwabanye, lokhu kuphela okwanele ukuqala ukubonga ngempela wonke umzuzu wothando.
Ngokuvamile umbuzo "indlela yokufakazela uthando lwakho kumuntu othandekayo?", Ukwenza ucabange ngenye into. Ingabe udinga ukufakazela noma yini kumuntu? Futhi ubani odinga lobu bufakazi futhi kungani? Ngokuvamile kunalokho, abantu abanobuthakathaka nabangaphephile abafuna ukuzizwa benenjongo, abafuna indlela yokuzibiza ngokwezindleko zabantu abathandayo. Kuyinto encane kabi, akunjalo, ukuxazulula izinkinga zakho ngenkathi ukhathaza izihlobo zakho? Kungasiza, njengoba bekungeke kuzwakala ibhalansi, ingxoxo engagwegwesi, igama elimnandi. Ekugcineni, mhlawumbe, kufanele ubuyekeze isimo sengqondo kumuntu onjalo, uma ikusasa lakho nezinzwa zakho zithandekayo kuwe. Ngokuvamile kunalokho, abantu abanjalo "bangenasisekelo," bazikhokhela ngentengo, bese bekushiya ngenhliziyo ephukile futhi ephelile, baqhubekile befuna isisulu esisha.
Kwenzeka ukuthi umuntu udinga ubufakazi bokuthandana, ungasho ukuthi, ukuxolisa, ukuphelelwa yisikhathi nje. Ufuna ukuletha imizwelo nemibala empilweni yakhe ngale ndlela, lapho lokhu kungenzeki ngokuhlukile. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi imizwa yakho iyabelana, ngakho-ke, akufanele unikeze ithuba lobuhlobo obunjalo.
Okokugcina, cabangela inketho uma uhamba kahle, uthandana, futhi nonke "izimvemvane ziqhuma esiswini" ... Okokuqala, kudingeke uzibheke. Mhlawumbe, ukufakazela uthando lwakhe ngalolu daba, yeka ukuthi kufanele kangakanani. Phendula umbuzo, ingabe ukhululekile nomthandi wakho? Awusozi lutho? Ungacabangi ukuthi izimfihlo zakho nezimfihlo zakho zihlala kuwe. Awudingi ukuba ube isazi sezengqondo esikhulu ukubona ukukhathazeka ebusweni, ukucabangela ngokweqile nokufihla. Isiqingatha sakho sizozibeka uphawu, bese "sishaya" isithombe sakho emphefumulweni wakho. Ngakho-ke, qeda izimfihlakalo, ulahle konke okulimaza ubuhlobo (ngaphandle uma, ngempela, ufuna ukuwagcina ngobuqotho), futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, lalela unembeza wakho - njalo ukutshela ukuthi usendleleni efanele. Futhi kaningi ukuthi "Ngiyamthanda" ...