Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubonakala kanjani, imizwa yobudala ehlukile ehlukile komunye nomunye. Ekukhuleni, konke kubonakala kukhanya futhi kulula. Ungakhathazeki ngezinkinga ezincane zasemakhaya, nokuthi abanye bayothini. Uyakuthanda umphefumulo wakho womshado kuphela ngoba unani, futhi lokhu kufakazela okuningi, njengoba kubonakala ngaleso sikhathi. Umuntu akathandwa ngento ethile, kodwa ngoba nje eseduze. Ngokwezinga elikhulu kule minyaka likhethiwe ngokubukeka, isimo sezinto ezibonakalayo, ukuthandwa. Phela, iningi labantu abasha litholakala ngokubaluleka kokuzikhethela, nokunikeza igunya elithile.
Uthando esikhathini esivuthiwe kakhulu akusilo i-cloud . Akusize ukuthi kukhona isaga esinjalo "Udinga ukushada ebusheni." Lokhu kusikisela ukuthi lapho usemncane imizwa ikhululekile futhi ayiqhutshwa kuhlaka. Lapho umuntu esemdala ukuqonda ukuthi nje uthando, okuncane, sidinga izingxenye eziyisisekelo zokuxhumana okuthembekile: ukwethemba, inhlonipho, ukuqonda, ithuba lokunciphisa, ukusekelwa, le mizwa ibaluleke kakhulu njengothando ngokwalo. Mhlawumbe yingakho lapho bebadala, kunzima ukuthola umbhangqwana. Ngoba abaqondiswa hhayi nje ngomzwelo, kodwa futhi nangendlela yokuziphatha, ukunakwa. Lokhu kuhlolwe kalula, kusiza ngesikhathi esibucayi, kufakazela isifiso sokusekela esimweni esinzima, ukufaka indawo ehlombe, nokusekelwa okuthembekile. Ngesikhathi sokugula, vimba kuzo zonke izinkinga. Ukweseka izinto, isifiso sokunikeza konke okungcono kunxenye yesibili. Zonke lezi zibonakaliso zothando zisebenza ngokukhulile, kuphela lapho ziqoqiwe zibe yinye. Uthando ngomuntu ongenalo izingxenye eziyisisekelo lungenzeka, kodwa kuphela akwanele isikhathi eside, futhi ngokushesha kudlula lapho ubhekene nobunzima bokuphila, izinkinga ngokushesha zikhuphuke futhi zikubonise.
Indoda ethandane nowesifazane onomntwana unezibopho ezimbili. Ngoba akumelwe avikele owesifazane wakhe othandekayo kuphela, kodwa futhi nomntwana. Owesifazane onomntwana lapho ekhetha okhethiweyo ushukumisa ukukhetha kwakhe ngesimo sengqondo jikelele. Njengoba beyingane nengane, futhi indoda kufanele iqonde ukuthi umama ngeke ahambisane nentando nenhlalakahle yengane yakhe. Konke okuhle kumntanakho kuyoba kuhle kumama. Awukwazi ukuziphoqa nganoma iyiphi indlela. Kubalulekile ukunqoba ukwethemba, ukufeza ukuqonda. Uma ingane ibona ukuthi unina uhlonishwa, uyathandwa, khona-ke uzodonseka kuwe. Uma ngokuphambene nalokho, ngeke ukwazi ukufeza umphumela omuhle. Izingane zonke zizwa ngezinga elingenakuqonda, akunakwenzeka ukuwakhohlisa.
Kuwubuwula ukucabanga ukuthi uthando lwenzeka kuphela esemncane. Iminye imizwa eqinile futhi enokwethenjelwa ivela esikhathini esizayo. Bahamba ngohlobo "lokukhethwa" ngokusho kwezingxenye ezibalwe ngenhla. Uma umuntu onjalo etholakala, lolu thando luzohlala kuze kube phakade, ngokungafani nentsha. Ngakho-ke unganqikazi ukubonisa imizwa nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, kodwa ungakhohlwa ngabathandekayo bakho, izingane, abazali. Kudingeka bazi ukuthi ujabule, uzizwa kahle. Mabajabule kanye nani.