Ezingqondweni zowesifazane wesifazane ukhonjiswe "ikhodi yezinganekwane". Sithatha i-postulates nobisi lomama, lapho le "chip chip-fairy chip" nayo ihlala kahle, futhi lapho sisezingeni eliphansi siqala ukuhlukanisa umhlaba emibusweni, abesifazane babe ngamakhosazana kanye nabathakathi ababi, namadoda ezikhulu neziphambululi. Kuyiqiniso, thina sinikeza indima yenkosikazi enhle kunabo bonke, othando lwazo izixuku nezicelayo nezikhulu zizolwa, kodwa ukufinyelela emphefumulweni nasemzimbeni kuyothola okufanelekile kakhulu ukufaneleka. Futhi emva komshado wasebukhosini obuhle kakhulu, isikhulu kanye nenkosikazi zizohlala isikhathi eside futhi zijabule, njengalokhu kule ndaba yezinganekwane. Kodwa ingabe kukhona inganekwane emva indaba inganekwane?
Ngeshwa, akusikho indaba yezinganekwane ukuthi kubhalwe kanjani ukuthi umbhangqwana ongokoqobo wezinganekwane uphila "isikhathi eside futhi ngenjabulo" futhi "ufe ngosuku olulodwa." Abatshele ukuthi abathandanayo banqoba kanjani izinkinga zansuku zonke, izinkinga zomndeni, ukuthi bavikela kanjani uthando lwabo ngomhawu, ubugovu nokufutheka. Noma kunjalo, yini ekhona yokona ezindabeni zezinganekwane? Asifundiswa le mithombo eqinisiwe kakhulu. Abazali, noma isikole, noma umphakathi awuqapheli ukuthi, lapho sisabadala, sishiya imibono emihle lapho kufanele khona-ebuntwaneni. Futhi ekwakheni umndeni, oqondiswa ulwazi lwezingqondo zesilisa nabesifazane, bekwazi ukuthethelela nokucela ukuthethelelwa, ukufuna ukulinganisa nokuthola ukuqonda okufanayo. Lena yindlela eya ebuhlotsheni obuhlakani kanye nothando oluvuthiwe. Ngakho-ke ukuthi uqale ukwakha ubudlelwane, ukuze baqine futhi baphile?Bakha, wakha futhi ekugcineni wakha!
Isisekelo sanoma yiluphi ubudlelwane - isisekelo esiqinile, esabekwa ekuqaleni kothando. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lizwakala kanjani lihlambalaza futhi lingenangqondo, kodwa uthando luthanda ukubala okunzima. Kulo, njengokwakhiwa kwezindlu, kumele kube khona uhlelo olucacile, imiklamo kanye nemidwebo. Kuzikhukhumeza kakhulu ukukholelwa ukuthi into esemqoka othandweni imizwa, konke okunye kuzokwengezwa. Izoxhunyaniswa, kodwa kuphela uma kuzoba khona. Futhi akuyona nje indaba. Kuzophinde kuqiniswe uma isisekelo sothando sihlonipha imithetho yezwe langaphakathi lomuntu, elimethembayo ngokuzethemba, nesifiso sokungalawuli khona, kodwa ukuvumelanisa ngokubambisana okuzuzisayo. Yebo, yebo! Ukubambisana! Ngoba uthando lusebenza. Kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kuyamnandi kakhulu futhi kunezithelo. Yiqiniso, amagama "isivumelwano", "inzuzo", "ukubambisana" banquma izindlebe zabathandi. Kodwa ngaphandle kwabo, akukho ndawo, uma umgomo ukwakha ubudlelwane besikhathi eside nobujabulisayo. Futhi yiziphi abakhi bomshado obunxilisayo? Kulungile, cha! Abakhiqizi bezakhi eziyingozi. Abathandi abakucabangi ngesisekelo sendlu yabo, bephethe izakhiwo nokuxhumana. Bathi, ngomuzwa othukuthele, bakha izindonga zekhonkrithi kusukela emathembeni nasezinganekwane, izifungo ezithandweni eziphakade nezithembiso ze-swan loyalty. Futhi lapho umuzwa ongeyinto engapheli umthwalo onjalo, bayamangala kakhulu: kungani izindonga zawa? Funa onecala. Futhi abakhi kufanele babekwe icala, futhi bobabili ngesikhathi esisodwa. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukudala umndeni, thatha inkathazo ukuqedela "isakhiwo sokwakha umndeni".Ungaqala kanjani ukwakha ubudlelwane?
- Ukufunda ukwamukela. Esigabeni sokuqala sobudlelwano kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi sonke singabantu - kusuka kubalingiswa, imizwelo, izinzwa namahomoni. Wonke umuntu unelungelo lokuhlala ngokwakhe, ngaphandle kokuphula amalungelo nenkululeko yomuntu othandekayo. Vumelana ukuthi bangaboni futhi bangagqoki mask. Yazi ubuthakathaka bakho kanye nokungaphumeleli, kodwa khetha ukuzivumela ukuba zibe nazo. Futhi ukuqonda uma ungathanda amaminithi akhe kuwo, yenza ukuhlolwa okulula. Hlukanisa ucezu lwephepha ngesigamu, ngakolunye uhlangothi, bhala phansi zonke izimfanelo ezicasula le ndoda, futhi kwenye - lokho okuthandayo. Qhathanisa amakholomu amabili, futhi uphendule ngokwethembeka: uyakulungela ukwamukela amaminithi akhe ngenxa yezinkampani eziningi? Cabanga ngalokho ongashintsha. Kodwa hhayi kulabo abathandekayo, kodwa ngaphakathi kwakho. Emva kwakho konke, ngokushesha nje lapho i-tube engaqinisekisiwe ye-toothpaste ikuyeka ukukucasula, futhi ngeke usuke ucashunwe nakho, kuyokwenziwa ngokuyisimangaliso ukuthi iphenduke yodwa. Amadoda angashintsha ngaphandle kokuhlaselwa.
- Funda ukuxoxa. Qala ubuhlobo nesivumelwano mayelana nokuthi luhlobo luni lwezingalo ezibukhali kumlingani womunye nomunye kungcono ukudlula, ukulinda noma ukunganaki. Ngenxa yalokhu, esimweni esivumelanayo ngendebe yekhofi noma ikhofi, xoxana ngokunamathiselwe kwakho kanye "namaphonji". Futhi ubhale kangcono - kukholomu eyodwa, lokho othanda ukukwenza, kwesinye, khona-ke lokho okucasulayo. Khuluma ngaphandle kwezikhalazo namazwi abukhali. Futhi nje eqinisweni. Isibonelo: "Ngiyakuthanda uma unganganga emsesheni bese uyibiza igundane." Noma ngokuphambene: "Angikuthandi ngempela ukuthi ngiyi-slobbered futhi ngibizwa ngamagama ezinkomo ezincane." Vumelana ukuthi ngeke uphuthele uma izinhla zivela ukuthi, mhlawumbe, zaxoshwa ngaphambili: "Angithandi ukuvakashela abangani bakho. Kubonakala kimi ukuthi abaqotho. Yenza lokho, sicela, ngaphandle kwami. " Umsebenzi oyinhloko ukungena ngokujulile esimweni sokuqala, ukwethembeka nokwamukela iqiniso.
- Funda ukuthembela. Akukho phuzu ebuhlotsheni uma kungekho ukwethemba kubo. Ungabeki lokhu "isitini" esisekelweni sothando lwakho, awukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane obuqinile obungapheli ngaphansi kokubhujiswa komhawu, umona nokuhleba. Khumbula! Imvume yomuntu ukuba ahlale nawe noma isitembu epasipoti yakhe ayimenzeli impahla yakho. Mcele imvume ngaphambi kokuhlola amapokhethi akhe ngaphambi kokugeza, esebenza kukhompyutha yakhe noma ebiza ucingo lwakhe. Ngakho awubonisi nje inhlonipho isikhala sakhe siqu, kodwa futhi ubonise isibonelo sokuthi udinga ukuhlonipha insimu yakho. Uma ucabanga ukuthi u-espionage uzokusiza ukwazi kangcono izinhloso zangempela zomuntu wakho, uphutha. Akekho umuntu onjalo, ofisa ukuba "nashodit," akakwazi ukumboza ngempumelelo amathrekhi akhe. Futhi noma ngabe nje ekubambelele ekuthungeni, ngeke usithembe.
- Funda ukudala amasiko. Noma yimuphi ubuhlobo yimikhuba namasiko aqinile. Siphinde sithanda ukuza kubazali bethu, lapho wonke umndeni ubuthana khona ngeSonto sasemini ngesidlo somama ogqamile. Noma njalo ngoLwesihlanu, wonke umndeni ukuthatha izingane echibini, i-zoo noma i-pizzeria. Imindeni eqinile inezinkolelo zayo, futhi lokhu kwenza ukuba babumbene futhi babumbene. Vumela futhi uzothola amasiko wombhangqwana. Hamba njalo ngenyanga ku-cinema, uhlele amapiknikhi endabuko ngendlela enokuthola, uqoqe ngezinsuku ezithile nabangani bese udlala nabo "ku-Monopoly". Noma ake kube amasiko akho amancane okuzosiza ukuthi wazi. Isibonelo, hlela isonto lokubonga, isonto lokuphana, ngesonto ngaphandle kokumangalelwa, njll Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiba ngesonto linye izwe. Izinsuku eziyisikhombisa, uxoxe ngamagama athakazelisayo olimini lwakhe noma ulungise izitsha ezingu-7 ezivela ekhishini lakhe. Yenza ubuciko futhi wenze ubuhlobo bakho bujabulise futhi buqine.