Naphezu kwenkulumo-ze esebenzayo yobufazi, abesifazane abaningi basalokhu bephuka ngenjabulo yesifazane elula - umndeni. Kwabesifazane abathile, umshado uba yisixazululo sangempela. Kunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nokuhluleka empilweni yakho yangasese lapho bonke abangane bakho sebevele bethole isipho esilinde isikhathi eside futhi badlale umshado. Kulesi simo, wonke owesifazane uyazibuza: "Kungani ngingakashadi?". Ukuze uphendule lo mbuzo, izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukuhlaziya ukuziphatha kwazo.
Indlela yokwandisa amathuba okushada: iseluleko esiwusizo
- Ungasindiswa emcabangweni wokushada. Lokhu kuyinto yokuqala okumele ifundwe ngabesifazane abafisa ukuthola isitifiketi esiyigugu epasipoti yabo. Amadoda azizwa ngeso lengqondo lesi sifiso, futhi sibaphazamisa ezingeni eliphansi. Owesifazane ophuka kakhulu emshadweni akakwazi ukunikeza kalula okudingekayo esigabeni sokuqala sobudlelwane.
- Thola ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo kumuntu wena obaluleke kakhulu. Abesifazane bavame ukungena ngokweqile: abanye bafuna konke ngesikhathi esisodwa, abanye abazi ukuthi badinga yini. Esikhathini sokuqala, ukuhlolwa kwabo bonke abazokwazi ukuqala kuzoqala, ngokushesha nje lapho ukungafani okuncane kunomfanekiso wesithenjwa kubonakala. Kwesibili, ukusesha okusebenzayo kuqala ngokusesha zonke izinketho. Akekho kulawa maqhinga azoletha umphumela oyifunayo. Izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukugcizelela amaphuzu ambalwa kakhulu, futhi ubheke umyeni wesikhathi esizayo ngokuhambisana nezinto ezibekwa phambili.
- Vumela ukuhamba esikhathini esedlule. Ukutholakala kokuhlangenwe nakho okungalungile ebuhlotsheni obuseduze kuvimbela umuntu ekuqaliseni impilo yakhe. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane abaye bahlangabezana nesahlukaniso esibuhlungu. Kunzima kakhulu ukuba baqale kusukela ekuqaleni futhi bafunde ukuthembela amadoda futhi ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi baphinde bahlupheke ngokomzwelo. Kodwa labo abafuna ukuthokozisa injabulo yabo, kuvele kudingekile ukuthi baziphendulele ezinkumbulo ezimbi zesikhathi esidlule emicabangweni emihle mayelana nekusasa elijabulisayo.
- Ungesabi ukulahlekelwa ukuzimela kwakho. Amanye amalungu obulili obuhle abheka umshado njengesivimbela inkululeko. Yiqiniso, isimo somfazi sithatha imithwalo yemfanelo emisha ehlobene nokuphila, izindaba zasekhaya, ukukhuliswa kwezingane, njll. Ukubhekana nale nkinga akulula, kodwa kungenzeka. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi owesifazane oshadile akazilahli njengomuntu, futhi umqondo wokuthi umfazi omuhle kufanele abe ngumama wendlu kuphela umqondo owenziwe emphakathini.
- Zithande futhi ungagcini ebuhlotsheni. Lesi seluleko siwusizo kulabo besifazane, lapho amadoda ahamba khona enesizathu sokuthi awadalwa emndenini. Ezimweni eziningi lokhu akuyona into engaphezu kwesizathu, ngoba kwakungekho lutho lokucabanga ngakho. Eqinisweni, amadoda aqala ukuthukuthela. Kungase kube khona izizathu eziningi zalokhu, kodwa omunye wezengqondo zakuqala ubiza ukungabi khona kwe-egoism enempilo ebulili obuhle. Njengomkhuba wokubonisa, amadoda abathokozi abesifazane abenza izingozi zabo siqu. Ngisho noma ngabe umshado usukhona, bobabili abashadile ngeke bajabule, futhi indoda, cishe, esikhathini esifushane izoqala ukugqolozela ukuthi amantombazane ayamthakazelisa kangakanani.