Ingqimba yengane
Cishe unyaka nesigamu, amantombazane aqala ukuzikhomba ngobulili. Lokhu ngokuvamile kwenzeka emdlalweni. Kungani amantombazane adlala "kumama-indodakazi"? Kungenzeka ukuthi ngenxa yemvelo imvelo isifiso sokunakekela umuntu, kusukela ebuntwaneni engazi ukuthi ufanele afeze umgomo wakhe wokuzala. Futhi umdlalo wakhe uhlobo lokuqeqesha Akuyona ingozi ukuthi imfundo iqala ... Ukuthengwa kwamathoyizi.Lokhu akusho ukuthi indodakazi idinga ukuthenga amadokodo kuphela. Kodwa-ke, akudingeki ukuba adlale izimoto ngoba udinga ikhoneni lakhe ngezinto zokudlala, ifenisha, imilenze nezingubo zokulala. idleke isidleke salo. Kulo mdlalo, ingane ihlangabezana nezinto eziningi ezibalulekile, ifunda, ifunda imithetho yokuziphatha emphakathini, futhi ngaphandle kwalokho, umdlalo yisibuko sabazali.Zama indodakazi futhi uzobona ukuthi emdlalweni usebenzisa amagama akho , ukuzithokozisa, indlela yokuxhumana. Asiphelelanga, futhi ngosizo lomntwana ungabona amaphutha akho ekukhuliseni.
Indlu ehlanzekile
Kusukela esemncane (cishe unyaka), kufaka intombazane ekwenzeni imisebenzi yasekhaya ndawonye. Thatha inkathazo ukuyithenga nge-mop, whisk. Zama ukuqala ngokuhlanza ngesimo somdlalo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kancane kancane ujwayeze ukunemba, cela ukuqeda icala. Akudingekile ukuvimbela imvuthuluka ukwenza "ibhizinisi" layo lebhizinisi - livumele ligeze, livule, ngisho noma lingasebenzi ekuqaleni. Nika umntwana ukuba abe nesandla emsebenzini wesikole. Kusobala ukuthi umama uzokwenza konke ngokushesha futhi angcono, ngokwesibonelo, uzosula phansi. Kodwa uma wenqabela intombazane ukuba isisize, ingaba yinkimbinkimbi ngaphakathi kwayo, kuyoba khona ukungabaza. Futhi ngaphezu kwalokho kuyokwenzela isikhathi eside ukuguqula isifiso sokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya. Kukhona nenkinga yokuntuleka kokuxhumana nezingane. Njengoba kwenzeka njalo: Amamahotela omama avela emsebenzini, futhi ngokushesha ekhishini - alungiselela ukudla, bese esula. Ukubhekana nengane akusikho isikhathi, kodwa uma ekhuphuka ngaphansi kwengalo yakhe, uvele ehlukumezekile. Kodwa zama ukwenza konke ndawonye. Mhlawumbe, ngakho ukupheka nokuhlanza kuzothatha isikhathi esiningi, kepha ingane iyojabula futhi iyenze! Futhi umama ngokushesha akabulali ngisho nambili, kodwa izinyoni ezintathu ngetshe elilodwa: uzokwenza umsebenzi wesikole, uzomfundisa okuningi futhi akhokhele ukungabi nokuxhumana.
Graft ukunambitheka
Ngezinye izikhathi kuyimfihlakalo enkulu kumama - indlela yokugqoka intombazane? Lapha, ngokweqile, kufanelekile ukunikeza ingane ilungelo lokuzikhethela. Ngokwesibonelo, intombazane ngaphambi kweminyaka emibili igqoke ama-panties kuphela. Uma esenikwe ingubo kamama engaphansi kwentombazane encane eyayithanda ngempela. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, ucele ukuthenga izingubo ezinjalo nje, "njengamakhosazana", futhi wenqabe ukugqoka noma yini enye. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ungakwazi ukuphoqa ingane ukuthi yini oyithandayo, kodwa ingabe kufanele? yena kanye naye, futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, ukubeka umbono womuntu kunoma yini engeke iholele kunoma yini.Kungenzeka ukuthi lapho indodakazi ikhula, ngeke ikwazi ukuthatha izingubo zayo futhi izodinga njalo iseluleko somuntu. Qinisekisa ukuthi ugqoke imibala nezitayela, akudingekile, kodwa ukuchaza ukuthi iziphi izicathulo kubalulekile ukuthuthukisa ukunambitheka okuhle kwentombazane. Chaza ukuthi kunezambatho zansuku zonke nezokugubha, sitshele ukuthi umehluko yini.Zama ukuphatha izinto ngokucophelela. Ngokuvamile amantombazane abhekana uma ephuka noma engcolile ingubo. Akukwesabeki, uma kungasebenzi ngaso leso sikhathi, kodwa umntwana uzoyithokozisa umsebenzi womama futhi uzobe eqaphela kakhulu. Abazali abaningi basondela cishe baphakamisela amadodakazi ensimbi okweshumi. Phakathi naleso sikhathi intombazane kakade ngonyaka owodwa nengxenye iyakwazi ukuhlanganiswa ngokwayo. Bonisa ukuthi kwenziwa kanjani, ngitshele ukuthi izitayela zezinwele zizohambelana nani. Wena kanye nawe uzokuqeda izinkathazo ezingadingekile, kanti indodakazi iyoba yilapho ikwazi ukuzimela. Kufanele kube khona i-fashionista encane kanye namacici akhe. Futhi umama uzokutshela indlela yokuyikhetha ngokufanele eceleni. Izimonyo zikaMama zisebenza ngendodakazi ngomlingo. Umntwana ubona ukuthi umama wakhe upende kanjani, futhi ufuna ukukhangisa. Musa ukufihla isifiso kusuka emntwaneni. Kungcono uchaze ukuthi ungasebenzisa kanjani zonke lezi zinto. Vumela intombazane ibe nomzimba wayo: i-lipstick yezempilo, amafutha kanye ne-nail polish. Yambitha futhi unambitha futhi. Ukumfundisa njengomntwana kungenye yezinto ezibalulekile ekufundiseni intombazane. Esikhathini esizayo, ngeke nje akhethe izingubo, kodwa futhi azakhele ngaphakathi endlini. Futhi lapho - futhi uthuthukise ukunambitheka kwendodakazi yakhe.
Imfihlo yokuqala yokumanga
Bobabili abazali kumele bahlanganyele ekukhuliseni kwentombazane. Kodwa indima ehola, mhlawumbe, ingokwamama. Uzozinikela indodakazi yakhe kuma-sakramente abesifazane. Futhi ungakwenza lokhu kuphela uma uthembana. Nasi isibonelo esisodwa. Le ntombazane, ephuma enkulisa, yavuma ukuthi yayiyamanga umfana. Ukumanga kokuqala kuyisenzakalo esivezelayo, esisekukhunjweni iminyaka, futhi kubalulekile ukuthi ingane yabelane ngayo nonina. Ukuthola ukwethenjwa kwengane akulula. Izingane azithetheleli ukungabi nabulungisa, inkohliso. Yiba nendodakazi yakho eqotho futhi eqotho. Awufuni yini ukuthi indodakazi yakho ibe nezimfihlo ezivela kuwe? Ngezindlela ezahlukene, bonisa uthando lwakho nenhlonipho. Ngokufanayo, ubaba wale ntombazane kuqala futhi ngokuyinhloko umgcini wokuphepha nomngane omuhle. Kuye, uzizwa evikelekile. Ubaba ungavumela ama-pranks ahlukahlukene (ngisho ugibele ngehhashi), ukudlala ibhola. Kubalulekile ukuthi ubaba wayekhathalele kakhulu indodakazi yakhe, unikele ngoMashi 8 hhayi amathoyizi kuphela, kodwa izimbali, ngaleyo ndlela zibonisa ukuthi ubona kuye owesifazane omncane. Kodwa-ke, akudingeki ukuba uphinde ulandele indodakazi yakho kakhulu. Uma kungenjalo, ubhekene nobunzima ngokukhetha umyeni wakhe. Ngokwesibonelo, umlingisi waseMelika u-Lisa Minnelli, wavuma ukuthi akazitholi isikhathi eside: akekho ozobhapathizwa ongaqhathaniswa nobaba onakekelayo ongazange amlahle noma yini. Kubonakala ukuthi owesifazane uzikhethela abangane bomuntu ofana nomzali noma okuphambene nalokho - konke kuxhomeke ekuhloleni kobuhlobo emndenini. Uma ingane ingenabo ubaba, isibonelo "somyeni wangempela" kungaba, isibonelo, umkhulu noma umalume.
Umzimba nokuhlanzeka komphefumulo
Elinye lamaphuzu aphambili ekufundiseni intombazane inhlanzekile. Le ntombazane idinga ukufundiswa ukuhlanzeka ku-diaper. Futhi lapha abazali bavame ukubhekana nobunzima, ngoba izingane zifuna ukwazi, zivula umhlaba ozungezile njalo ngomzuzu (nakuwo ngokwawo). Kungcono uma ingane izwa kumama wayo izimpendulo zemibuzo yakhe ngesimo senhliziyo, evela kuye, hhayi emantombazaneni womakhelwane, ifunda ngesakhiwo somzimba. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlanzeka komphefumulo. Iyini inhlekazi yowesifazane emphakathini wanamuhla? Umusa, othandekayo, isineke, uyakwazi ukuzwelana. Owesifazane wekhulu lama-XXI kumele futhi abe yi-erudite, akwazi ukuzimela yena. Indlela yokuhlakulela lezi zimfanelo intombazane? Okokuqala, ngesibonelo somuntu siqu. Ngandlela-thile ingane ithola umbono wezwe lomama. Uma uzivumela ukuba unzima, ubukhali kumlingani wakho, intombazane izophinde iphathe nomlingani ozayo. Izingane zizama ukuzama ukufana nabazali bazo, umlingisi osemusha ukhuthaza isibonelo esiphilayo, kunokuba akhuthaze kanye nezingxoxo zemfundo. Kodwa ngokuvamile abantu abadala, bebiza omunye, benze okuphambene. Umntwana akakholelwa kakhulu ezindlebeni zakhe, kodwa ngamehlo akhe. Letha indodakazi yakho emhlabeni wezobuciko, ikufundise ukucula nokudansa, ukudweba, ukubhala amavesi, nokuletha imithetho yokuziphatha. Khumbula ukuthi izingane zidinga ukufudumala nothando olukhulu. Kodwa uthando kufanele lube nolungile. Ngoba, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungaqonda yini imfihlo yemfihlo yamama, indlela yokufundisa intombazane, nokuthi yiziphi izidingo ozonikeza indodakazi yakho, kuxhomeke kulokho owesifazane ozothathwa esandleni sakho ngumyeni wakhe wesikhathi esizayo.