Ukukhathazeka eminyakeni engu-7
Ake sizame ukuqonda lesi simo. Ngonyaka wokuqala wokuphila, ingqondo yengane iqala ukwakha. Phakathi nale nkathi yesikhathi edinga ngempela umama. Kwenzeka ukuthi umama akahambisani nezenzo zakhe futhi ingane ayikwazi ukuthi ungayethemba yini umama wakho nokuthi ungamethemba yini. Lokhu kungathembeki, njengokusanhlamvu esimweni esivundile, esivela kuso futhi siqinisa ukukhathazeka. Ngokuvamile kuvezwe ngokucacile eminyakeni engu-7 yokukhathazeka kwengane, lapho ingane iya esikoleni iphinde iwele ezweni engazijwayele. Abanye omama nabazali bakholelwa ukuthi umntwana uzokhula, ukuthi uma esekhulile, ukukhathazeka kuyodlula, kodwa empeleni akusikho. Kusukela ekuhlosheni kwengane ngesikhathi esincane, isibonelo sokuziphatha sayo konke ukuxhumana kwakhe kwesikhathi esizayo kanye nobuhlobo nabanye abantu kubalwa.
Ukulindelwa kokusongelwa nokuphepha okungaqiniseki kubonakala ngokukhathazeka iminyaka engu-7. Ngokungafani nomzwelo wokwesaba, ngokwezazi ze-psychologists, akukho mthombo othile wokukhathazeka - ukwesaba ukulindela "ukungazi ukuthi yini". Ukukhathazeka okuthile okuyingqayizivele futhi kubalulekile nakithi sonke, hhayi kuphela izingane, ukugqugquzela izinsizakalo zomzwelo, ezengqondo kanye nezidingo zomuntu. Umuntu ngamunye unesilinganiso esidingekayo sokukhathazeka futhi kuncike ekusebenzeni kwamakhono. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukuziphatha komntwana akukhathazeki. Ngokuvama kusuka kwanezinyane elinjalo likhula umuntu ongaphephile. Ngenxa yalokho, kuholele ekuthuthukiseni i-neurosis enganeni, ukungathembeki nokungazinzi ngokomzwelo.
Izimbangela zokukhathazeka
Ake sizame ukuqonda, ngasizathu sini lokhu kungqubuzana kwangaphakathi konke okuvelayo? Ingabe kuphela ukuziphatha komama wewayini lonke? Yiqiniso, lokhu akuyona nje iphutha likamama. Yonke iphutha lezinyane elizungezile. Masikhumbule, ngoba wonke umuntu angakhumbula ukubukela isimo esilandelayo: umama uyawavimbela - ugogo wami uyavuma, ubaba uyavuma - umama uyawavimbela futhi ngokufanayo. Kodwa kunezinye izizathu. Umntwana osondelene naye uvame ukuhlambalazwa, ngaleyo ndlela amenze abe nomuzwa wecala. Ngemuva kokuhlambalaza ingane yakho isaba ukwesaba.
Indlela yokwenza uma ukukhathazeka emntwaneni sekuvele kwakhiwe? Zama ukusebenzisa iziqondiso ezilandelayo:
- Tshela ingane yakho kaningi, ukuthi uyamthanda kanjani futhi uyamthanda, ungakhohlwa ukumdumisa, ngisho nezenzo ezincane ezinhle;
- Ngokungazi lutho, ungalandeli ingane yakho, ngoba ukhubekile;
- Ungalokothi ubeke uma kuqhathaniswa neontanga, "nangu kuhle, futhi ubi."
- Zama ukuxabana nomntwana, ubeke ubuhlobo phakathi kwabo. Noma yikuphi ukuphikisana kwengane kakhulu futhi uzibheka njengecala kule mpi.
- Ukukhuluma ngamehlo akho ingane emehlweni akho, uzomsiza ukuba ahlukanise esikhathini esizayo iqiniso emangeni.
Nika ingane yakho ukufudumala nokukhathalela, uchithe isikhathi esiningi naye, meme ukuthi uyithanda kakhulu emhlabeni jikelele. Mnike ithuba lokuxhumana noontanga, vakashela izindawo zomphakathi. Futhi ngaphambi kokuhlambalaza ingane yakho, cabanga ukuthi uyayifanele yini, noma unomqondo omubi nje. Lena yindlela ewukuphela kokubhekana nokukhathazeka kwezingane ezisekelweni ezingu-7.