Owokuqala ungumuntu ozokhohlisa, ngubani ozophakamisa izici zakhe ngokubukeka okukhangayo, ngezwi elithambile elithambile.
Uhlobo lwesibili aluhlaza. Inkulumo yakhe inonya futhi iyamcasula, akafuni nje ukugcizelela, kodwa futhi ukucindezela owesifazane, ukubeka esimweni esinjalo ukuthi kungaba lula ukuyilawula. Amadoda anjalo avamise ukubonakala edakiwe kunalokho ayenjalo, futhi asebenzise amagama anonya.
Amadoda ohlobo lwesithathu angashintsha esithombeni setshe, azinaki ngokuphelele ezungezile. Uthemba ukuthi ukuthula kwakhe nezithombe zakhe kuzomkhathaza owesifazane, futhi uzoba nesithakazelo kubo.
Uma wazi izindlela zokudukisa amadoda, kulula kakhulu ukukhetha umugqa wokuziphatha esimweni ngasinye.
Lapho i-flatterer, le-Casanova, izothola u-eulogy, idumisa ubuhle bakho, seluleka owesifazane ukuba angamomotheka ngobuwula, ungadabuki noma uphazamise. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi akakuhloniphi kakhulu, ukuthi ufuna ukudidanisa kangakanani futhi uthole ukunyakaza engxoxweni. Sebenzisa imithetho yakhe yomdlalo, ukubonga, bese udumisa ngokubuyisela. Zama ukuncoma kwakho ngezansi ezimbili futhi kufanele ucabange ngakho. Ngesikhathi esincane le ndoda ilahlekile, ukugaya lokho okushoyo, futhi ngaleso sikhathi kuyakuba khona inzuzo eceleni kwakho. Yiya ekucaseni, cela, pepper enemibuzo mayelana nomsebenzi nokuzilibazisa. Zama ukufunda okwengeziwe ngaye, ingabe nguye umuntu oyidinga? Futhi kancane ngangokunokwenzeka, unikeza ulwazi ngawe.
Uma umuntu eqala ukungabi namahloni, ungakhohlisi amagama akhe ahlukumezayo, ungabonisi ukuthi ukhubekile noma ukwethuka. Ubuqili bayo buyindlela nje yokuthola inzuzo yokuziphatha phezu kwakho, ngandlela-thile ukukucindezela. Uzozama ukukubandakanya empikiswaneni - akukho nhlobo ongahambi kuyo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiyiphi indaba ephikisanayo - ubuciko, ezombusazwe, imvelo - nguwe kuphela onesithakazelo kuye, futhi akawazi enye indlela yokukuthola. Napha futhi, ukuzivikela okungcono kakhulu ukuqala ukubuza imibuzo. Indoda ephoqelelwe ukuba iphendule kuyo iyoyeka ukuzulazula futhi izoxoshwa kancane ezindaweni zayo. Isikhathi sokuqala ukuhlaselwa. Simboze ngemibuto, futhi uzomangala ukuthi uzopholisa kanjani ngokushesha futhi ubuyele enkambweni yokuxoxisana. Lapha kuzotholakala ukuthi kuyakufanele yini ukuyiqonda, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu omnandi ufihla ngemuva kwenkulumo enenkohliso noma cha. Ngokuvamile impendulo izoba yinto enhle, futhi ukuhlukumezeka okukhulu nokungabi nabulungisa kungumgogodla, ngemuva kwalokho umuntu ojwayelekile efihlekile.
Indlela elula yokubhekana "nokuqoshwa kwamatshe". Ekuboneni kuqala yiyona indoda engenakufinyeleleka kakhulu, kodwa imfihlo ukuthi kufanelekile ukumbuza, njengokungathi kudlula, umbuzo othize odinga impendulo eningiliziwe, futhi uzoba ohlangothini oluvikelekile, avele esimweni sakhe esibuhlungu, isimo seMephistopheles. Futhi uchungechunge olujwayelekile lwemibandela yomuntu siqu kufanele lulandele: lapho ehlala khona, ukuthi uthola kanjani, njll. Udlala naye, ngoba konke ayekufuna kwakungenxa yokuthi uqale kuqala futhi uthathe umthwalo walokho okwenzekayo. Kodwa uyohlale unenzuzo engxoxweni, futhi nguwe kuphela ozocacisa ukuthi uzohamba kangakanani. Ungavumeli amadoda akuthathe ingxoxo kuze kube yilapho uqiniseka ukuthi uyawaqeda.
Amadoda athweswa abesifazane abanesibindi, abazethembayo, abazifunayo-bayabanselela, kumele banqotshwe. Ungacabangi ukuthi amadoda ayesaba abesifazane besimanje, abazethembayo, abaqotho. Abesabi ngabo nhlobo, bayabathanda. Uma uhlangana nomuntu okhanga kakhulu, zama ukumcacisa: bonisa ukuthi ujabulela ingxoxo naye, ubonise isithakazelo empilweni yakhe, ukuzilibazisa. Khona-ke, ngosizo lwezicelo ezincane (ulethe ingilazi, esikhundleni sesitulo), qinisa umqondo wakhe wobunikazi ngokuqondene nawe. Futhi njengoba ezizwa engumnikazi wakho, cishe usuphumelele: umngane wakho omusha uzoqala ukukuvikela emangalisweni yamanye amadoda, futhi isimo sakhe sengqondo siyovuka ngokuphawulekayo uma umtshela ukuthi unayo. Akukho okunye okwandisa ukuzihlonipha komuntu kanye nesithakazelo sakhe sokuthandwa kuwe kunokuba ulwe (uma nje ephuma ngokuphumelelayo).
Uma umuntu efuna abanye bajabulele ukuxoshwa kwakhe, amandla, isibindi, imali ayitholayo, khona-ke owesifazane kudingeka adlulise ubuhle bakhe. Indoda ongeyisilima kakhulu ukuphindaphinda umkakhe nsuku zonke: "Nkulunkulu wami, kuhle kangakanani!" - angazizwa ephephile ngokuphelele: ngeke aphoqeleke ukuba ageze izitsha, alahle yonke inkokhelo yakhe etafuleni, aphinde agijime esitolo. Futhi ngokuphambene nalokho, owesifazane, akeke aqaphele ukubonakala kwakhe engxenyeni yendoda, ngokushesha ngokushesha abe ngumncane: uzokhubekisa, akhononde ngezilonda zakhe eziningi, amhlophe futhi ekugcineni, ukufa komyeni wakhe. Isimo sengqondo somuntu kowesifazane ikakhulukazi sinqunywe yisifiso sokuthi "sithuthukise isimo," kusimangaze, kubangele ukuthokozisa, ukumangazwa ngezindaba ezingenangqondo. Owesifazane ngalesi sizathu uhlala phansi, akasoze eze ukuzamazamisa abantu ngezinto ezingakaze zibe nazo ekuphileni kwakhe. Uzojabula ngokumangala. Unokwanele kulokhu, namandla, nokunakwa, nokukhuthazela. Abesifazane ngaphezu kwanoma yini emhlabeni bakhonta izinkathazo ezimnandi.
Uma indoda ifuna ukuqeda umfazi okhukhumezayo, makamthengi nsuku zonke into enhle kakhulu. Uma owesifazane eba umthwalo womuntu ongathandeki, akazithengi lutho, kungenani, kodwa uzomshiya yedwa okungenani ihora lapho ebuyela ekhaya evela emsebenzini futhi amnike ithuba lokwenza lokho akufunayo. Amadoda adinga ukuthula njengetshe lokushisa abathanda ukusivuza. Ngokufanayo, abesifazane abanomzwelo badinga umdwebo omncane ozowavuselela njengendlela epholile. Amadoda azizwa isidingo sokukhuluma isikhathi eside efonini, ngowesifazane - lokhu kungenye yezinjabulo ezinkulu kakhulu. Badinga okungenani ihora ngosuku ukuze baqonde. Amadoda adinga leli hora ukuze athule. Lapho uPythagoras esho: "Oshade naye ohloniphekile, uma ufuna umyeni wakho asebenzise isikhathi sakho samahhala eduze kwakho, zama ukungazitholi injabulo eminingi, injabulo, ukuthobeka kanye nobubele kunoma iyiphi enye indawo."
Ukuze ugcine indoda futhi uqinise umndeni, owesifazane kufanele akhumbule futhi agcine imithetho engu-7 edingekayo empilweni yomndeni.
1. Ungalokothi 'uphuze' umyeni. Kumakhilomitha ahlakaniphile futhi ahlakaniphile azofika ngesikhathi esisodwa, eziyisiwula - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zingakanani, ngeke zifinyelele.
2. Ungazami ukufundisa kabusha umuntu. Ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu, into esemqoka akumele umise umuntu ukuba ahlale ngokwakhe, ungamphoqeleli ukuba ashintshe imikhuba eyamjabulisa, uma ngaphandle kwalokho, akulimazi abanye.
3. Nika umyeni wakho ngezibonakaliso zokunaka futhi ufune okufanayo kuye. Izimpawu zokunakwa yisitayela sobuhlobo bomshado obuhle. Kubalulekile kuphela ukuthi akuyona into engathandeki kakhulu futhi ishukela.
4. Ungamgxeka umyeni wakho phambi kwabantu abangabazi, obajwayele, izihlobo, izingane. Amazwi abalulekile, ngisho noma ayengabulungisa, kufanele athathwe amehlo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukugxekwa okuqhubekayo komunye umlingani kubangela ukunganaki emndenini, empini, ekuphazamiseni ngokomzwelo, kubhubhisa ukushada komshado.
5. Khumbula izinto ezinhle kuphela. Ikhono lokukhumbula okuhle likwazi ukukhohlwa okubi.
6. Hlonipha. Ngesizathu esithile, abanye abantu abanohloniphekile nabanohloniphekile abasebenza emndenini baba abahlukumezayo, abayala njalo, bawafundise, bawaphikise.
7. Nakekela impilo yakho nabathandekayo bakho. Ukuhlakanipha kwaseShayina yakudala kuthi: "Impilo iyinzuzo yokuqala, kanti eyesibili iyinkinga ejabulisayo." Landela impilo yomyeni wakhe, umenze aye kudokotela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ahlolwe, ahlole ukuvimbela. Umuntu ongakhathaleli ngempilo yakhe u-egoist ohloniphekile, ngoba izifo zakhe zibeka umthwalo osindayo emahlombe ezihlobo nezihlobo.
Kuphawula ukuthi indoda nomfazi, abaye bahlala isikhathi eside emshadweni, baqala ukufana. Ngempela, uma abashadile behlala ngokuthula nangobunye, bahlonipha omunye nomunye, baphendule ngokulingana nezenzakalo, bahlakulela ukuthanda kanye nemikhuba efanayo. Abahlali nje ngokuhlangene, bahlala ndawonye, ngakho-ke yilowo nalowo unelungelo lokuthi: "Ukuphila kwakho kungukuphila kwami."