Izinyunyana ezingalingani zilahlwa, kodwa abantu banamuhla baphonsa "inselele" embonweni womphakathi, bebonisa ngesibonelo sabo ukuthi umehluko oneminyaka awubalulekile uma abantu bathandana.
Isimo esiyinkimbinkimbi yabantu kanye nenani elikhulu lehlukaniso kubonisa ukuthi indoda nowesifazane abazi ukuthi bangakha kanjani ubudlelwane. Uma ababili bezitholile futhi bebonke ndawonye, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubani omdala, umuntu kufanele nje ajabule ngabo. Kunoma yikuphi, lo mbhangqwana uzoba khona njengoba nje bobabili befuna.
Kunabantu abasha abathanda ngempela uma abesifazane bekhulile kunamadoda ebuhlotsheni, futhi akuzona ngempela i-alfonso. Mhlawumbe kuyinkimbinkimbi eyakhiwa ebusheni bakhe. Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwenzeka kamuva kubafana kunamantombazane. Amantombazane angathathi abafana ngokubambisana futhi azama ukukhetha umngane omdala kunabo. Ukunganakekelwa ngabaningi, umfana onjalo uzodinga induduzo nomfazi omdala owedlula.
Umzamo ongaphumelelanga wokuxhumana kocansi wokuqala nomuntu ophila ngesikhathi esifanayo ubeka uphawu oluqinile ngokuzihlonipha. Intombazane engenalwazi ayikwazi ukuziphatha kwayo kuphela, kodwa futhi amagama athi "yingozi" umlingani. Emva kwesimo esinjalo, insizwa izobheka umlingani onolwazi, onakekelayo, oqondayo futhi uzoba nobuhlobo nowesifazane osekhulile kuneminyaka yakhe. Isimiso somama sizosiza owesifazane ukuba aqonde insizwa enjalo futhi asize ambule umuntu kuye. Amadoda ebuhlotsheni nabesifazane abanjalo bazizwa njengeziqhawe zangempela, futhi kulokhu, umehluko weminyaka awubalulekile, awunakutholakali ngisho. Abambalwa abanjalo banqoba ubudlelwane kabili. Indoda ithola i-caress, ukunakekela, uthando, ibona ukuthi owesifazane udinga yini. Owesifazane onjalo unamathela ngokuhlakanipha indoda, evumela ukuba abe nesimo esiholela futhi abe nomuzwa wokuthi eceleni kwakhe indoda yangempela. Uma owesifazane esekhulile, ke, eseduze nensizwa, uzama ukuma kahle, okulungile kuye. Kukhona ubudlelwane obuthemba kakhulu phakathi kwabantu.
Isimo sesimo sabantu sishiye uphawu lwaso emphakathini wesilisa. Amadoda asuswe, kodwa ngani? Ngenxa yokuthi thina besifazane, ngenxa yokungabi namadoda ebangeni labo, siyawazisa futhi sibazisa, singaqapheli ukuthi sizilimaza ngokwethu.
Owesifazane, ophethe isikhundla esiphambili ebuhlotsheni nomuntu, uphonsela umqondo "womuntu" ngemuva, ubeka konke kumaphethelo akhe angenangqondo futhi yena, ngaphandle kokuqaphela lokhu, ulahlekile njengowesifazane. Indoda, ekunakekelwa ngokweqile umama wesifazane, ngokuhlakanipha "ihlale phansi entanyeni" futhi ilungise ukuziphatha kwayo kakade akekho oyophumelela.
Owesifazane ohlakaniphile kuphela uyakwazi ukwakha ubuhlobo nensizwa ngendlela yokuthi ukwehluka kweminyaka yobudala ngeke kube nomthelela omubi ekuzihloneleni kwakhe, futhi kuzomsiza abe indoda yangempela.
Vumela umphakathi ulahle ukungalingani okungalingani, kodwa kubaluleke ngani uma abantu ababili bejabule. Owesifazane ubonakala emphakathini njengomphathi womndeni. Imithi yanamuhla yenza ukuba owesifazane abelethe umntwana onempilo cishe noma yikuphi ubudala. Insizwa, ukuba ngumlingani osebenzayo, izosiza kuphela ukuzala inzalo enempilo. Ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, ngisho nangaphezulu, owesifazane kufanele ahlale ekhumbula ukuthi ungowokuqala, owesifazane okufanele ajabule!