Indima yokudlala ekuthuthukiseni izingane

Ayikho isimiso esinqunyiwe sokuthi isikhathi esingakanani ingane kufanele sidlale yedwa, futhi kungakanani eqenjini. Umdlalo ngumsebenzi oyinhloko yimuphi ingane. Ngendlela efanayo nangomuntu omdala, ukusebenza nokufunda emisebenzini yokuzilibazisa oyintandokazi. Futhi ukuthi bonke abantu abadala bakuthanda kanjani ukuthi bangakanani isikhathi sokuzinikezela kulokhu noma lowo msebenzi, kwenze lokhu kanye nomuntu noma eyodwa, futhi izingane zikhetha intuiti yefomu yezemidlalo eseduze nabo okwamanje. Qhathanisa nabanye, yenze ukuthi idlale ngendlela ethile, yebo, ayifanele. Kodwa-ke, lokhu akusho ukunganaki nhlobo emidlalweni ingane ekhethayo, ukuthi idlala kanjani. Umdlalo umsebenzi omningi kakhulu, futhi amafomu ayo awaxhomekile kuphela kumuntu wengane, kodwa umsebenzi wegeyimu ngokwawo ungathinta ngqo ukubunjwa kwawo. Ngomdlalo, umuntu omncane uthuthukisa ubuntu bakhe, amakhono abonakala, omunye angasho nokuthi ukuthi ingane idlala kanjani nokuthi ithinta kanjani impilo yakhe eminye. Ngakho imidlalo yezingane kufanele inikwe ukunakwa okukhethekile. Umdlalo ngamunye unesikhathi saso
"Uyanxusa kakhulu!" Akayena ngisho nengxenye yonyaka, kodwa njalo uyafinyelela kwezinye izingane, uthanda ukudlala nabo. " Uma abazali bekhuluma ngengane encane kakhulu, kungenzeka ukuthi bayaphuma. Ingane engaba ngu-2.5-3 iminyaka ayikwazi ukudlala neontanga. Yena-ke, angaba nesithakazelo kwezinye izingane kanye namathoyizi awo, kodwa uyibize ngomdlalo ngokugcwele umqondo awukwazi, ngoba akukho ukuxhumana okusebenzayo. Imidlalo yengane kuze kube yiminyaka engu-1.5-2 ubudala ingabizwa ngokuzenzekelayo, okungukuthi, idlala kulokhu okwamanje. Yingakho izingane zalesikhathi zidala i-tarar ephelele ngokuzenzekelayo: uthathe ithoyizi eyodwa futhi idlala nayo kancane, ngokushesha uyashintsha enye into ayithandayo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ingane ingayibona (kodwa futhi hhayi isikhathi eside) ngemuva kweminye imidlalo yabantu. Kusukela eminyakeni emibili kuya kweyithathu, izingane zikhanga kakhulu emidlalweni yedwa ngamathoyizi noma okuthiwa imidlalo efana nayo, lapho ingane idlala nayo, kodwa eceleni kwezinye izingane. Lokhu kubonakala ngokukhethekile eqenjini lezinkulisa noma endaweni yokudlala. Bonke abafana bakhela okuthile ngokwabo, ngamunye "kusiza" sawo. Ngezinye izikhathi izingane ziwela futhi ziphazamisane, kodwa akulula kakhulu ukuthatha izinyane ukuya kwelinye ukuphela kwenkantolo. Omunye ngeke ube mnandi lapho. Ukwenza wonke umuntu adlale ndawonye ("Ake siqoqe zonke izimoto nokwakha igalaji elilodwa elikhulu) ngeke kube lula nanoma, kulokhu, omdala ngokwakhe kufanele angenele umdlalo futhi asebenze inqubo." Kule minyaka, izingane azikwazi ukuxoxisana, ukubeka imithetho, ukusungula oxhumana nabo abaqinile Ngomdlalo ofanayo bafunda nje zonke lezi zinto.

Isigaba esisha ekuthuthukiseni imidlalo yezingane kuhlobene nemidlalo. Lesi sigaba ngokuvamile siqala emva kweminyaka emithathu. Phakathi kwezingane kukhona ukushintshaniswa kwamathoyizi, bayatshela ngomdlalo wabo, isikhathi esifushane senza isenzo, sihlelwe omunye, kepha indaba ejwayelekile kanye nemithetho ethile lapho. Ingane ngayinye idlala njengoba ibona kufanelekile. Futhi emva kweminyaka engama-4, kunamakhono okudlala ngokuhlanganyela. Uma izingane zingabutha eqenjini bese zibeka imithetho ethile yomdlalo, landela imigomo yayo futhi unamathele endabeni. Le midlalo yeqembu ingaba yimuphi - imidlalo, ukuqonda, ukudlala indima, kodwa kunoma yikuphi ukuxhumana nokuqala kokuqala. Ukuze uzuze umphumela ohlangene, ingane ngayinye kufanele ihambisane nenye indawo. Futhi lokhu, ngokungangabazeki, sekuvele impumelelo enkulu. Yonke imidlalo edlule ihlala. Kuye ngesimo, isimo sengane yengane ngezinye izikhathi singabuyela kubo.
Amanani amakhulu
Abazali cishe abaze bakhononde futhi bangakhathazeki uma ingane yabo ifuna ukudlala kuphela nezinye izingane futhi ayikwazi ukuchitha isikhathi esisele yodwa. Umsebenzi, ukuzibandakanya kubhekwa njengezimfanelo eziqinisekisa ukuthi impumelelo empilweni, ngoba izingane ezinenhlalakahle zenza njalo injabulo. "Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhona, usheshe abe nabangane, angakwazi ukufika ngokushesha," "Ohlakaniphile, okhulumayo, ngisho nalabo abathandathu bakhe bayazi ukuthi uzokhuluma nini nokuthi yini," kusho abantu abadala. Yebo, yimidlalo ehlangene ethuthukisa amakhono okuxhumana ezimweni ezihlukahlukene, ikhono lokuhlela ukuziphatha kwabo. Nakuba ukuqaphela ukukhulumisana nabanye kungenzeka uma ingane ibheka nje ukuthi abanye badlala kanjani futhi bakhulume kanjani. Kodwa ikhono labo kulo mkhakha akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kokusebenza. Izingane ezithandayo ukudlala enkampanini zivame ukuvuleka kakhulu, kulula ukuxoxisana, hhayi ikakhulukazi ukhathazekile mayelana ne-argument yokuhluleka. Kodwa-ke, ungamnaki umdlalo wedwa. Zibuye zifundise okuningi. Ukubaluleka kwabo okuyinhloko ukuthuthukiswa kwamakhono abo okuzibamba. Uma kungenjalo, lo muntu uphendukela ekubeni ngumlutha kwabanye futhi hhayi njalo ekhethayo ekukhulumisaneni. Izingane ezingakwazi ukuzidlalela zivame ukujwayela ukuziphatha nokuziphatha okulimazayo. Ingane enesizungu ihlala futhi ihlakule insimbi. Noma umile ngefasitela futhi ekhanye amaqabunga embali. Noma uqala ukuhlukumeza ikati yokulala. Ngenxa yokuthi othile ongazi ukudlala, njalo uqala ukuphula okuthile. Umntwana owaziyo ukudlala ngaphandle kokubamba iqhaza kwabanye, ukhululekile ngokwengeziwe nokudala - ukuthola isifundo esijabulisayo kunzima kakhulu. Ngokuvamile, unganikeli uhlobo oluthile lwemidlalo. Kokubili okuyingqayizivele nokuqoqa kubalulekile ekuthuthukiseni.

Futhi ake sonke sihambe ndawonye!
Uma kubonakala sengathi ingane ayidlala ngokwanele neontanga futhi ufuna ukufaka kuye uthando loqoqo, kufanele uqale uthole ukuthi inkinga yangempela yilo noma umbono wethu othombile.

Abazali abaningi banomntwana ofanelekayo. Maye, akunakwenzeka ukwenza indodana noma indodakazi ngokufanayo kanye nemibono yethu. Okuningi kuxhomeke ezimeni ezingenasici zesimiso sezinzwa, futhi ingane izokhula ngokuvumelana kuphela uma sibheka lokhu. Ingane eyazi ukuthi idlala kanjani nezinye izingane ayifuni ukwesaba ukukhulumisana, kodwa ikhetha imidlalo elula futhi eyengeziwe. Akudingeki ukuba abe ngamabomu, ngenxa yezizathu zokuthi "isidingo sokuxhumana okuningi", sifuna inkampani. Inkinga ingabhekwa njengesimo lapho umntwana engenawo ubuhlobo nabangane bakhe. Isibonelo, awukwazi ukudlala ngaphandle kokuphula imithetho. Noma sonke isikhathi senza izingxabano, ukulwa, noma ukwesaba. Kwenzeka ukuthi abazali ngokwabo, mhlawumbe ngisho nangokwazi, bakha isimo sengqondo esibi ngokubambisana. Ukwesaba ithonya elibi noma ukuhlukumezeka kwabantwana, bathatha ingane yabo kude nezindawo zokudlala zezingane, balondoloze "kulezi zingane", bese uqinisekisa ukuthi ukudlala ndawonye kuhle. Khuthaza ukudlala kwengane, noma ngabe into emdlalweni ayihambanga ngendlela ongathanda ngayo. Mfundise futhi uthethelele, futhi ubekezelele, futhi uzimisele wedwa, futhi uvumele - kodwa hhayi ngokuqinile, kodwa nje ngesimo seseluleko namazwana. Nciphisa umbuthano wokuxhumana, uma ubona ukuthi enkampanini enkulu, ingane kunzima ukudlala.

... Futhi omunye ulungile
Futhi uma lo msebenzi uyingqayizivele - ukufundisa ukudlala wedwa? Siphinde sifundise ukuziphatha kuqala.

Kunzima ukufaka ingane uthando ngento enembile kuye. Izingane, njengesijeziso, zingenakukhulumisana noma zinganaki, ngeke ziqonde izintelezi zokuzibandakanya. Kunzima ngisho nokufunda ukudlala yedwa uma abantu abadala bebona ukuzihlukanisa njengenkinga. "Sizohlala ekhaya usuku lonke? Ungafa ngesithukuthezi!" Abantu abadala kufanele bathole imisebenzi yabo futhi babonise ingane ukuthi ingaba mnandi kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi ukungakwazi ukudlala yedwa kuyisibonakaliso sokuphulwa kokunakwa. Izingane ezinenkinga yokukhathazeka zidinga ukuzikhandla kwangaphandle, kunzima ukuba zigxile emicabangweni yazo, ukugcina uhlelo lwabo nenhloso yesenzo. Kubalulekile ukujwayela imidlalo eyodwa - lokhu kuyoba ukufaka okuhle kokwelashwa okuvamile. Yiqiniso, abazali bazodinga isikhathi esiningi nokubekezela. Okokuqala kufanele udlale ndawonye noma ube nje. Buka ukuthi ingane idlala kanjani, buza imibuzo phakathi nesikwenzayo, uphazamise uma ubona ukuthi ukhathele. Ungazami ukumgcina edlala isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngokuphambene nalokho, uphazamise lapho ungakondli. Ngakho kuyoba nesithakazelo, isifiso sokubuyela emdlalweni futhi.