Cishe ingxenye yesithathu yempilo yethu sonke esichitha ephusheni. Amanye amaphupho enza umqondo ojulile kithi futhi sikhunjulwa isikhathi eside, kanti ezinye zikhohliwe ekuseni. Ngesikhathi silinde imvuthuluka, omama abaningi esikhathini esizayo bafaka ukubaluleka okukhethekile emaphupheni abo, futhi amaphupho ngokwawo ashintsha kakhulu, ngokuvamile ajwayelekile. Futhi lokhu kungokwemvelo, ngoba ukukhulelwa kungenye yezikhathi ezibaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwabesifazane bonke. Okwamanje, kubangele imizwelo eminingi engalindelekile, ukucabanga, ukubuka ... Ngakho-ke, yini ongayiphupha ngayo ngesikhathi ukhulelwe futhi ingabe kukhona umqondo wokufaka ukubaluleka okukhethekile kuyo? Njengomthetho, izimpikiswano zamaphupho zivela emithonjeni ehlukahlukene: kusukela ekuhlangenwe nakho komfazi we-intrauterine kuze kube nokuphindaphinda kokuvinjelwa kwezenzakalo zosuku olwedlule. Ake sixoxe ngalokho okuvame ukuphupha ngamantombazane abakhulelwe futhi baphendule imibuzo evela kumama ozayo ngokuphathelene nezindaba ezingavamile, ezithakazelisayo, ezithakazelisayo noma zansuku zonke aziphuphayo.
Ukushayela kokuqala
Ngesikhathi bengingazi ngisho nokukhulelwa kwami, ngiphupha ngenhlanzi. Ngangazi ukuthi leli phupho lalinjani. Kungani izinhlanzi?
Yebo, ngisho nogogo nogogokazi bathi uma owesifazane ephupha inhlanzi, lokhu kukhulelwa. Ukuhlakanipha kwaseminyaka sekuqinisekisiwe ngokwesayensi. Umzimba wethu udlulisa ulwazi mayelana nokukhulelwa okufikile ebuchosheni ngaphambi kokuvela esikhathini sokuya esikhathini. Ngenxa yalolu lwazi, ubuchopho buhlinzeka ngomyalo wokudlulisela zonke izinhlelo zomzimba emzimbeni omuhle womsebenzi wokubeletha. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, izimpawu ezithile zingase zivele ngamaphupho, zibheke ezingeni elingenalutho ukulungiswa komzimba wesifazane. Izimpawu ezinjalo zingaba izinhlanzi, ama-kittens, izilwane ezincane noma izingane ezincane nje.
Ingabe lokhu kusho ukuthi uma othile ephupha ngenhlanzi, ukuqala kokukhulelwa kuyabonakala? Yebo akunjalo. Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi inhlanzi akuyona nje amaphupho okukhulelwa, lesi simboli singaba nezincazelo eziningi. Ngesikhathi nje lapho ulwazi oluphathelene nokukhulelwa lufanele owesifazane, unjengokuthi uthola lo lwazi emfanekisweni angawaqonda kalula, ngoba usevele ezwile ngencazelo yalo kumama, ugogo noma izintombi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umfanekiso wezinhlanzi awubonakali ngengozi: kungenye yezimpawu ze-archetypal zokuphila, kusukela ekuzalweni kokuqala kokukhulelwa.
Wazala indlovukazi ebusuku ...
Ngiphupha ngentombazane encane yabathathu. Wayembethe ingubo enhle yama-lace, enezindophi ezinwele zakhe. Ephusheni, ngabona ukuthi lena yindodakazi yami yesikhathi esizayo. Futhi emva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa ngathola intombi eyangitshela ngephupho ukuthi ngizoba nomfana. Awuboni phansi okwamanje kwi-ultrasound. Ngumuphi iphupho ongabhekwa njengelungile?
Umbuzo owuthandwa kakhulu abesifazane engiwuthokolayo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa ngukuthi: "Kungenzeka yini ukubona ubulili bomntwana ozayo ephusheni?" Impendulo ilula: ungabona, njengoba sesazi kakade, umzimba womama unolwazi mayelana namaphi ama-hormone (abesilisa noma abesifazane) ikakhulukazi emntwaneni, ngoba banesimiso esivamile sokujikeleza, kepha umuntu akakwazi ukukubona.Izibalo zibonisa ukuthi ukubhula okuhlukahlukene mayelana nokuthi ngubani ozozalwa, umfana noma intombazane, uhlala kuphela enhlanhla.
Ngokuvamile kunalokho, owesifazane ubona ephusheni ingane yengane efunayo noma engazi ngokuzikhethela. Ngisho noma engaqapheli ngokugcwele lokhu futhi athi akakhathaleli ukuthi ubani ozelwe, leli phupho, njengombuso, libonisa isimo sengqondo somama ngokwaso. Ucwaningo luye lwaveza ukuthi amaphupho okuqukethwe okufanayo kungenzeka kakhulu kulabo besifazane abaqaphela ngokungaqondile noma ngokungazi lutho ubulili bezingane ezizayo. Okusho ukuthi, amaphupho anjengokubaluleka kwesihloko ngokwawo, hhayi okwenziwa ngokobulili wangempela wengane.
Ingabe konke lokhu kusho ukuthi owesifazane ngeke athululeke kancane nomntwana wezocansi "ezingakhethi"? Yebo, cha! Amaphupho anjalo abonisa kuphela ukucabanga okungaqondakali komama ozayo, hhayi isimo sengqondo enganeni yangempela. , ngokungaqondakali, kodwa abathandekayo esikhathini esizayo emaphupheni abo cishe kungenzeka ukuthi omama "bangene ehlombe lenkunzi" bese bebona kahle iphupho ubulili bomntwana ongakazalwa.
Ingabe iphupho lokhu!
Ngangiphupha okwangesabisa kakhulu. Ngabona ingane, kodwa lapho ngifika kuye, wayefana nedoli. Ngazama ukumvusa futhi ngaqala ukumthuthumela. Ingabe kukhona okungahambi kahle ngane wami?
Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, abesifazane bavame ukuphupha lapho bekhathazeka khona ngengane, bakhathazekile ngesimo sempilo yakhe, besaba ukumlimaza noma bamane bezwa ukukhathazeka. Amaphupho anjalo abonisa ukukhathazeka komama ozayo kanye nesifiso sakhe sokuvikela ingane. Ukukhathazeka okwandayo kuhambisana naleso simo sokukhulelwa: ngalesi sikhathi, ikakhulukazi ku-trimester yokuqala, owesifazane wabhekana nokukhathazeka ngesimo sakhe nesimo se-crumb in the tummy. Awudingi ukunikeza la maphupho ukubaluleka okukhulu. Khuluma nezintombi zakho ezasanda kuleso sikhundla futhi uzofunda ukuthi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa amaphupho anjalo ajwayelekile, kodwa awaphazamisi ukukhuthazela nokubeletha okuphumelelayo.
Phishekela
Ngivame ukuphupha ukuthi omunye uyangilandela, inhliziyo yami ibetha ngamandla, ngiyagijima futhi kunzima kakhulu ukuphefumula. Konke lokhu kungasho ukuthini?
Isakhiwo senqubo yesimanje ekuchazeni iphupho ngokuvamile sisekelwe ekuboniseni isimo semvelo. Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ikakhulukazi ku-trimester yesithathu, ngenxa yokukhula kwengane, ukuphefumula kumama kungaba nzima, ngezinye izikhathi izinga lokushaya kwenhliziyo landa. Ngesikhathi sokulala, izimpawu ezisuka emzimbeni ziyaqhubeka ukungena ebuchosheni futhi zivele phambi kwethu ngesimo samaphupho okukhathazeka: ukuzwa kwengcindezi, ukucindezeleka, ukujula, njll. Kwenzeka ukuthi emaphupheni kunezindaba ezihlobene nomzwelo we-sipping phansi kwesisu, isibonelo, ukuphupha mayelana nenyanga. Phakathi nosuku, izibonakaliso ezibuthakathaka ngokwanele ezivela esibhedlela ezikhulayo zingaphansi kombono wombono wethu, kodwa ebusuku, ephusheni, benza indlela yabo kuleli fomu.
Umkhosi wezintaba!
Ngaphupha ukuthi ngifikile ku-buffet futhi ngaqala ukuphoqa ukudla epulatifeni. Ngibeka ukudla okungaphezulu, futhi angikwazi ukuyeka - ngizwa indlala enamandla kangaka. Khona-ke angikwazi ukuthola indawo yokuhlala phansi ngiyidle, futhi ukudla epulatifomu kuyamunuka kakhulu futhi kunambitha, ukuthi ngisanda kufa ngendlala.
Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa zonke izitho zezinzwa ziye zahlushwa. Amama omuso ngokuvamile abona ukuzwela okhethekile okwephunga, bakhetha ukuthanda okuthile, ngokuhlangenwe nakho okuvamile ukwandisa ukuzwela ukuzwa komzimba.
Ukubonakaliswa okunjalo yimiphumela yokulungiswa kwemvelo, bonke abasebenza kulokhu kuhloswe ekudaleni izimo ezingcono zomntwana. Isibonelo, umama olindelekile kufanele akhethe ukudla ikakhulu ngokucophelela ukuze amnikeze izakhi kanye namavithamini adingekayo, futhi lokhu kusizwa ukukhuphuka kokunuka nokunambitha.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane abaningi babone ukwanda kwendlala, ikakhulukazi engxenyeni yesibili yokukhulelwa, okungeke kwenzeke kodwa kuthinte okuqukethwe kwamaphupho. Uma silambile ephusheni, siphupha ukudla okuhlukahlukene. Futhi uma ngesikhathi esifanayo kukhona "imikhiqizo" engavinjelwe, lapho umama ozayo ngezizathu ezithile ephoqeleka ukuba enqabe ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, khona-ke baqala ukuphupha njalo, ngamaphupho anjalo kunokwaneliseka okungokomfanekiso kwezidingo zikamama.
Umuntu onjalo engaziwa naye
Angikuphuphi ngezingane zami ezizayo. Ngokuvamile, emaphupheni ami, angiziboni ngikhulelwe. Ngitshele, ingabe lokhu kuvamile?
Njengoba kungase kubonakale kunesibindi, umntwana ozayo kanye nesimo sokukhulelwa akuvamile ukubona abesifazane besesimweni. Amaphupho anjalo ajwayelekile kumama kakade abanazo izingane. Ngokusobala, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ukuvela kobubele bomama kwenza kube lula ukudala emcabangweni isithombe somntwana ozayo. Ngendlela, ngokuvamile izingane ziphupha uhlobo oluthile lwezithombe ezifaka esikhundleni: ama-kittens, amantombazane nezinye izilwane ezincane.
Ukutholakala kokuhlangenwe nakho nakho kuthinta isimo senqubo yesimanje ekuchazeni iphupho lokubeletha: abesifazane abangenalutho abavame ukuphupha ngokuzala, futhi imicabango yabo mayelana nesenzakalo esondelayo ivame ukuguqulwa ibe yindaba ngokubamba ingane ezandleni zabo noma ngokudla umntwana osanda kuzalwa ngesifuba.
Uma ungaphuzi lutho
Ngangihlale nginephupho elikhanyayo, kodwa ngamasonto ambalwa manje angizange ngibone iphupho elilodwa. Muva nje, angilali kahle. Mhlawumbe lokhu kuhlobene nesikhathi sokukhulelwa (amasonto angu-38)?
Yiqiniso, amaphupho aqhubeka nawe ephupha. Njengamanje azikhunjulwa. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Isizathu sokuqala esenza abantu bangakhumbuli amaphupho kungukuthi ukukhathala okuqoqiwe phakathi nosuku. Lapho umuntu ekhathele kakhulu, uyakhumbula amaphupho ambalwa. Akumangalisi ukuthi ngalezi zikhathi zokukhulelwa uthola ukhathele ngaphezu kokuvamile. Isizathu sesibili yishintsho ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwezigaba zokulala kumama ozayo. Ku-trimester yesithathu, abesifazane balele ngokubambisana kakhulu, ngokulala kanye nokulala okuphakathi. Ukulala nokuvuka komama kufanele kuhlanganiswe nombuso wengane, futhi umzimba wesifazane ulungiselela lokhu ngisho nangaphambi kokuzalwa. Ukukhulelwa kubonakala sengathi kulungiswe ukuphendula ngokuzwakalayo kumpawu ezisuka kumntwana, ngisho nasephusheni. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, isigaba sokuphupha ngamaphupho sifushane, futhi amaphupho angaba ngeso lengqondo, engavamile, ngakho-ke angakhunjulwa.
Kunoma yikuphi, noma ngabe kwakunjani, khumbula ukuthi manje wena nomntwana kubaluleke kakhulu ekuthuleni komama nomoya omuhle. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi izikhathi eziningi amaphupho angumfanekiso wemicabango yethu yansuku zonke, bese uzama ukucabanga kaningi ngalokho okukunika injabulo. Jabulela amaphupho akho!