Ukuhlukanisa ngemva nje komshado

Umshado ngumcimbi omuhle, omuhle. Umculo, izivakashi, izimoto ezinhle, umkhathi wothando nenjabulo, okubonakala ihlala phakade. Umakoti unhle ngokujwayelekile, futhi umkhwenyana unakekela ngokuthinta inhliziyo.

Wonke umuntu ufuna injabulo yobusha, impilo ende ndawonye futhi ugubha umshado ojabulisayo futhi omuhle.

Eqinisweni, lokhu kanye kanye impilo ngeke kube isikhathi eside. Ngezinye izikhathi isahlukaniso senzeke ngemva komshado. Kuyadabukisa kakhulu futhi kubi, kodwa kwenzeka. Ungazama nje ukuqonda izizathu, kodwa zingahluka kakhulu.

Kwenzeka ukuthi abantu abasha bazi isikhathi esincane kakhulu.

Futhi emva komshado kufika isikhathi seqiniso elibabazayo, okusho ukuthi abalingani abahambisani ngokuphelele futhi bavele baphikisana ukuba babe ndawonye egumbini elifanayo. Isici - into enzima, futhi inkulumo ethi "ayizange ihlangane nabalingiswa" akuyona nje inkulumo, kodwa iqiniso langempela.

Ukuhlukanisa ngokushesha ngemuva komshado kungenxa yokuthi le mbhangqwana osemusha ibhekene nenkinga yasekhaya, engakakulungeli ukuhlangana ubuso nobuso. Khona-ke ukufudumala nezikhalazo ezincane zikhula zingathandeki futhi isifiso siphambene komunye nomunye, futhi ngokushesha isahlukaniso senzeke. Ngokuvamile intsha iyabhekana nenkinga yezindlu, engakwazi ukuzixazulula yona eyedwa. Ukungakwazi ukuba nekona lakho siqu, njengombuso, kuphazamise kakhulu futhi imibhangqwana engavamile ingakwazi ukunqoba lezi zinkinga futhi zihlale ndawonye.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, indima ebalulekile ebuhlotsheni emva komshado idlalwe izihlobo ngakolunye uhlangothi. Futhi uma abazali bomfazi noma umyeni bengavumelani nokukhetha kwenzalo yabo, kodwa besenamaphuzu athile okuthiwa yize futhi bahloniphekile, khona-ke "bazofaka izinti esiteshini" ngawo wonke amandla abo, ukuze labo abasanda kushada baxabane futhi babaleke. Kuthiwani ngothando? - buza, mhlawumbe wena. Uthando ... kuwukuthi. Into eyinhloko akuyona ukuyibekezela ngokuzilibazisa okulula nokungazitholi izifiso zokuqala ezingokomzwelo, kubaluleke kakhulu futhi kubalulekile.

"Uma ubumpofu befika endlini, uthando luya ewindini" - la mazwi ahlakaniphile, awakhulunywa isikhathi eside, awazange alahlekelwe ukubaluleka kwawo.

Ngokuvamile ukuhlukana ngemva komshado kwenzeka ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, ngoba lesi senzakalo esithakazelisayo nesijabulisayo siphelelwa ubusuku obuthongo, ukugeza okungapheli, ukusetha futhi kubonakala sengathi lo mjikelezo awuyikuphela. Umama emva kokubeletha uphukuthele, ukhathazekile nganoma yisiphi isizathu kanye nomyeni ngenxa yalokho, uba ngumuntu ofuna amahora ambalwa ukulala. Ukuqala ukufutheka, ukuhlambalaza futhi, ngenxa yalokho, ukuhlukanisa. Lokhu kwenzeka lapho abantu abasha ngokwabo bengashiyanga ubuntwana futhi abangafundile ukuphatha imizwelo yabo kancane. Kubonakala kubo ukuthi uthando seluhambe futhi indlela kuphela yokuphuma ukuphumula ngokushesha.

Ukuhlukanisa ngokushesha ngemva komshado kungabangela ukuhlukahluka kweminyaka emkhatsini womlingani. Umfazi usemncane futhi akaqondi ukuthi lo muntu okhuthele, ukushaya umcabango wakhe, unesibindi esilondolozwe impilo, imikhuba, mhlawumbe, izingane kanye nomunye wabafazi. Kubonakala kuye ukuthi uthando luyosinda konke uma kuphela "othandekayo" eseduze. Uthando luyakwazi ukumelana - owesifazane osemusha ofuna ukujabulela ukuphila kwakhe, akhule ngokwedlulele nangokomoya, akakwazi ukumelana nalo, kuyilapho izimpukane zakhe ezindala sezivele zitholile konke lokhu isikhathi eside futhi zingamniki ukwesekwa kokuziphatha kuzo zonke izenzo zakhe.

Njengoba ungabona izizathu zesehlukaniso emva komshado - abaningi nabangabhalwanga. Eqinisweni, akusona okwethusa kakhulu. Kungcono ukubuyela ngasikhathi sinye kunokuba ngibhekane nemizwa kanye nezifiso engizange ngikhulume ngayo yonke impilo yami. Ukuhlukaniswa kwenzeka futhi kwabanye kuyithuba lokuthola injabulo.