Uma ingane igule, yibeke umqondo wokuthi ubusuku obuningi obuseduze buyobe bukhululekile. Ngaphambi kokulala, nciphisa ukuphefumula kwesiguli esincane: hlanza umuthi, vusa ikhanda lombhede (isibonelo, ngokubeka incwadi encane ngaphansi kombhathane), gcoba umoya ekamelweni. Amabele afika ezinyangeni ezingu-3-4 azizwa engathandeki embhedeni omkhulu: akhumbula kahle ukuthi ngokucophelela futhi ngokunethezeka kwakunjani esiswini somama, futhi isikhala esingenamkhawulo sibangela ukuba bazizwe bekhathazekile. Uma kunokwenzeka, sebenzisa i-compact cradle noma i-wicker enkulukazi ekuqaleni. Uma ubuthongo belele ebhodini lakhe, yibeke endaweni yokugqoka: ngakho angeke akhuphe ikhanda lakhe ngaphansi kwengubo. Vala ingane ngengubo ye-bikini engavamile, futhi ungasebenzisi isilondolozi phansi kuze kube sekupheleni konyaka. Inketho elula kunazo zonke i-bag-sleeping-envelope: kusukela phezulu kubonakala sengathi i-sundress noma i-blouse, evela ngezansi-esikhwameni esinezinsizi noma izinkinobho. Isikhwama sokulala asikwazi ukuphonswa, kanti izinketho zezikhwama zihlukile: kusuka kwikotini elincane ukuze ihlobo libekwe i-sintepon ebusika. Ungabeki u-crumb ukuba alale izingubo ezifanayo lapho ephapheme khona. Ukugqoka "endlini yangasese yokulala" kufanele kube yingxenye yomkhuba wokuhlwa: ngoba umntwana lokhu kuyoba uphawu lokulungiselela ukulala. Izambatho zokugqoka kufanele zivuleke (isigamu sesayizi), ukotini, ezincane zezingqimba, izinkinobho, izikebhe nezinkinobho; izibopho kumele zibe ngaphambili. Ubuhlobo obude buyindawo engaphephile: izinyane lingadideka kuzo. I-cap noma i-kerchief ayiyona into enhle kakhulu.
Izinsana zilele ngokungazenzeki, izandla zabo nezinyawo zizama ukuthuthumela ngokuzikhandla. Kuze kube izinyanga ezimbili noma ezintathu, lokhu kuyinto evamile, umphumela wesisindo somzimba we-hypertonic. Ukuhamba ngezinye izikhathi kuvusa ingane, ngakho-ke ungakwazi ukubopha imvuthu emzimbeni we-crosswise diaper. Ngesikhathi esifanayo shiya imilenze mahhala. Uma ungumsekeli we-swaddling ephelele, khumbula ukuthi akufanele kube nzima ukuze ungangqubuzana nokujikeleza kwegazi okuvamile nokuphefumula. Izingane zizinzile, futhi izinqubo ezintsha zibaxosha ngaphandle kwe-rut. Umkhuba wokulala akufanele ushintshwe: ukugeza - izinguquko ezishintshayo - ukondla - ukugcoba. Ngaphambi kokulala ufunde inganekwane, bhala i-lullaby. Isikhathi esingakanani ongasisebenzisa ku-styling, zizinqumele wena: ezinye izingane zinemizuzu engu-15, ezinye zidinga okungenani ihora. Ngenkathi ingane encane ilele phansi, yamanga futhi iphume ekamelweni.
Emva kokuvala umnyango emva kwakho, lalela. Ingabe umntwana uyangena futhi avuke? Kungenzeka ukuthi akathokozi ngalesi simo, kodwa emva kwemizuzu embalwa uzoyeka. Ukukhala okukhulu akusho ukuthi kukhona okwesabekayo okwenzekile: okuncane nje kuphela akuvumelani nokuhamba kwakho. Linda imizuzu emihlanu ngaphambi kokubuya. Uma ukukhala kungavumi, ngena ekamelweni, ulalise ingane: uhlangothi olusha, kodwa ungangeni ezandleni zakho noma edwaleni. Hamba futhi emuva kwemizuzu engu-5-10. Qala ukufundisa ingane ukulala yedwa ezinyangeni ezingu-4-6. Landela lesi script nsuku zonke kuze kube yilapho ingane isetshenziselwa ukulala yedwa (kuzothatha kusukela ngesonto kuya kwesithathu). Ungasebenzisi umbhede wengane njengenkundla yokudlala: idideka ingane, njengoba ivusa indawo yokulala nebala lokudlala.
Umntwana kufanele alale kusiphi isimo? Izikhundla esiswini nasemhlane zingapheli izinyanga ezintathu aziphephile: uma umntwana elele ngemuva, angakhonsa, angabambazela: ukulala "esiswini" kuyasiza ukusimamisa amathumbu, kodwa kungcono ukuthi ingane ilele kulolo suku ngaphansi kokuqondisa kwakho. Isimo esihle sokuzalwa esasisanda kuzalwa sisehlangothini, ngezinhlangothi ezishintshayo. Lapho uneminyaka eyizinyanga ezi-5-7, cishe zonke izingane sezivele zishintsha izikhundla zabo zokulala. Uvule isisu somntwana emuva kwakhe akudingeki ukuba aphenduke, ukuze angamphazamisi. Ungagxumi futhi ugijimise ukusiza noma nini lapho ingane iqhuma, ishaya, noma ishaya: akusho ukuthi uvuka. Kodwa ukungenela kwakho kuyomvusa. Ukulala kwamasuku kubalulekile ingane encane. Izingane ezisanda kuzalwa zilele njalo, azihlukanisi phakathi kwamini nobusuku, futhi umjikelezo ngamunye wokulala uhlala emaminithini angu-30 kuya emahoreni amathathu. Ezinganeni ezineminyaka engu-2-4 ezinyangeni, kunezinsuku ezimbili zansuku zonke "amahora anokuthula", ephelele kuze kube amahora amahlanu. Okhulile ingane, emfushane ukulala kwakhe kwansuku zonke: umntwana oneminyaka eyedwa ubudala angalala kanye kuphela ngosuku cishe amahora angu-2.5. Uma ingane ingalali kahle ebusuku, ungamlahli usuku lokulala ngethemba lokuthi kusihlwa uzokhathala kakhulu futhi uzovala ngokushesha. Leli qhinga lingasebenza ngokuphambene nalokho: ingane encane kakhulu yokulala iyoba yinde, ilele kakhulu, futhi ekuseni iyophakamisa indlu yonke ekuseni. Uma abazali kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala abahambanga ku-tiptoe futhi bangaboni kahle ingane, ujwayele ukulala ngaphansi kwesizinda esizwakalayo futhi uzozizwa ekhululekile. Mvusa angakwazi ... ukuthula okuphelele. Uma umsindo ngaphandle kwefasitela usaqhubeka uhlazisa, faka umculo othulile we-classic. Ngeke kuvimbele ukungqongqoza kwe-jackhammer, kodwa ukuduma kwezimoto emgwaqweni ngeke kuzwakale.