Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uqiniseka kanjani ngemizwa yakho, ukungaxilisi isikhathi eside kwemizwelo kungathinta isimo esiphezulu sobudlelwane, futhi kubangele ukuzwa okungabalulekile emehlweni omlingani wakho. Ngenxa yalokhu, ngokuvamile emndenini kukhona ukungqubuzana nokuxabana, abashadile banquma ukuhlukumezeka, futhi ngokumane, kanye nokuphila okuqhakazile, kuba grey futhi monotonous.
Ngakho-ke, ungakhohlwa mayelana nokubonakaliswa kwemizwelo yakho, futhi ukwazi ukubonisa uthando ngomyeni wakho, noma ngabe uhlale ndawonye isikhathi esithile.
Akulula ukwethula ubuhle ebuhlotsheni obuhle, ngoba ngeke uthole okuthile ongazange uzame. Kodwa ngisho ngobuhlakani obukhulu, kunezinketho, futhi azikho ezimbalwa zazo. Futhi-ke, siqala ukwenza.
Sigxila emizweni.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula into eyodwa ukuthi amadoda adinga ukulingwa, njalo futhi ngaphandle kokuyeka. Futhi ungayenza nganoma iyiphi indlela, kodwa imizwa yakho iyoba yingxenye yokubophezela kuzo zonke izenzo zakho. Indlela elula futhi enokwethenjelwa kakhulu yokwazisa ngothando lwakho nje ukukhuluma ngakho. Ukusho amagama amathathu alula athi "Ngiyakuthanda" kulula, ikakhulukazi uma imizwa ikhula. Ngokwenza kanjalo, qaphela ukuthi usho kanjani, ithoni yakho, ukubonisa ubuso nesenzo kufanele uqinisekise lokho okwakushiwo, futhi ungakuphiki. Ngikholelwa, emva kweminyaka eminingi ukusabela ekuvumeni okunjalo kumyeni wakho kuyoba okufanayo nasemhlanganweni wokuqala. Bonisa uthando kumyeni wakhe, vumelani nje lokhu - indlela ephumelela kakhulu, engase ihlelwe ngokuhleka ngokuthi "i-trifle, kodwa enhle."
Sikhumbula izinhlamvu.
Abaningi bethu basathola isikhathi lapho izindlela zokuxhumana eziyinhloko zaziyizinhlamvu nezindawo zokuhlala. Yebo, futhi ohlwini lwezinkumbulo zowesifazane ngamunye, ngokuqinisekile kukhona okungenani incwadi eyodwa yothando, noma inothi elincane. Yiqiniso, ukubhala izincwadi kumuntu oseduze, akukho mqondo, kodwa amanothi amancane angenza isikhali sakho semfihlo. Zisebenzise uma udinga ukuxhumana okuthile noma ushiye isicelo, ngaphandle kokukhohlwa ukubhala okuthile okunomusa futhi okujabulisayo. Abesifazane abaningi baphikisa ukuthi amanothi anjalo asebenza kangcono kunokwakheka noma isicelo esomile. Futhi, akuyona into engafanele ukuzisebenzisa amathuba esayensi nobuchwepheshe, futhi ukuthumela i-SMS yakho ethandekayo i-SMS.
Khumbula ukuthi ifoni yenzelwe.
Futhi ifoni yasungulwa hhayi kuphela ekukhulumisaneni njengoba kudingeka, kodwa futhi ekuboniseni uthando kumyeni wayo. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngokuvamile lokho esikutholayo kwimodi yefoni: indawo kulabo esibabizayo, isikhathi abazoba khona ekhaya, uhlu oludingekayo, noma izimpendulo zemibuzo ecacile. Ukukhuluma namadoda, abafazi bavame ukukhohlwa, ngenxa yobuningi bezinkinga zasemakhaya, bavele babuze ukuthi izinto zihamba kanjani, bajabule ngobunzima nokudumisa impumelelo. Bonisa uthando lwakho, ungamema futhi umthandi wakho ekuphumeni kwekhefu elihlangene, uma kuvumela indawo yemisebenzi, noma ukuhamba ngemva komsebenzi. Izikhathi ezinjalo zisondelene kakhulu, ngisho nangemva kweminyaka embalwa.
Futhi umyeni wami uyathanda ...
Ngaki kaningi sibheka le nkulumo uma sikhuluma nabangane, futhi singayifuni kanjani lokhu "futhi uthando lwami ..." empilweni. Kodwa empeleni, ngale ndlela kuyoba yiqiniso eyi-100% futhi iphumelele ekuboniseni uthando lwakho. Nciphisa inkumbulo yakho, futhi ukhumbule uhlu lwemisebenzi yakho oyithandayo oyintandokazi. Ngemva kwalokho, khetha okufanele kakhulu, okukhona njalo okukhona okungekho, futhi wengeze lokhu okuncane okungahambi kahle. Hlela umuntu othandekayo ngempelasonto enhle, lapho angakwazi ukuzinikela ngokugcwele ngokugcwele emsebenzini wakhe ozithandayo. Yebo, uma ucabangela izithakazelo zakho, ngakho-ke ngempelasonto ngeke ihlonishwe kuphela ngumyeni wakho, kodwa futhi izokunika injabulo kabili.
Umzimba usebenza.
Umzimba uyithuluzi eliphelele kunazo zonke elihle elinikezwe ngokwemvelo, ngakho kungani ungalisebenzisi? Ikakhulukazi, uma ngemuva kokuphelelwa kweminyaka uye wafunda ngokwanele indoda yakho, futhi ngokuqinisekile uyakwazi ukumnika injabulo enkulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izikhathi ezinjalo kuyoba isisusa esihle sokuvuselela empilweni yakho ukuba khona komlingani, isizathu sokuhlala wedwa, nokuzihlanganisa nezigqoko zangaphansi ezintsha. Ngisho nangemva kosuku olunzima kunazo zonke lomsebenzi, umyeni wakho ngeke ashiye ukwehlisa ithenda, ukusikhipha kalula, nokuqhubeka nokuthanda. Futhi ukuthi ungabonisa kanjani uthando ngomyeni wakhe, kungcono kunalo ulimi lwemizimba yakho? Unganqikazi ukuthatha isinyathelo kuqala, uma ufuna ukwengeza intsha ebusweni bakho obuseduze, noma ake senze kumuntu wakho, umphumela ungaba mnandi kakhulu kokubili.
Indlela eya enhliziyweni yomuntu ...
Yebo, yebo, yile ndlela elele esiswini. Kuyinto ehlwabusayo ukondla umyeni wakho othandekayo - enye yezinto zokuqala, imisebenzi yomkhaya yowesifazane ngamunye. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ungenza isidlo somndeni esikhethekile. Kusihlwa okunjalo kungaphelelwa isikhathi, kumcimbi othile obalulekile kuwe, noma uhlelwe kalula, ngaphandle kwesizathu esikhethekile. Ukulungiselela okunjalo kuyoba mnandi kuwe, ithuba lokucabanga, njengokulungisa izitsha, nalapho uhlobisa itafula negumbi. Uma indoda yakho ingakhathaleli ikhishi (yebo, kwenzeka), ungamphuli ithuba lokupheka nawe, ikakhulukazi uma imenyu oyikhethayo idinga ukukhuthala okukhethekile. Kuphekwe futhi udliwe ndawonye, ukudla kuzothathwa ngumthandi wakho njengesikhangiso sangempela sothando. Into eyinhloko ukuthi, emva kokudla okumnandi, ungakhohlwa .., kodwa mayelana nalokhu kakade esigabeni esilandelayo.
Dumisani .
Into esemqoka ukungakhohlwa ukudumisa umyeni wakho uma ehlanganyela ekuphekeni, noma okungenani ekuhlanzeni izitsha ezingcolile. Futhi noma kunjalo, ungakhohlwa ukudumisa amadoda akho, noma ngabe yini abakwenzayo. Ngisho noma kukhona okwenziwe ngendlela ongathanda ngayo, okufanayo, okokuqala thola okuthile okudumisa ngakho, bese uthi kuphela "kodwa". Indoda ezwa ukuthi iyadingeka, enenjongo futhi eyingqayizivele, izobe ilungele ukuvula izintaba.
Thanda amadoda akho, bese uzothola izindlela eziyikhulu nendlela eyodwa yokubonisa uthando.