Kwenzeka kakhulu ekuqaleni, lapho ingane "idlala" amahomoni bese iqala ukukhulelwa. Unesithakazelo ezinhlotsheni ezithile zezincwadi, ubukela amafilimu athile, abe uthando olujabulisayo futhi unethemba lokuthi uzokhula futhi uyoba nomthando omkhulu, omuhle - kukhona uthando oluhle. Futhi ukuthi ungafunda kanjani ukungesabi uthando.
Uma inhle yothando ivela, kubonakala sengathi kunzima ukufinyeleleka, ngoba zonke izifiso zengane zixhunywe ngothando. Ngezinye izikhathi lolu thando luba yisiqalekiso sangempela - manje isiqalekiso somntwana sihle. Uyakwenza ngokungaqondi, ngenkathi engaziqondi ngokwakhe.
Ilungelo lidlula izinkambiso zendawo yonke, libunjwa ukusuka kwezinye izithombe, kusukela ezincwadini ezithile, ezivela ezinkondlweni ezithile, kusuka kumafilimu athile. Ingane iqala ukukhetha ukuthi lo wesifazane noma lo muntu uzoba kanjani - ubukhulu buni, ubuhle buni, ukuthi buyophika kanjani, kanjani ukugqoka, njalonjalo.
Cishe konke ukukhathazeka-hypochondriacs yenza lokhu. Kuze kube iminyaka eyisikhombisa base bekhulile kakade, ubulili babo buqala ukukhathazeka ngeminyaka eyi-12-14, futhi kuze kube yiminyaka engu-14 basebenze isithombe esivamile somthandi wesikhathi esizayo. Lesi isithombe esihlangene ngokuphelele, kodwa sihlala ezingeni elingenakuqhathaniswa ngendlela enhle. Kusukela ngalesi sikhathi ingane izivikela, ivala futhi icacile idala i-ideal, lapho ehluleka khona ukungazithandi.
Kungani konke lokhu kwenziwa? Ngenxa yalesi simo esihle, izingane zizivikela empilweni. Baye balahlekelwa ukucabanga kwabo okulula, ukungcola kwabo, ukuhlanzeka kwabo, futhi lokhu kuyindlela yokuzivala, ukuze bangalokothi bangabe besengozini ukuze bangenise impilo yabo omunye umuntu ongaphelele. Uyesaba ukuthanda.
Manje ingane ivikelekile ngokuphelele kwabanye. Yena, isibonelo, uthi: "Angithandi lomfana," uxwayisa abanye ukuthi uyathanda uhlobo oluthile lwabantu abasha, umfana uxwayisa nokuthi uyathanda uhlobo oluthile lwamantombazane, kodwa empeleni besaba, besaba ukuthanda .
Ingane iqala ukuzibonakalisa, ukukhombisa ukungakhathaleli kwabanye. Ngoba usenesikhathi sokulinda, futhi ukuphazamiseka okuhambisana nokulindela uthando kuyanda. Ngalesi sikhathi, ingane njengoba kunjalo, ihlola ukuthi abanye bayiphatha kanjani. Uncike ngokuphelele. Futhi uqala ukubuka ukuthi ezinye izingane, ikakhulukazi uma zingamantombazane amahle noma abafana, ziphathwa. Lokhu kubangela ukukhathazeka-hypothetical syndrome, wesaba ukuthanda. Ubonisa ukunganaki nokudelela, akavumeli muntu, kodwa amaphupho namaphupho othando.
Ngenxa yalokhu kusondelana, ingane yonke indawo iqala ukubona ukunganaki. Manje umhlaba ubonakalisa ngendlela ethile. Esimweni esingenakubekezeleleka kwengqondo yakhe, manje "uphefumule ubuthi," uphefumulela ngokwengeziwe, akazibonakali yena, akenzi ngokugcwele njengoba kudingeka, akakhuli futhi uqala ukuvala ngisho nakakhulu uma ezwa lobu buhlungu. Manje yena akakholelwa ukuthi uthando luyoke lwenzeke, uyesaba ukuthanda.
Futhi, ekugcineni, lolu thando lufika kuye, ngesikhathi esithile, omunye umfana ufika athi: "Ngiyakuthanda!". Kodwa-ke, akakwazi ukuvula, uzobe ejabule, ulinde, akeke abe ngumhle, uphuphe, ufuna, ubheke kuzo zonke izinto. Kodwa-ke, manje, lapho beza kuye, akasazi ukuthi benzeni. Akanayo ukuqonda, akanakho okukhethwa kukho okumele akwenze. Manje sesaba ubuhlungu abuzwa ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kwakhe.
Ngakho inketho yilezi: noma ngokuyinhloko uyenqaba ukukhuluma, ngenkathi esaba ukuthi uzoshiywa, noma uqala ukuhlasela omunye, kunzima ukuthi afunde ukuthanda. Uma engathandi umfana, uqala ukubonisa ukunganaki, ukungakhathaleli kwakhe, ukubonisa ukuthi akanandaba naye, ngenkathi ngesikhathi esifanayo ehlupheka, enamathele, engazi ukuthi angenza kanjani, angabi naso ithuba lokuvuleka ngokugcwele ngaphambi komunye.
Lezi zingane zizithola zisezinhlungwini ezingaphakathi, abazi ukuthi zingesabi ukuthanda. Indoda engenalo uthando ayikwazi ukuphila, inesibopho sokuthola ulwazi oluvela othandweni. Futhi kuvela ukuthi othile uvela, kodwa akavumeli ukuhleleka, kuyo yonke indawo ukudumazeka okufihlekile. Umuntu onjalo ngaphakathi kwakhe unomuncu.
Ucabanga ukuthi kunezicupho kuyo yonke indawo, kuyo yonke indawo kukhona iminyango evaliwe kuphela. Uthando luza, futhi angeke aluthole ngokwanele, noma afudumele, ngenxa yokuthi ayihlangabezani nenhloso yakhe, ayenayo nangokwakhe.
Ngeke akwazi ukuzidalula ngokwakhe, ngoba uyazi ukuhlupheka kobuhlungu, nokuthi wonke umuntu wayengamkhathaleli kanjani. Konke kuhamba kuphela ku-skew: kungaba ukuveza, noma kufihlwe. Lokho kuyo yonke indawo amazinga aphakeme kakhulu. Ayikho indawo lapho ingane enjalo yengane izojabula khona. Yileyo ndlela umuntu ahlala ngayo.
Ngakho kungcono ukungadlali nge-psyche yakho. Izingane zidinga ukuba ziqeqeshwe ukuze zingabi nalezi zindima ezihlangene ezifunda ukuthi zingesabi ukuthanda. Ngoba ingqondo ingumhlaba wezwe. Futhi uma umuntu ehamba lapho, uletha okuthile, khona-ke lihlala khona. Futhi baletha konke, futhi njalo, ngaphandle kokuqonda.
Konke kwenziwa ukuthi kusukela ekuqaleni nje ingqondo yengane yayiyi-zapichkan. Futhi ekugcineni, lawa bantwana, bese abadala, abakwazi ukuphila ngokugcwele. Zonke izimpilo zabo zizofuna uthando, zidinga futhi zigweme. Ngesizathu sokuthi besaba ukwesaba okukhulu, ngeke bafudumale.