Indoda eneminyaka ehloniphekile ifanele iholide ehlelwe udumo lwakhe. Kungaba usuku lokuzalwa, usuku olukhunjulwayo noma usuku lokuzalwa - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isizathu sokuthola iholidi elinjalo. Into eyinhloko ukuthi umkhulu othandekayo uba ngumuntu oyinhloko womkhosi, ngakho-ke leli holide elikhunjulwa ngokuqinisekile lizoba likhethekile, futhi kuyadingeka ukulilungiselela ikakhulukazi.
Yiqiniso, uhlobo lomkhosi wendabuko ngumhlangano wenani elikhulu lezivakashi etafuleni, inqwaba yokudla okumnandi nokuhlukahlukene, ama-toast angaguquki kanye nezifiso ezingapheli zempilo enhle. Kodwa-ke, iholide elinjalo cishe akunakumangaza umkhulu, ngoba eminyakeni edlule cishe usetshenziselwa izenzakalo ezinjalo futhi ubona njengendlela evamile. Ngaphandle kwezifiso ezingafuneki, umkhulu uyazi ukuthi injabulo enkulu kakhulu izingane kanye nabazukulu, futhi lokho kubonga kubo ukukhula kwakhe kuyisiqhenya esikhathini esidlule. Ukuvamile kuvame ukuthungatha, futhi phakathi nendawo yomkhosi umuntu osekhulile kungenzeka azizwe ekhathele futhi abheke phambili ekupheleni kwamukelwa okunjalo.
Ngakho-ke, kungcono kakhulu ukuhlela umkhosi othakazelisayo, ocacile futhi okhuthele, ozokwenza umkhulu uzizwe esencane futhi enamandla. Njalo ngeminithi yeholide elinjalo kufanele ulethe isimanga esisha, ngakho-ke, ngaphandle kokumangala, umkhulu ngeke abe nesikhathi sokuzizwa ekhathele.
Cishe, empilweni yomkhulu kwakukhona abantu abaningi abathakazelisayo okwakuyimpumelelo kuye nangesikhathi esithile. Ingxenye yalabo ababaziyo ngezizathu ezithile ilahlekile ngenkathi, ishiya izinkumbulo ezinhle kuphela. Kungaba yizakwethu, osebenza nabo, omakhelwane bangaphambili - kufanelekile ukulalela ngokucophelela futhi ukhumbule zonke izindaba zomkhulu ngeminyaka yakhe yangaphambili. Mhlawumbe ngabazukulu abasebenzisa ngenkuthalo impumelelo yesimanjemanje, ngeke kube yinto enkulu yokuvuselela labo bantu. Futhi iholidi lomkhulu liyisikhathi esihle kakhulu sokumema abantu abangabonanga nabo amashumi eminyaka. Uma futhi baneminyaka ephakathi, kunengqondo ukubasiza ukuba bafike endaweni yokugubha. Ukukhumbula abantu abedlule, abantu asebekhulile bayakwazi ukuzwa futhi amandla amakhulu ahamba nawo esigabeni sokuphila esedlule. Ngenxa yesipho esinjalo, uzomkhulu uzobonga abazukulu bakhe.
Ukukhuluma ngezipho, kudingekile ukuphawula futhi amaphutha amaningi ayisisekelo abazukulu abaningi abenzayo, abafuna ukujabulisa umkhulu. Ngokuvamile, izinto ezibizayo ezinenani eliphakeme, empeleni, ziyotshela umkhulu ukuthi wakhulisa umzukulu onomusa futhi onganandaba. Kodwa-ke, ukulinganisa ngeke kube isipho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubaluleka kangakanani, kodwa ukunakekelwa kukhokhelwe umuntu osekhulile. Futhi ukunakekelwa akukwazi ukuthola imali elinganayo, ngakho-ke isipho kufanele sithole kuqala kunoma yikuphi okukhethiweyo hhayi ngokusho kwentengo ethandwayo kanye nemigomo yokubaluleka, kepha ngokusekelwe esimweni somusa, esithuthumayo nesiqotho kumkhulu.
Indlela yokuhlela iholidi kahle, iyini ingxenye yayo eyinhloko? Itafula elithakazelisayo lihlale likhona emkhosini omuhle kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, eholidini lapho kunabantu abaningi asebekhulile, ukudla kufanele kube, okokuqala, okuphilile. Phela, kule minyaka, izithako zokudlela ezidumile zingalimaza impilo yakho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, cishe, impilo ende, umkhulu usevele uzame izitsha eziningi. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukupheka izidlo zakhe eziyintandokazi, futhi ingxenye enkulu yemenyu yenziwe izithelo, imifino nokudla okulula. Ukunakekelwa kufanele kunikelwe ekukhethweni kotshwala - uma kuqhathaniswa nomkhulu, ukuhlinzekwa kweziphuzo etafuleni kufanele kuncishiswe ngangokunokwenzeka.
Uma umkhulu nogogo bebehlangene - kufanelekile ukukhumbula lokhu etafuleni futhi, mhlawumbe, bavumele badonse umculo wakho ozithandayo wobusha. Kodwa uma kunoma yisiphi isizathu umkhulu uhlala engashadile, abesifazane abahle kakhulu kufanele babe khona phakathi kwezivakashi, abakwazi ukwenza iqembu emdansheni kumuntu ovuthayo onamandla futhi ogcwele amandla. Uma umdanso womkhulu ngenxa yezizathu zeminyaka engasenakwenzeka, akufanele ushiye umqondo wokulalela umculo wakho owuthandayo - emva kwakho konke, mhlawumbe, umkhulu uzobukela ngokujabulisayo izingoma zomdanso wakhe osemusha ekudleni kwezingane zakhe nabazukulu bakhe.
Kunoma yikuphi ubudala, ukuhamba emvelweni kungcono empilweni, ngakho-ke esimeni esihle sezulu uzoletha injabulo ngokuvakashela emaphandleni. Kungaba i-dacha yangasese, ifa elihle noma i-hike yakudala ehlathini - konke kuxhomeke emandleni okuba umkhulu. Uma kukhona izingane ezincane emndenini, uyojabula ukubuka izindiza ezindiza esibhakabhakeni, futhi, mhlawumbe, uzohlanganyela kulo mcimbi.
Injabulo yendabuko kulabo asebekhulile yizinhlobonhlobo zemidlalo yebhodi. Kodwa-ke, ngisho nemidlalo evamile kakhulu ingahlotshiswa ngohlelo lokuncintisana ngemiklomelo kanye nezipho kwabawinile - ngakho iholide izobe isaphila, isebenza futhi ikhanya!
Uma umkhulu kakade unabantwana abazukulu noma abancane bomshana, into yokuqala yokumenywa kulo mkhosi ingeyabo. Abantu abakhulile bathanda izingane, futhi kubo akukho injabulo enkulu kunokuxhumana nabantwana. Ngokungafani nabazali, ugogo nomkhulu, abajwayele ukukhulisa izingane, akunakwenzeka kakhulu ukukhathala ngokumemeza okungapheli nokuzihambela izingane. Ngempela, konke lokhu kubanika injabulo!
Kulo mkhosi umkhulu kufanele abe ngumlingisi oyinhloko futhi kungenjalo umbukeli ohloniphekile. Ukuhlanganyela okusebenzayo kuphela kuzomletha umuzwa wenjabulo. Iholidi elinjalo lomkhulu lizokhunjulwa kuze kube phakade, futhi uzothola injabulo kulo!