Nsuku zonke ufika ekhaya uvela emsebenzini futhi, uvula umnyango wendlu yakho, uhamba ngezinhlobo zonke zezandla. Ngempela, njalo into efanayo: konke ukusabalala sekuzungezile, konke kuhlakazekile, yonke indawo ayikho inhlamba encane yothuli, futhi kusukela esitsheni esibheke kuzo izimbali ezimileyo, okwesikhathi esingeke sikwazi ukuphonswa ngaphandle kwendlu. Ngamagama, kungcono ukuthi ungaboni ndawo. Futhi awunamandla okwehla esihlalweni sobukhosi, lapho ubheka nxazonke ngaphandle kokubuka okuthakazelisayo ekamelweni lonke, uyaqaphela ukuthi udinga ukuqonda konke lokhu nakho konke. Kodwa, ngeshwa, lokhu konke kuphinda usuku nosuku futhi akulethi imiphumela. Lesi sithombe sokuphila sijwayele abesifazane abaningi abangakwazi ngisho nokuqonda ukuthi kungani kunjalo. Kodwa kuleso simo kufanele uqale hhayi ngezindlu zokuhlanza indlu, kodwa wena ngokwakho. Ake sizame ukuphendula umbuzo: "Ungaziqonda kanjani wena, uqonde lokho engikufunayo? ".
Uma ufuna i-oda eliphelele, qala ngokwakho
Uma ifulethi liyisimila, khumbula ukuthi kusho ukuthini emphefumulweni wakho okufanayo. Konke kuvela lapho. Ngakho-ke, baqonde futhi baqonde ukuthi kwenzekani, okokuqala, ngomphefumulo wakho. Lapha, nje wena nomhlaba wakho wangaphakathi sizoqala.
Ngokuvamile, silahlekelwa ukuthula kwengqondo ngenxa yokuphikisana nomuntu oseduze (umngane, isihlobo, indoda ethandekayo). Noma ngenxa yezimpikiswano ezihlukahlukene, zombili emsebenzini nasemndenini. Ngaphezu kwalokho, konke lapha, ungafaka ngokuphepha ukungazitholi njalo. Ngempela, ufuna ukushintsha konke, kodwa hhayi emandleni. Manje, ubheka konke okuqhubekayo ngokudelela, uhlale uzijezisa ngakho. Isiyaluyalu esikhwameni, ekhaya, kwideskithophu, nansi, isibonakaliso esiyinhloko esithi akufanele uzithande. Kodwa lapha, akukona ngawe nhlobo. Kumele uqonde ukuthi ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo nokungabi namandla okuziphatha, kuhlanganisa ukungabi nenyama, kuhlanganise, futhi. Ngakho-ke, ukubeka konke endaweni yayo, kufanele uziqonde ngokwakho futhi uziphendule umbuzo: "Ngiziqonda kanjani lokho engikufunayo ekuphileni kwami na? ". Ukuhlanza endlini akulutho neze, uma kuqhathaniswa nokuthola ukuvumelana kwangaphakathi ngokwakho.
Nika izikweletu zakho - futhi impilo izoba ngcono
Uma ungayinikezi umakhelwane wakho zingakapheli izinyanga ezimbili, ukhokhelwe ama-ruble angu-100, okulungile. Lapha nje udinga ukwabela umzuzu bese uletha kule mali. Kodwa zikhona izikweletu esizenzayo thina ngokwethu. Lezi zinkokhelo zinekhono lokukhuphula nokusicindezela ngokuziphatha ngaphakathi. Isibonelo sesikweletu esinjalo singaba, isibonelo, isifiso sakho sezinyanga ezimbalwa ukuvakashela isihlobo sakho esikude noma ushayele umngane wakho. Futhi, njengoba inhlanhla ingaba nayo, awukwazi nje ukunikeza isikhathi salolu bhizinisi. Kodwa balindele wena futhi bakulindele. Futhi awukaze uthole izizathu zokungenzi. Futhi ngendleleni, uma kwenzeka ubanjwa ngesikhumbuzi, nawe unesizathu esinjalo. Ucabanga, kodwa akuyiqiniso. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ikuluma kakhulu futhi ikuvumela ukuba uhlale unenkinga, ngoba uhlonipha futhi uyabathanda laba bantu, kodwa awukwazi ukushintsha noma yini, noma kunalokho awufuni nje. Futhi lapha ekuphileni komunye wethu, ngaphezu kwakho konke, kunezindawo lapho ngisho "izinyawo ngokwabo azihambi," kodwa, kubalulekile ukuhamba. Isibonelo, ihhovisi lesipasipoti noma isiteshi sezinsiza. Lezi zikhungo aziletha noma yiziphi izinyathelo zokuvakasha kusuka ekuvakasheni kwabo, kepha ukuhlehlisa lokhu kuhambela ekhoneni elikude akufanele neze. Uma kungenjalo, kungaletha izinkinga eziningi futhi kungakhathazeki esikhathini esizayo.
Okokuqala hlala phansi ucabange ukuthi kungani ungakwenzi lokho ekuqaleni. Uma kuyindaba yokuhlehliswa kwakho, hamba isimiso sosuku nosuku, kodwa uma ungafuni nje, thola ukuthi kungani ncamashi nokuthi kungani. Bese uzithathe ngokulawula ngqo.
Kodwa uma kwenzeka ukuthi ungafuni ngempela ukwenza into engeyona ebaluleke kakhulu, futhi lokhu "into" elula ukuze uthanda inqola, ngaleyo ndlela ibeke umthwalo wakho ekuhluphekeni, zama ukuqeda "imisila" enjalo. Khumbula, uma ungafuni ukwenza noma ukwenza okuthile, ungahambisani nentando yakho.
Ungashiyi kusasa okungenziwa namhlanje
Kukhona abantu abenza umsebenzi othile, njalo bewuletha ekugcineni. Abantu abanjalo, njengomthetho, abahlupheki kunembeza, futhi balele kakhulu kunabanye. Futhi kuthiwani uma ungabakho? Futhi lezi zindaba, njenge "ijoka entanyeni yakho" ukukufinyelela? Ngebhizinisi elinjalo "elingaqediwe" alijabuli kakhulu ukuhlala, bahlale bedonsa phansi, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, bathelela ngokuningi. Luhlobo luni lokuthula kwengqondo nokulinganisela okungaba khona jikelele?
Qinisekisa ukuthi uqede lonke leli bhizinisi, futhi ukhohlwe ngabo kanye nhlobo. Awufuni ukwenza-noma uzithole izizathu ezinhle zokufuna.
Ukuqonda lokho engikufunayo ngosizo lwecebo elakhiwe
Ngokuvamile, silahlekelwa ukulinganisela ngokomzwelo ngenxa yokungaqiniseki kwethu. Isibonelo, empilweni yomuntu ngamunye, kunezinhlu ezithile zamacala afakwe ngaphansi kwamakholomu amabili, isihloko esithi "kufanele" futhi "sifune." Lokhu kukucindezela okungaqiniseki kuwe, ngoba awukwazi ukuthola lokho okushiwo ngenombolo ethi "kufanele", kodwa ukuthi yini "ofuna". Kule nkinga, udinga ukudweba uhlelo oluningiliziwe oluzosiza ukukuqonda nokuqonda ukuthi yini oyifunayo, nokuthi yini okufanele yenziwe nakanjani. Vele uhlale phansi ucabange kahle. Khumbula ukuthi uma uqonde ngempela ukuthi yini oyifunayo, kuzokusiza ukuba usebenzise konke okudingayo. Phela, kuhlale kunokwenzeka ukufezekisa okufunwa kuphela ngokugcwaliseka kwanoma yini enye. Isibonelo, ufuna i-cosiness efulethini - udinga ukulungisa. Nakhu, umthetho oyisisekelo wokuvumelana phakathi phakathi kwezifiso zethu namathuba ethu. Ungayinaki lokhu futhi uyidlulise yedwa. Khumbula ukuthi umphefumulo ungaba ukhululekile, kuphela uma ukwazi ukwazi wena nokuthi yini oyilindele kuwe nokuphila ngokujwayelekile. Sifisa ukuba uziqonde ngempumelelo futhi usebenzise konke okufunayo "," ngaphandle kokuthi "Angikwazi"!