Ngamunye wethu uzwa isidingo sothando, ukuvikelwa, ukunakekelwa, ukuqonda, ububele, okungukuthi, lokho esikujwayele ukuthola kubazali bethu. Uma lokhu kungekho emndenini wabazali, khona-ke amathemba akhula ngisho nangaphezulu. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi emshadweni sidumala ngenxa yezifiso zabo ezikhulu kakhulu.
Okokuqala, sizoxoxa ngezinkinga ababhekene nabesifazane: bathambekele ekugxileni kakhulu emndenini futhi ngokujwayelekile ababandakanyekile ekuziphatheni komphakathi nezenhlalakahle. Enye yeziphambeko ezisemqoka futhi ezivame kakhulu ukulindela okuthandayo ukuthi uzokwazi ukugcwalisa impilo yakho ngencazelo. Abesifazane ngokwemvelo bathambekele ekuxhumaneni kwe-symbiosis (symbiosis - fusion). Bayalindela izingxoxo ezithandana isikhathi eside nabakhethiweyo babo. Kodwa lapha kungenzeka kube nokungahambisani. Isibonelo esivamile: umyeni usebenza kanzima ukuhlinzekela umndeni, futhi umfazi umatasa nomndeni. Lapho efika ekhaya kusihlwa, ekhathele, azizwa ethanda ukukhuluma. Futhi ulinde usuku lonke kulo mzuzwana ukuxoxa nomthandi wakhe. Unomphefumulo othakazelisayo, ulinde kuphela izenzakalo. Kukhona izikhalazo, futhi ngenxa yalokho, kancane kancane uzothola ukucasuka, futhi yena - abe nomqondo wokuntuleka kwayo.
Ungakugwema kanjani lezi zinkinga? Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi nguwe kuphela ongenza impilo yakho ibe nenjongo. Umuntu omdala angathola umsebenzi ozoletha ukwaneliseka. "Ukukhula" ngale ndlela akunakuphuza kakhulu. Khuluma izinhlelo zakho nezifiso zakho, ungabathinteli - unelungelo lokuzisebenzisa. Ungaya emsebenzini, ngisho nangesikhathi esithile, ukuze uqedele inkambo yangaphandle yezilimi noma uthole nje ukuzilibazisa ngokwakho ngokuthambekela kwakho. Lokhu kuzothuthukisa ukukhulumisana komndeni: uzotshela hhayi kuphela nge-trivia yasendlini, kodwa futhi mayelana nokuthola kwakho. Kungcono ukuthola umsebenzi ongahlanganisa bobabili. Lokhu kungaba isisekelo sokuxhumana okujulile, okujulile.
Enye iphutha elivamile yinkonzo yezihlobo, isifiso sokuzinikela impilo yabo kubo. Ngezinhloso ezinhle, abesifazane bavame ukunganaki izifiso zabo, bayeke imisebenzi yabo ephumelelayo. Konke lokhu kwakhiwe emlandweni wokuthi kuphela ngale ndlela ungaba umfazi nomama omuhle. Ngentshiseko enkulu, ngezinye izikhathi umphumela ohlukile ufezwa. Isibonelo, umama ugxila kakhulu kumntwana futhi uqale ukuphila kwakhe: kukho konke akusizayo, uyamjabulisa indodana noma indodakazi encane ekhulile kakade ukuba ingalimaza isikhathi sakhe, imithwalo yakhe, imikhuba yakhe. Ngenxa yalokho, umama onjalo uphakamisa umuntu omncane futhi ongobugovu. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo akaziqapheli ngokwakhe njengomuntu wokuqala, odala.
Noma uthathe esinye isibonelo - umfazi uzizinikela kumyeni wakhe. Uvele ehlule kuyo: ubheka ibhola e-TV, ngoba uthanda umyeni wakhe, upheka izitsha zakhe ezizithandayo kuphela, uthatha yonke imithwalo yemakhaya, ngisho nalapho ezwa kabi noma enakekela ingane. Ekuqaleni, isikhundla somfazi, umama, ozinikela ngokuphelele, uyathandwa izihlobo. Kodwa kungase kufike isikhathi lapho owesifazane onjalo engaba mnandi izingane futhi ikakhulukazi kumyeni wakhe. Ungalindela ukuthi uzohamba lapho efuna omunye owesifazane, okhanyayo, noma uzobona kuphela umkakhe njengenceku. Ukuvimbela lokhu kungenzeki, ungazishiyi. Njengoba kwathiwa emnandi inganekwane "Cinderella", kuyingozi kakhulu hhayi ukuya ibhola uma ufanelwe. Zisebenze ngokwakho, wandisa imingcele yezwe lomndeni wakho. Owesifazane othakazelisayo ngokwakhe, njengomthetho, uyathandeka kwabanye.
Ngezinye izikhathi izinkinga zethu zihlobene nokucabanga okungalungile ngokuphila komndeni. Ngokujwayelekile sithola njengefa elivela kubazali, ugogo nomkhulu. Futhi, ekwakheni umndeni wethu, sithatha nathi njengedayari. Izilungiselelo ziyizimiso ezithile esizibambelela kuzo, sikholelwa ukuthi yibo kuphela okuyiqiniso, nokuthi kunzima kakhulu ukuqeda, ngoba zivela ebuntwaneni. Yibo "abasitshela ukuthi ukwakhiwa nokugcinwa kobudlelwano obuphilile kufanele kuhlelwe kanjani ekuphileni kwethu. Izilungiselelo azikhulumi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngabazali, kodwa ziyabonakala yizingane ezibona kuphela le model of ubudlelwano bomshado. Ngisho noma singathandi lo modeli, sivame ukwakha uhlelo olufanayo lomndeni.
Isibonelo, owesifazane, ebukele ukuthi abazali bakhe baye kanjani eDacha njalo ngempelasonto, bakholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi kufanele benze okufanayo nomyeni wakhe. Akazange acabange ukuthi umyeni wakhe wayenesithakazelo esihluke ngokuphelele futhi wazi ukuthi uhambo oluya e-dacha njengobudlova, umzamo wenkululeko yakhe. Futhi wesaba lapho ethi: "Uma singathengisi i-dacha, ngifake isicelo sokuqhafaza." Noma, isibonelo, esinye isimo. Le ndoda yabona ukuthi unina angalondoloza kanjani imifino nezithelo njalo ngonyaka. Kuye, lokhu kwakuyisibonelo sokuziphatha komsizi womuntu ohlala kahle. Ucele okufanayo kumkakhe, ecabangela ikhono lokulima njengelinye lezimfanelo ezibaluleke kakhulu. Futhi umkakhe wayezonda ukukhanda. Uyakhumbula ukuthi umkhulu wakhe wayegqoka ugogo ezandleni zakhe, futhi wayekholelwa ukuthi umyeni wakhe kufanele aphathe ngendlela efanayo kuye. Yebo, mhlawumbe, ugogo wakhe wayenenhlanhla. Kodwa akubona bonke abantu abonisa imizwa yabo yethando kuleli fomu, abanye bamane nje abakwazi ukusho amazwi athandekayo.
Asiqapheli njalo ukuthi isifiso sokwakha umshado ngendlela esiyifunayo sixhunyaniswe nokufakwa okudinga ushintsho, ngaphandle kwalokho umndeni uzowa. Akuwona wonke ukufaka okubi. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi bafika ngokuphikisana ngokugcwele nezimo zengqondo zomlingani futhi bawavimbele ekuboneni ezinye izinketho zokuxazulula izinkinga, ngoba indlela yabo ibonakala iyona yodwa yeqiniso. Uma kwenzeka okufanayo emndenini wakho, cabanga ngalokho okukushayela khona. Cabanga ngakho ngokwakho noma ngesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukwakha ubuhlobo ngendlela ehlukile emndenini. Into ebaluleke kunazo zonke ukubona ukuthi yini efihlwe ngaphambili ekuqondeni kwakho.
Futhi ekugcineni, enye inkinga yinkinga yokuphila komndeni ohleliwe. Imizwa idonswa, intsha iyanyamalala, usuku ngalunye olulandelayo lufana nolunye odlule. Ngenkathi enjalo enesizotha, ekhona, kukhona ukuntuleka okunamandla kokubonakala okusha. Bonke babone ukubonakala okukhanyayo kuqinisa umshado. Zama ukuletha into entsha, engavamile empilweni yakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi amabhizinisi amasha nokuzilibazisa athathe wonke amalungu omndeni. Lokhu kuhlanganisa abazali nezingane, kwenza ubuhlobo babo buhle. Abashadile bawusizo ngezikhathi ezithile ukubuyela esikhathini sobudlelwane bomshado, ukuthandana, lapho ubuhle bezinto ezintsha bezwa futhi ukukhulumisana kwakungenakulinganiswa njalo. Khumbula: phakathi nalesi sikhathi nonke nicabanga ngendlela engcono yokuchitha isikhathi ndawonye. Kodwa-ke, emshadweni, ikakhulukazi uma ubude bokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kubalulekile, inhlangano yokuzibandakanya ngokuhlanganyela, njengokungathi, ivunyelwe ukusebenza. Kodwa akuyona into yokuthi impilo yomndeni ifaniswa ngokomlilo nomlilo, lapho kudingeka khona ukuphonsa "izinkuni" ngaso sonke isikhathi. Futhi omncane umlilo, kuyadingeka umzamo omkhulu ukuwugcina.
Uma kuwe, isithukuthezi kanye ne-monotony sekuyisongelo ebuhlotsheni bomndeni - beza nezinketho zomsebenzi ovamile othakazelisayo. Okungenzeki nje! Imidlalo lapho abantu abadala nabantwana abangadlala khona, amaholide omndeni anemincintiswano ehlukahlukene, i-candlelight dinner yothando, ukuhamba, ukugibela amahhashi kanye nokuqabula nge-parachute. Yiqiniso, lokhu kuyiphupho elingelona elibophezelayo, kodwa futhi liwusizo kakhulu, njengoba landisa ama-horizons empilo yomndeni bese iphoqa izinguquko kuyo. Ngakho-ke ungabi namahloni okuveza ingqondo yakho.
Vumela konke okushiwo kukusize ukuba usebenze "umsebenzi wakho emaphutha", ukwakha nokugcina ubudlelwane obuhle emndenini wakho. Okokugcina ithiphu elilodwa ngaphezulu: ungagcini okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kuwe. Ngokuvamile kuwo wonke umndeni kukhona "amathambo emakamelweni" - izinto ezingavunyelwe ukuxoxa ngezidingo ezingamanga zokulondoloza ukuthula nokuthula. Zama ukukhuluma ngezihloko ezinzima - yebo, ngendlela ehlakaniphile. Futhi khumbula: akukaze kube sekwephuzile kakhulu ukuqala umsebenzi ekuvuselelweni komndeni, into eyinhloko ukunquma nokusebenza.