Ungasho ukuthi bakubonile, cishe kungenzeka ukuthi abasoze bacabanga ukuthi ukhona, ukuthi uhlala nendodana yabo ethandekayo izinyanga ezimbalwa, ngisho neminyaka, ukulungiselela ukudla kwasekuseni, ukuwageza, ukuwahlanza nokubhekana nawo walala, futhi mhlawumbe akusilo. Kodwa awusoze wazizwa maduzane esikhwameni sakho, ukuthi yini, ukujwayela nabazali. Kuzizwa sengathi ukhona kumculi waseMelika. Kulokhu, kuncike kakhulu kumuntu. Umkhwenyana okufanele enze ingxoxo yokulungiselela, kokubili nomakoti kanye nabazali.
Phakathi nale ngxoxo, le ndoda kufanele itshele umakoti ukuthi azi kahle kanjani abazali bomyeni wakhe. Njengoba kubazali bakhe abazobe banakelela okhethiweyo wakhe. Kufanele utshele intombazane ukuthi umamazala wesikhathi esizayo kufanele aphathe powder ebusweni bakho, ubomvu obomvu ezindebeni nokunye. Uma uphahlaza ngokukhethiweyo wakho, khona-ke uzosinda futhi kungabi khona imihlatshelo. Esikhathini sethu, inkinga ephuthumayo kubazali yilezi: ngabe ngabe intombazane iyaphuza, iziphuzo, isebenzisa izidakamizwa, nomndeni omuhle, kanti abanye banomoya ofanayo. Indlela yokujwayela kahle abazali bomyeni kuyisihloko esiphakade sokuxoxisana. Okukhethwa kukho kungcono emndenini womndeni (wena, umkhwenyana nabazali bakhe). Ungakwazi futhi ukubhuka itafula esitolo sokudlela. Uma ufuna ukuzijabulisa. Kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu, yiziphi abazali abazozibuka. Futhi ikakhulukazi umkhwekazi wesikhathi esizayo, lezi ziyinkimbinkimbi. Kumele bakhokhele kakhulu ingxenye yakho.
Futhi ubuze iseluleko kumfana, mhlawumbe uyazi ukuthi unina unake kakhulu. Ngaphansi kwezintambo, kukhona lutho. Okokuqala, kusukela lapho uhlala khona, futhi uqedela ukuthi ngabe udla konke epulangwe, ngokucophelela udla, uphuze, ngayinye indlela yokukhuluma izintuthwane ekhanda lakho. Ngenxa yalokhu, akudingeki ukuthi uphakamise ukuklolodela nokumemeza (uma uthanda, okhethiweyo wakho), udinga ukukhuthazelela sonke isibindi nokugwinya. Esikhathini sethu asikho imithetho ecacile yokwenza abangane nomakoti. Kodwa kukhona ukuhlakanipha okunye okusho ukuthi bahlangana ngezingubo, bese bebuka engqondweni. Okubaluleke kakhulu kubazali bomkhwenyana ngombono wokuqala, kubalulekile ukuthi uyibambe ezingeni eliphakeme kakhulu, kodwa ngisho noma uhlulekile ukuhluleka ungakhathazeki. Emva kwakho konke, uma umfana ethanda, uzoya kukho konke, futhi abazali bazokuqinisekisa ukuthi ungcono kakhulu. Ezinsukwini zakudala kwakukhona izindlela eziningi ezahlukene, hhayi lezo zindlela, kodwa amasiko aphelele ahlobene nokujwayele. Umuntu oyinhloko kwakuyi-matchmaker, owafunda konke mayelana nentsha, okwenziwe nokunye okunjalo. Kodwa lezi zinsuku, ngeshwa, lezi zinsuku azisebenzi neze.
Ukukwazi nabazali bomyeni kuyisenzakalo esibaluleke kakhulu, ngoba umbono wabazali uxhomeke kulokhu, futhi lokhu kuwufanelekile ukuzama kancane. Ngabazali bomkhwenyana, ikakhulukazi nobaba wakhe, ungakwazi ukukhuluma kalula nganoma yisiphi isihloko (ukucubungula inkambo), buza ukuthi ubaba wakho uyathanda ibhola, iHockey, bakholelwa ukuthi ukuthembela kwakhe kufanele kube lula kunomama womyeni.
Ucabanga ukuthi ukuletha ulwazi lomuntu emaphashini, khona-ke uphutha kakhulu.
Yiba nomusa kubasha. Akuwona ngaso sonke isikhathi ukucabanga kokuqala kuyiqiniso. Futhi ngokujwayelekile, khumbula wena, bazali, ebusheni bakho. Uma ungathandi ngempela into, zama ukuxoxa ngendodana yakho, ngeso lengqondo, njengoba abantu bethi. Kodwa yenzani ngokucophelela. Ngalesi sikhathi, unethuba lokuthola ingane eyodwa, kodwa ungalahlekelwa eyodwa.