Sebenzisa kumbugs
Izazi zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuthi isipiliyoni esidabukisayo nezinkumbulo ezimbi zisisiza ukuba sifunde izifundo eziwusizo ekuphileni. Ngendlela ecacile siyichaza lezo zikhathi nezinkinga esake sasizibo futhi thina okufanele sizitshele. Ngakho-ke, okungcono kunazo zonke, sithola kuzo isipiliyoni nangesikhathi esizayo, ukuthi senze kanjani esimweni esifanayo.
Umqondo wethu ngokwethu uhlelwe emibhalweni yethu. Yingakho kubalulekile ukukhumbula izinto ezimbi, kodwa futhi kudingeka ulahle ukuhlushwa okuletha izinkumbulo ezingathandeki. Kodwa ungabenza kanjani ubuhlungu kangaka futhi ube umcimbi ongathathi hlangothi, lapho singeke sithinte khona isikhathi eside?
Imemori emibili
Umuntu ngamunye unezinkumbulo ezimbili. Enye imemori i-autobiographical, kanti enye inolwazi-inkumbulo. Imemori-ulwazi igcina ulwazi olungasibangeli imizwelo. Isibonelo, kabili kabili lilingana nezine, inhloko-dolobha yase-Ukraine yiKiev, kanti i-Volga igeleza kuLwandle lwaseCaspian. Ngememori yomuntu, ngokuphambene nalokho, zonke lezo zenzakalo ezihlotshaniswa nokuzihlola kwethu, okuhlangenwe nakho, njalonjalo zibekiwe. Ngakho-ke, ukhohlwa ngesimo esingathandeki se-nepoluchitsya, kodwa ungashintsha izinkumbulo zakho kusuka kumemori owodwa uye kwenye futhi uzame ukuzenza zingathathi hlangothi.
Sonke siphutha. Kodwa ngesikhathi esilandelayo uzokhumbula isipiliyoni esidlule esingalungile futhi ungavumeli ukuphindaphinda kwalesi simo. Ngendlela efanayo, uzobe ulungele ukuziphatha nangokomzwelo kulokho, ngakho-ke, ungakhathazeki kakhulu uma kwenzeka ukwehluleka okuphindaphindiwe.
Ukuze ukhohlwe, uvame ukukhumbula
- Buyisela izikhathi ezingathandeki ekhanda lakho. Khona-ke ngolwesihlanu, ukuphindaphinda kweshumi noma kweshumi nambili, imizwelo yakho iyothathwa indawo yize. Ukubona okubuhlungu kuyoshiya, futhi ngenxa yalokho kuyoba khona iqiniso kuphela: "Yebo, yebo, kwenzeka ...".
- Uma unombono ocebile, futhi unolwazi oluhle ngalolu daba, ke ucabange izenzakalo ofuna ukuyikhohlwa noma ukulahla imemori esithombeni esicacile. Uma ubheka isikhathi eside ngokwengqondo, bazoqala ukuguquka bese beyeka ukubonakala bebucayi kangaka.
- Hlela izimo ezingathandeki. Lokhu kuhle kakhulu ngepensela kanye nephepha. Lapho sicabanga kabusha ngesimo, siyaqonda ngokucacile ukuthi asikwazanga ukuguqula ngaso sonke isikhathi kube ngcono, ngokwenza ngokuhlukile. Mhlawumbe, kungenxa yalokho okwenzile kanye kanye okwenzekile ncamashi okufanele kube namuhla. Kumele uqaphele ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukuthi umcimbi awusalungiswa. Uma lokhu kuqondwa futhi kwamukelwa, khona-ke iphutha elibulalayo lizophenduka iqiniso elingathathi hlangothi, futhi izinkumbulo zalo ziyokuvimbela ukuhlukumeza.
Izazi zengqondo zithi indlela enjalo yokubona ukuguqulwa okungenzeka kwezenzakalo esimweni esithile kwenza kube lula ukuzwa ukukhululeka esikhathini. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuzokukusindisa ekucindezelekeni okufihliwe nolwazi.
I-Untent Letter
Ukuze ususe ngokushesha ukucindezeleka kwengqondo, ungasebenzisa indlela elandelayo yengqondo. Bhala incwadi. Lokhu kuzosiza ukunciphisa imibala engokomzwelo yezinkumbulo ezingathandeki. Incwadi inganikezelwa wena noma umonile wakho. Into esemqoka ukuchaza konke okukukhathazayo ngemininingwane encane kakhulu. Awudingi ukuyithumela. Into eyinhloko ukuthi ngesikhathi sokubhala ulwazi lwethu luzosivumela ukuba sicabangisise okwenzekile. Kunezimiso eziningana okufanele zicatshangelwe uma ubhala incwadi:
- Qinisekisa ukuthi uqala incwadi yakho ngokubonga kumoni. Ngiyabonga ngolwazi olutholile futhi ubhale ukuthi yisiphi isifundo esiwusizo ongasifunda kusuka esimweni samanje.
- Khona-ke kufanele uvume iqiniso lokuthi kwenzekani: "Yebo, kwenzekile. Ngacasulwa, nginikelwa, ngishiywe njalo njalo. " "Yebo, ngonile, ngesaba, ngishiye ...".
- Kuphela emva kwakho konke okushiwo ngenhla ungaqala ukubhala imizwelo. Chaza ngokuningiliziwe, konke okukuzwayo, konke okukhiphayo. Ungazibeka icala futhi uzisole encwadini: "Ngizizondayo ngenxa ...", "Ngilungele ukukuphuca izicucu ...". Lokhu konke kufanele kube yingxenye enkulu yokubhala kwakho.
- Ingxenye yokugcina yale ncwadi kufanele ibe yilapho uzochaza khona ukuthi impilo yakho ishintshile kanjani. Ungakhohlwa ukubhala mayelana nokuthi ungayishintsha kanjani nangemva kwesikhathi esithile sesikhathi: inyanga, unyaka, amabili ...
Uma ungacabanga ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi ungashintsha kanjani impilo yakho eminyakeni embalwa, bese uhlangabezane nomsebenzi. Ngakho-ke, wena uyoqeda zonke izinkumbulo ezingathandeki.
Imidlalo enezizathu
Ngezinye izikhathi izinto ezihlangenwe nakho ziqinile kakhulu, futhi abantu abakwazi ukubhekana nazo ngokwabo. Kulokhu, isazi sengqondo sizosiza ukuqonda, ukuvuselela kabusha nokuphila konke lokhu. Namuhla, kunezindlela ezihlukahlukene zokusebenza nabantu abaye babhekana nosizi. Lokhu kungaba yi-arthropathy, ukwelashwa komzimba, umdlavuza wezemidlalo (ovamile phakathi kwezingane), indlela yokubhekana nokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu ngokuhamba kwamehlo we-psychologist waseMelika uDkt. Shapiro.
Khumbula ukuthi abantu abaye babhekana nokuhlukumezeka abakwazi ukufakwa emzimbeni futhi baphoqelelwe ukuba baphumule ngokusebenzisa amasu okuphumula. Lokhu kungenza ngcono isimo. Kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi kumuntu ngamunye udinga ukubheka indlela yakho nendlela yokwelapha. Yiziphi ezinye ezingaba inkathazo elula, kanti kwabanye kungaba ukulimala kwangempela.
Kunezimo lapho kubonakala ngathi sikwazi ukuphinda sithole. Kukhona nezinye lapho singenakukwazi ukuzisiza thina. Kodwa singaqonda kanjani ukuthi sidinga usizo lobuchwepheshe? Kulula:
- Uma utshela abanye ngezinkinga zakho, kodwa akukwenze kube lula ngawe, kodwa kubi nakakhulu, bese uthintana nesazi sezengqondo. Uma imizwelo yakho ikucindezela kakhulu, uyazisola ukuthola abanye.
- Uma wena nxazonke ukhumbuza isimo esingathandeki. Ngeke ube ngezikhathi ezinjalo, ungazihlukanisi nomphakathi futhi ungavale kuwe. Njengokuba kubi, phuma uye emgwaqweni, uxhumane nabantu, uye emagcekeni IKINO. Ngakho uzothola ngokushesha.
- Uma uzothatha isikhathi sonke ngokucindezeleka kokuziphatha, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuyoba nomthelela wonke umzimba. Uzoqala ukuzizwa unobuthakathaka emzimbeni, emisipha, ungaba nobuhlungu emhlane noma emuva. Ukungaboni kahle, ukucasula, ukungezwani kuvela esimweni esibuhlungu esingapheliyo. Isimo esinjalo asikhuthazwa ukuba siphathwe ngemithi. Eqinisweni, amaphilisi angeke akusize ukhohlwe ukuthi kwenzekani, azokusiza ukuthi uphumule okwesikhashana. Ngakho-ke, uma izimpawu ezinjalo zivela, udokotela kufanele ahambe ngokushesha.
Futhi ekugcineni
Ekuphileni, kunenkinga enkulu. Futhi asikwazi ukushintsha lokhu. Konke esingakwenza nje ukufunda ukuqonda izinto ezithile futhi wamukele umqondo wokuthi ngeke ubuyele. Awukwazi ukuzihlukumeza ngenhlanhla, ngeke usithinte kuphela isimiso sezinzwa, kodwa futhi nempilo yakho. Ukucindezeleka kuyimbangela yezifo eziningi ezimbi: isifo senhliziyo, isifo se-thyroid, i-pancreatic kanye ne-oncology. Ngenhlanhla, namuhla umuntu angasebenzisa usizo lwabahlengikazi kanye nemithi . Lokhu kuzosisiza ukuba sibhekane nanoma yikuphi, ngisho nesimo esinzima kakhulu. Zizinakekele, amantombazane amancane, futhi uhlale uhle futhi unempilo.