Ukuhlaziya indlela yakho, ukwehluleka kwakho nempumelelo yakho, umuntu ngokuzumayo uthola ukuthi, ngokubonakala kwakhe okwakusungulwe kahle futhi okuphumelelayo, ubuntu bakhe abuphelele. Kubonakala sengathi isikhathi sichithwa, lokho okuncane kakhulu kwenziwa uma kuqhathaniswa nalokho okwakungenziwa. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuhlaziywa okuthile kwamagugu kwenzeka, umuntu uhlaziya ngokucacile "I" lakhe. Umuntu uthola ukuthi izinto eziningi ekuphileni azikwazi ukuguqulwa. Awukwazi ukuguqula wena: ukufundisa, ukuguqula umsebenzi, ushintshe indlela yakho yokuphila evamile. Inkinga ye-thirties njalo ihamba nayo isidingo esiphuthumayo sokwenza okuthile. Kubonisa ukuguquka komuntu kuya ezingeni leminyaka elisha - isiteji sokudala.
Iyini inkinga yeminyaka engamashumi amathathu?
Eqinisweni, inkinga yeminyaka engamashumi amathathu emadodeni nakwabesifazane - umqondo onemibandela kakhulu. Lesi simo singafika kancane kancane noma ngemuva kwesikhashana, senzeke izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa, nezimpikiswano zesikhashana.
Amadoda ngalesi sikhathi avame ukushintsha indawo yabo yomsebenzi noma ukuguqula indlela yabo yokuphila, kodwa ukugxila kwabo emisebenzini nasemisebenzini kuhlale kungashintshi. Isisusa esivame kakhulu sokushintsha indawo yakudala yomsebenzi ukunganeliseki okunamandla ngento endaweni evamile - umholo, isimo, ukuqina kwesimiso.
Abesifazane ngesikhathi sezinkinga zeminyaka engamashumi amathathu bavame ukushintsha izinto ezibalulekile abazibeka zona ekuqaleni kokukhula kwabo. Abesifazane, ababegxile emishadweni nasekuzalweni kwezingane, manje bakhangwa kakhulu emigomweni yobuchwepheshe. Labo abanikeze amandla onke ekuthuthukiseni kwabo futhi umsebenzi uqale ukuwahola esifubeni somndeni.
Ukubhekana nokuhlupheka okunjalo kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu, umuntu udinga ukuqinisa i-niche yakhe empilweni emisha omdala, isiqinisekiso esicacile sesimo sakhe njengomuntu obanjwe. Ufuna ukuba nomsebenzi omuhle, uzama ukuzinza nokuphepha. Umuntu usaqiniseka ukuthi angakwazi ukuqonda ngokugcwele amaphupho akhe namaphupho, futhi uzama ukwenza konke okukulo.
I-acuity kanye nomdlalo we-experiencing crisis kungaba okuhlukile. Kuxhomeke ekuziphatheni komuntu. Lokhu kungase kube nomuzwa wokungahambi kahle ngaphakathi, kuhambisane nenqubo eguquguqukayo yokushintsha. Kungaba yisibonakaliso esiphezulu, esibucayi kakhulu ngezinkanuko ezinkulu, okuyinto ngezinye izikhathi eziholela ekuqhekekeni okubucayi kobuhlobo obudlule. Inhlekelele enjalo ihambisana nemizwa ejulile, yebo iholela ezifweni zomzimba. Izifo ezivame kakhulu kule nkathi ziwukucindezeleka, ukuleleka, ukukhathala okungapheli, ukwanda kokukhathazeka, ukwesaba okungafani nokuhlukumezeka. Ukulungiswa okulula kwalolu daba kuncike ekutheni umuntu angakwazi kanjani ukuxazulula izinkinga zakhe zokuthuthukiswa.
Umehluko phakathi kwenhlekelele yesilisa nowesifazane
Ngalesi simo esibucayi, bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane badlulisela ngesilinganiso esifanayo, izimpawu zabo zishintshwa kuphela. I-psychology yamadoda iqondiswa kakhulu ekuqinisekiseni emsebenzini. Ngokuvamile insimu ekhethiwe yomsebenzi ihluke kakhulu kulokho okuyoholela empilweni yokuphumelela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukukhumbula iminyaka engu-30 yalowo muntu kufana nokushintsha kwemibono futhi ngokwayo kunombuzo wokuzikhethela - ingabe ngiyavumelana nalezi zinhloso, ngingubani okwamanje futhi ngizozama yini esikhathini esizayo?
Emva kweminyaka engama-30, abesifazane baphinde bacabange indima yabo yomphakathi. Abesifazane, okwakuyiminyaka emincane ababegxile emshadweni, ukuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwezingane, manje sebehlanganyela ekufezeni imigomo yobuchwepheshe. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, labo ababesebenza nje kuphela emsebenzini, ngokusemthethweni, zama ukudala umndeni ngokushesha futhi ubelethe izingane.
Ukuzethemba ngokweqile nokuqonda ukufaneleka komuntu siqu, kanye nokusungulwa kwezimangalo ezifanele ngokusekelwe ekuhlangenwe nakho komuntu, kunika umuntu umuzwa wokwaneliseka. Abantu abasakholelwa ngokwabo ngokuzimela, kodwa bazikhethele bona: "Impumelelo yami eqhubekayo ihlobene ngokuqondile nomzamo wokuzikhandla engikuthandayo ukwenza lokhu." Ukubamba isikhathi sakho samahhala, ukuzilibazisa okuthandayo kukuvumela ukuba uqaphele konke okusemandleni omuntu ekuphileni. Ukuhamba ngesigamu esingenakugwemeka sokugubha iminyaka engu-30 kuvumela umuntu ukuba ashintshe impilo yakhe ngokuzumayo futhi enhle, ukuze abeke imigomo ecacile nezinto eziza kuqala esikhathini esizayo. Iminyaka engamashumi amathathu yikhuli lokuvuthwa, ubuhle bomuntu. Lesi yisikhathi lapho ukulungiswa kwemigomo yokuphila nemigomo kwenza kube lula ukwenza ngisho nezinhlelo zokuzikhandla kakhulu.
Izinkinga zengqondo nezomzimba
Izici ezingokwemvelo zalesi sikhathi (ngokwemisebenzi yazo zonke izinhlelo zomzimba) zihlobene ngokuqondile nesimo sengqondo. Ngokwemvelo, iningi labesifazane abaneminyaka engamashumi amathathu (cishe ngo-65%), ukushayela ucansi kufinyelela ekuthuthukisweni okugcwele. Kule nqanaba, kuzoba sekuyiminyaka engaba ngu-60. Yiqiniso, kwamanye abesifazane kukhona ukwehla okukhulu kwesifiso, ikakhulukazi eminyakeni engama-40. Kodwa emadodeni, isidingo sokuphila ngokobulili sezinga eliphezulu kakhulu sifinyelela eminyakeni engu-25-30. Khona-ke kukhona ukwehla kancane kancane. Yingakho abafazi abaningi befika eminyakeni engama-30 bekhalaza ukuthi abayeni babo basuke bekhuthele kakhulu, baze bahlukumezekile embhedeni, futhi emva kweminyaka engama-30 bavame ukukhononda ngokungahambisani kahle ngokobulili kwabayeni babo.
Ngaphandle, abantu abadala, abantu abaneminyaka engamashumi amathathu ubudala abavela endaweni yokubukeka bezinto zokuphila basakhula. Ngezindawo zabo zemvelo, zingabhekwa njengentsha, ngaphandle kokukwazi ngakho. Ngakho-ke, abantu abasha abaye badala umndeni phakathi kweminyaka engama-30-35, abalindele nje kuphela ukuqala komndeni, kodwa futhi kunenkinga ngokubunjwa kwayo. Kule minyaka yobudala ukuthi izingxabano ezivame ukwedlula ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu zibonakala.