Ingabe kukhona ubungane phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane?

Abantu abaningi bazibuza ukuthi kunobungane phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. Uyazi ukuthi kungani sizibuza lo mbuzo? Ngoba asikwazi ukuqonda thina ngokwethu uhlobo luni lomzwelo, ubungane noma uthando?

Abantu abaningi bayakwazi ukuphikisana nokufakazela ukuthi phakathi kwabo kukhona ubungane kuphela futhi bakholelwa ukuthi kukhona khona. Futhi ukuthi ukufisa komunye nomunye kwenzeka kuphela ngoba, ngaphandle kwesihawu, akukho okukuxhuma kubo. Njengoba sonke siyazi, thina besifazane sinobuthakathaka futhi sinesibindi futhi njalo sidinga ukusekelwa nokusekelwa kwehlombe eliqinile. Singaba kanjani umngane womuntu, uma umthetho omkhulu wobungane usisekela, singamsekela kanjani umuntu esingamhloniphi uyise obomndeni nomvikeli?

Futhi, indoda ayikwazi ukuba umngane womuntu wesifazane, ngoba noma kunjalo ubona owesifazane kuye, ehlola idatha yangaphandle, uzizwa ezwa iphunga. Kunoma yikuphi, owesifazane owesilisa uyinto ephathelene nobulili. Futhi uma owesifazane enedatha enhle yangaphandle, izilwane zasendle zivela kumuntu futhi owesifazane uba yisisulu sakhe. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama kanjani ukucindezela le mizwa kuye futhi azibonakalise ukuthi kwakukhona ubungane phakathi kwabo, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi konke bekuyohluka ngokuphelele.

Ake sithi waba umngane nomuntu. Ubuhlobo bakho obuhle bungenacala ngokuphelele. Kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho iseluleko siqala, futhi uqala ukukhathazeka omunye nomunye, uzithola ulele embhedeni owodwa naye. Ngokuvamile kungenzeka ngesikhathi obi ngaso kokubili. Uvame ukwakha lapho konke okubi kuye futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kunenkinga kuye, wahlukana nomfazi wakhe othandekayo. Kulo mzuzwana baqondana njengabanye. Baqala ukutshela ukuthi bebuhlungu kangakanani enhliziyweni nasemphefumulweni. Ngemva kokunquma ukuya ebhajini bese uphuza ndawonye, ​​ukuze kube lula engqondweni yabo. Khona-ke, ngemuva kwebha, indoda, njengoba umngane ehlongoza ukuchitha intombi yakhe, leyo mbhikisho ayinayo nhlobo. Khona-ke, lapho lo muntu efika nawe emnyango, uyamgijimela ngezinyembezi ezandleni zakho bese uthi ungathandi ukuhlala wedwa namuhla. Indoda ekholelwa ukuthi unobungane nje uvumelana nokuba nekhofi nawe futhi ikusekele ngesikhathi esilukhuni. Uphuza ikhofi ndawonye bese ulala. Ngokuvamile kaningi embhedeni owodwa, ngoba ucabanga ukuthi phakathi kwakho akukho lutho kodwa ubungane. Kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho uzwa ukuthinta kwesandla sakhe, kulo mzuzu usuvele usuqede wonke ubungane futhi udle isithelo esenqatshelwe. Yilokho konke ukuthuthukiswa kobuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane.

Ngesinye isikhathi, omunye wenu, kubonakala sengathi emva kwalokhu, ubuhlobo bakho buzoqina. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuthi ubungane obuphenduka uthando luyaqhubeka, futhi kwenzeka nakwehlukile. Ebudlelwaneni obuseduze, siqala ukubona emuntwini lokho okungakaze kuqaphele ngaphambili futhi ubungane kulokhu buvame ukuphela.

Ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane kuyindlela engavamile yobudlelwane. Futhi kungaba nobuhlobo obunjalo isikhathi eside kuphela uma bethandana. Noma kunezithiyo ezingenakunqotshwa ezibavimbela ukuba bangabathandi. Futhi futhi kungaba nobuhlobo phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane, lapho omunye wezinhlangothi enesifiso esinamandla somlingani noma umlingani wakhe, kodwa ubona ukuthi enye ingxenye ayifuni.

Kusukela ebusweni kumbhede, phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane kuyisinyathelo esisodwa kuphela. Ekuqaleni, ubuhlobo obunobungane bubonakala bungenacala ngokuphelele, kodwa kungalindelekile kumunye wabalingani, lezi zinsuku ziphenduka isiteji sothando. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi sithande umuntu ongeyena nje kuphela njengabangane noma izintombi, kodwa ngenxa yokwesaba ukunqatshwa, samukela imigomo yobungane. Ukuza eduze ngangokunokwenzeka engxenyeni yethu yesibili futhi kuseduze. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lezi zinsuku zivezwe futhi zihambe othandweni noma zibe sekhefu elivamile. Ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane ngeke kube nje, lokhu kuyi-axiom evamile futhi kuboniswe isipiliyoni sempilo.

Sithemba ukuthi siphendule umbuzo wakho, ingabe ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda noma owesifazane? Futhi ungakholelwa lapho bekutshela ukuthi abangane ababili kuphela baxhunyaniswa nobulili obuhlukile. Ngaphansi kobudlelwane babo, kukhona okunye okufihlekile, into owaziyo nje.